I was reading the "Humans of New York" entries today about the man who is gay but cannot tell his parents. Backstory includes the suicide of a brother and his efforts to keep his parents going after it, then having difficulty finding relationships with men - keeps falling for straight guys. Followed by his mother expressing intolerance of a gay pda and his feeling he can't tell her he is gay.
Lots of commenters say, "tell your mother; she loves you more than anything!"
and I keep thinking this is kind of naive. It's just not true. Just because she's a mother does NOT mean she loves him more than anything. It does NOT mean she will one day accept his homosexuality. It does NOT guarantee a happy ending.
Although, my personal take would be yes, go ahead and tell her, and she might freak out. But you'd probably be more at peace with being yourself out loud and her freakout than you are keeping yourself a secret to prevent her freakout.
I dunno. the responses just seemed so pat, so formulaic. Just come out to your parents and they will come around, promise.
I just don't buy it.
Lots of commenters say, "tell your mother; she loves you more than anything!"
and I keep thinking this is kind of naive. It's just not true. Just because she's a mother does NOT mean she loves him more than anything. It does NOT mean she will one day accept his homosexuality. It does NOT guarantee a happy ending.
Although, my personal take would be yes, go ahead and tell her, and she might freak out. But you'd probably be more at peace with being yourself out loud and her freakout than you are keeping yourself a secret to prevent her freakout.
I dunno. the responses just seemed so pat, so formulaic. Just come out to your parents and they will come around, promise.
I just don't buy it.