Came across this article and found it interesting.
https://www.vox.com/identities/2016/11/15/13595508/racism-research-study-trump
I find it even more interesting that the researcher is more concerned with them not talking about race than about this fragile woman who apparently was having a heart attack, possibly because somebody tried to call her racist and undercut her sense of self worth as a good person. That's worth caring about too. You CAN do both (keep reading...)
This is bang on and absolutely the way to go.
This is also an excellent idea.
Another idea is to focus not on or against a particular group, but on prejudice and bigotry itself. How and why it happens, admitting it can happen in any of us (and not making claims anyone is immune) how to see it in ourselves, etc.
At the end of the day the answer is empathy (Seeing yourself in others). The trick is forming that empathy with the people that are being otherized, and to do that, we shouldn't be otherizing more people. As soon as you create any sort of personalized connection between bigot and an individual target, the bigotry will start to melt away. It can even be an imagined or remote connection, so long as you make them feel that they have in common what matters. Want to do the opposite? Depersonalize, take away names and any personal information they could have in common, make them been seen as unrelateable, and bam, bigotry will come against them.
https://www.vox.com/identities/2016/11/15/13595508/racism-research-study-trump
The first thing to understand is how white Americans, especially in rural areas, hear accusations of racism. While terms like “racist,” “white privilege,” and “implicit bias” intend to point out systemic biases in America, for white Americans they’re often seen as coded slurs. These terms don’t signal to them that they’re doing something wrong, but that their supposedly racist attitudes (which they would deny having at all) are a justification for lawmakers and other elites to ignore their problems.
So when they hear accusations of racism, they feel like what they see as the “real” issues — those that afflict them — are getting neglected. This, obviously, makes it difficult to raise issues of race at all with big segments of the population, because they’re often suspicious of the motives.
DiAngelo offered a telling example, from an anti-racism training session she facilitated:
One of the white participants left the session and went back to her desk, upset at receiving (what appeared to the training team as) sensitive and diplomatic feedback on how some of her statements had impacted several people of color in the room. At break, several other white participants approached us (the trainers) and reported that they had talked to the woman at her desk, and she was very upset that her statements had been challenged. They wanted to alert us to the fact that she literally “might be having a heart-attack.” Upon questioning from us, they clarified that they meant this literally. These co-workers were sincere in their fear that the young woman might actually physically die as a result of the feedback. Of course, when news of the woman’s potentially fatal condition reached the rest of the participant group, all attention was immediately focused back onto her and away from the impact she had had on the people of color.
This illustrates just how defensive people can get in the face of accusations of racism: Not only did the woman who faced the criticisms genuinely feel like she was having a heart attack, but the white people around her believed it was totally possible she was. This is the reality of trying to have a conversation about race in America.
I find it even more interesting that the researcher is more concerned with them not talking about race than about this fragile woman who apparently was having a heart attack, possibly because somebody tried to call her racist and undercut her sense of self worth as a good person. That's worth caring about too. You CAN do both (keep reading...)
As one example, consider an actual conversation from the study, as reported by Brian Resnick for Vox:
In the beginning of their conversation, Virginia asks Gustavo how likely he'd be to support transgender rights legislation. Gustavo says he wouldn't support it because he's worried about predatory men using the law as an opportunity to enter women's bathrooms.
Virginia asks why he feels that way.
"I'm from South America, and in South America we don't like fags," he tells her.
This next moment is crucial: Virginia doesn't jump on Gustavo for the slur, and instead says, "I'm gay," in a friendly manner. Gustavo doesn't recoil. Actually, he becomes more interested.
Gustavo and Virginia go on to discuss how much they love their partners, and how that love helps them overcome adversity. Gustavo tells Virginia that his wife is a disabled person. "God gave me the ability to love a disabled person," he says, and that taking care of one another is why love matters.
"That resonate a lots with me," Virginia responds. "For me, these laws, and including transgender people are about that. They're about how we treat one another."
Now that Gustavo is in a place where he's more open, Virginia asks him to imagine what the worst thing could happen if he used a bathroom with a transgender person. He admits he wouldn't be scared. Then comes the breakthrough.
"Listen, probably I was mistaken," he says of his original position on trans rights.
Virginia asks him again if he'd vote in favor of banning transgender discrimination. "In favor," he says.
Hochschild shared similar stories in her book. In one example, a woman tells Hochschild about her love for conservative commentator Rush Limbaugh because he stood up to people — feminists, environmentalists, and other liberals — that she felt belittled her and her lifestyle. As the woman explained, “Oh, liberals think that Bible-believing Southerners are ignorant, backward, rednecks, losers. They think we’re racist, sexist, homophobic, and maybe fat.” She felt that these accusations overlooked many of the problems that rural white Americans faced — growing up poor, struggling to get a better education, and so on.
Because Hochschild, who’s liberal, didn’t immediately dismiss the woman’s comments and insult her, the two managed to have a frank conversation to reach a better understanding of each other. And the two continued talking as Hochschild wrote her book. From one simple exchange of empathy, it was possible to have more frank conversations.
“You can turn your political alarm system off without jeopardizing who you are and what you believe,” Hochschild told me. “And you can learn something about the person at the other end of the conversation that’s going to be of profound importance.”
This is bang on and absolutely the way to go.
One approach is to pursue certain policies in a race-neutral manner. For example, equipping police with body cameras has become a prominent idea in response to the police shootings of black men over the past few years. But the inherent idea behind body cameras doesn’t have to be racial — it can just be about generally holding police accountable, no matter whom they’re interacting with. And indeed, polls have found that support for body cameras on police officers in general hovers above 90 percent.
This is also an excellent idea.
Another idea is to focus not on or against a particular group, but on prejudice and bigotry itself. How and why it happens, admitting it can happen in any of us (and not making claims anyone is immune) how to see it in ourselves, etc.
At the end of the day the answer is empathy (Seeing yourself in others). The trick is forming that empathy with the people that are being otherized, and to do that, we shouldn't be otherizing more people. As soon as you create any sort of personalized connection between bigot and an individual target, the bigotry will start to melt away. It can even be an imagined or remote connection, so long as you make them feel that they have in common what matters. Want to do the opposite? Depersonalize, take away names and any personal information they could have in common, make them been seen as unrelateable, and bam, bigotry will come against them.