Yeah, if she knew it at the time why didn't she stop it? And after the fact how do you prove it was on purpose?
There's two women who he had sex with on multiple occasions. Not all of those times was without condom. But there are two aggravating situations:
One was when he had sex with one of them (let's call her Girl A) when she was asleep. She woke up during sex. This wouldn't have been a problem if it wasn't for the fact that she then realized that he wasn't wearing a condom. At that point she terminated the sex. I think this is the point when she told him to get the fuck out of her apartment. A part of this rape charge has to do with him refusing to leave her apartment. I'm not sure exactly how that transpired. But he had to be forced somehow. Either way he overstayed his welcome.
With the other girl (Girl B) he claimed that the condom broke during sex. She didn't notice until afterwards. This only happened once and they had sex on multiple occasions with condoms.
Girl B has been described as a total Assange groupie. And totally infatuated with him. Girl A has described herself as having been seduced by him. Their story is that she offered Assange to stay at her place when he first visited Sweden. Since she would be out of town during that period, and wouldn't be using her apartment. She didn't know Assange other than via reputation. Assange was originally only intended to hold a talk in Sweden at this political organisation (both Girl A and B) both were members of. But Assange liked Sweden so much that he stayed longer than intended. Mostly for business reasons. Ie moving the Wikileaks servers to Sweden. Girl A offered Assange to keep staying in her apartment even though she now would be home in Stockholm. During this period he seduced her. During this time he also seduced Girl B. Who he moved in with after getting kicked out of Girl A's apartment.
A part of this is the fact that Girl A thought that Assange was exclusive with her. When she found out that he wasn't she also got very angry, adding to the feeling of being raped. Infidelity isn't illegal in Sweden. So I'm not sure why that is part of the story. But there you have it. Girl A contacted Girl B. They shared stories and decided to go to the police. It should be pointed out that Girl B never felt raped. She did however express a concern that she might have been infected by an STD.
So that's the whole sordid story.
I have no problem with it being a crime (consenting to sex with a condom isn't the same as consenting to sex without a condom, although it should be a lesser offense than rape) if it can be proven, I just have big doubts about proving it.
Wilfully spreading STD's does fall under the same category as rape according to Swedish law. It counts as a kind of sexual assault. That's the only reason this has at all been labelled as a rape. But since he didn't have an STD and none of the girls were infected with anything it no longer falls under the rape category.