Meh. It's in the definition of "hero" The archetype, the idealized version, are those that place principles above their own selfish agendas. Those that are willing to sacrifice their own gain in the interest of the greater good represent an incredibly powerful symbol of what we would most like to see ourselves.
Compromise of desires in the interest of collaborative progress isn't the same as compromise of ones values for personal gain.
But the hero only appears to compromise his desires. He always gets the girl in the end.
That's why 'incels' are a thing. They grew up with the certainty that the hero is entitled to marry the princess. They are the hero of their own narrative (as are we all); So their failure to attract a princess must indicate a problem with the world, and not a problem with themselves. And as any action hero can show you, obstacles to obtaining your inevitable and justly deserved rewards are best overcome with extreme violence.
I think you might be using your own personal definition of the hero archetype, rather then the literary or psychological one.
I am using the word 'hero' in its conversational sense. That's not my own personal definition, but it's also surely not any particular literary or psychological definition.
This is a brief post on an Internet discussion board, not an academic paper.
The hero gets the girl, because those who are willing to sacrifice petty wants for the greater good are more valued, and hence are rewarded. The girl loves the hero because he was willing to sacrifice his own desires for the safety and protection of others - and he is genuinely willing to do so, it isn't a ruse. Incels aren't sacrificing their petty wants, they're venerating their petty wants.
Absolutely. But they don't understand that, largely because they are fucking morons.
Also, "Action Heroes" are frequently more akin to Warrior or Adventurer archetypes than the classical Hero archetype. Being willing to fight for what is right is a common theme, and definitely is part of the Hero archetype... but mythological heroes are just as likely to overcome challenges through the application of intelligence or cleverness than by violence. Superman is a good synthesis of the two - he is willing to fight when it's necessary to do so in order to protect others and uphold the common good... but not as a first resort.
Again, this is all well and good, but far too complex for most people to bother with.
The question was why don't people understand the need for compromise; And the answer is that they are too dumb to grasp the subtleties in popular culture, and oversimplify the narrative to 'compromise is bad'.
Superman will do anything - even resort to violence - to avoid compromising his commitment to truth, justice, and the American way. His reward is Lois Lane.
Some sad basement dweller tries to emulate this by never ever compromising his commitment to me, me, and me; And is livid that Lois isn't throwing herself at him.
He's an idiot. He doesn't grasp the difference between the two situations. He just sees any compromise of his 'principles' as unacceptable.
Political compromise is essential to any non-totalitarian state. But it is unacceptable to idiots, brought up to believe that there is a sharp line between good and evil, and that you should never under any circumstances allow the bad guys to win.
Indeed, you can spot a shallow thinker a mile off, by his characterisation of people as either 'good guys' or 'bad guys'. Real people are always a mixture of both, but that's far too complex a concept for many people.