Perhaps you meant post #19
I see it as a shame when someone stops competing to be the greatest at something.
Regards
DL
Perhaps that is because you like feeling like you’re a failure if you’re not the best.
Perhaps you like making yourself abandon something fun and lovely because you’re not the best.
If your marriage is not “the best,” perhaps you talk yourself into leaving it.
If your children are not “the best,” perhaps you shun them and tell them they are disappointments.
If you are not the best at painting, you never paint again.
Perhaps if you are not the best musician, you chop up your piano for firewood.
And you see it as “a shame” that I love my children so very much - exactly as they are.
You see it as a shame that I spend a day creating a watercolor painting that is very fun to do, but not something I would hang up.
You see it as a shame that I train for and run a half marathon that I cannot win, training in a beautiful countryside and finishing last to cheers and high fives.
You see it as a shame for a family to go disc-golfing together, when they are all terrible at it, laughing together at all our bad throws.
So much judgment, so little heart. I’ll turn and walk away from that negativity.