....you are actually saying that individuals were forced against their will into a "marriage". ...
... it's not according to the bible!
Yes, absolutely. One of the earliest instances of this in the O.T. was the story of Onan. Onan didn't want to follow the custom/law of marrying one's brother's wife if his brother became deceased. Or maybe it was the having sex with her portion of the deal. So he wanked it instead. Then, Yahweh murdered him by lightning according to the biblical text. In fact, the whole story of Onan is so fucked up that I might as well include the whole chapter. It contains arranged marriages, prostitution, and Yahweh being a dick. Genesis 38 (NIV):
1. At that time, Judah left his brothers and went down to stay with a man of Adullam named Hirah. 2 There Judah met the daughter of a Canaanite man named Shua. He married her and made love to her; 3 she became pregnant and gave birth to a son, who was named Er. 4 She conceived again and gave birth to a son and named him Onan. 5 She gave birth to still another son and named him Shelah. It was at Kezib that she gave birth to him.
6 Judah got a wife for Er, his firstborn, and her name was Tamar. 7 But Er, Judah’s firstborn, was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death.
8 Then Judah said to Onan, “Sleep with your brother’s wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother.” 9 But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother’s wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother. 10 What he did was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death also.
11 Judah then said to his daughter-in-law Tamar, “Live as a widow in your father’s household until my son Shelah grows up.” For he thought, “He may die too, just like his brothers.” So Tamar went to live in her father’s household.
12 After a long time Judah’s wife, the daughter of Shua, died. When Judah had recovered from his grief, he went up to Timnah, to the men who were shearing his sheep, and his friend Hirah the Adullamite went with him.
13 When Tamar was told, “Your father-in-law is on his way to Timnah to shear his sheep,” 14 she took off her widow’s clothes, covered herself with a veil to disguise herself, and then sat down at the entrance to Enaim, which is on the road to Timnah. For she saw that, though Shelah had now grown up, she had not been given to him as his wife.
15 When Judah saw her, he thought she was a prostitute, for she had covered her face. 16 Not realizing that she was his daughter-in-law, he went over to her by the roadside and said, “Come now, let me sleep with you.”
“And what will you give me to sleep with you?” she asked.
17 “I’ll send you a young goat from my flock,” he said.
“Will you give me something as a pledge until you send it?” she asked.
18 He said, “What pledge should I give you?”
“Your seal and its cord, and the staff in your hand,” she answered. So he gave them to her and slept with her, and she became pregnant by him. 19 After she left, she took off her veil and put on her widow’s clothes again.
20 Meanwhile Judah sent the young goat by his friend the Adullamite in order to get his pledge back from the woman, but he did not find her. 21 He asked the men who lived there, “Where is the shrine prostitute who was beside the road at Enaim?”
“There hasn’t been any shrine prostitute here,” they said.
22 So he went back to Judah and said, “I didn’t find her. Besides, the men who lived there said, ‘There hasn’t been any shrine prostitute here.’”
23 Then Judah said, “Let her keep what she has, or we will become a laughingstock. After all, I did send her this young goat, but you didn’t find her.”
24 About three months later Judah was told, “Your daughter-in-law Tamar is guilty of prostitution, and as a result she is now pregnant.”
Judah said, “Bring her out and have her burned to death!”
25 As she was being brought out, she sent a message to her father-in-law. “I am pregnant by the man who owns these,” she said. And she added, “See if you recognize whose seal and cord and staff these are.”
26 Judah recognized them and said, “She is more righteous than I, since I wouldn’t give her to my son Shelah.” And he did not sleep with her again.
27 When the time came for her to give birth, there were twin boys in her womb. 28 As she was giving birth, one of them put out his hand; so the midwife took a scarlet thread and tied it on his wrist and said, “This one came out first.” 29 But when he drew back his hand, his brother came out, and she said, “So this is how you have broken out!” And he was named Perez.[a] 30 Then his brother, who had the scarlet thread on his wrist, came out. And he was named Zerah.
Some of the other early forceful marriages are implicit because we have to consider gay people and their treatment by O.T. laws and Yahweh. Stoning gay people to death...the mass murder of Sodom and Gomorrah. The other option was to let gay people live their happy lives with each other and to marry if they so chose. Even now, Christian denominations force gay people away from marrying someone whom they love by excluding gay marriage. In some places in the US there is a lot of Christian pressure to re-enact sodomy laws. In other Christian regions in the world, there are sodomy laws which are very punishable. This isn't an atheist interpretation. These are facts.
Leviticus 20:13: "If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them."
So far as heterosexual marriage, arranged marriages were the norm, not the exception. So it is very odd to express a contrarian view to this history. Arranged marriages continued for centuries and are even some times done today. In biblical texts, this is often seen as an exchange of property one way or the other: from the bride's father to the new family, i.e. a dowry; or as a payment from the prospective groom to the bride's father. One of many example texts discussing such things follows.
Exodus 21:7-11:
7 “When a man sells his daughter as a slave, she shall not go out as the male slaves do. 8 If she does not please her master, who has designated her for himself, then he shall let her be redeemed. He shall have no right to sell her to a foreign people, since he has broken faith with her. 9 If he designates her for his son, he shall deal with her as with a daughter. 10 If he takes another wife to himself, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, or her marital rights. 11 And if he does not do these three things for her, she shall go out for nothing, without payment of money.
There is a lot of apologetics for this crap at the link, but none of it is excusable. Historical context is not an excuse for making piss-poor laws by an all-powerful entity. Likewise, war, famine, poverty are not excuses for slavery or otherwise, we'd be making those same excuses today, which we do not do. Today, we discuss human rights and debate over them which is an upgrade from those ancient times and their mythological texts.
