Hubby was due for a new vehicle and ended up ordering his with the options he wanted. It cost more than we had hoped to spend but it's a good quality vehicle and is hybrid, which made it attractive. I think it took about a month or so to arrive (hadn't been built yet). The dealership of his first choice (different make) couldn't even get us something to test drive so I dragged hubby to the place where I got mine and he decided to go for that. I honestly thought he'd just opt for the used one sitting on the lot but used cars are not the bargain they used to be at least in our area. He decided for that kind of money, he'd rather have just what he wanted.
It sounds like you have a good idea of what you'd like to get, so I wouldn't waste time obsessing over which is the 'best' choice. It's a car. My sister has driven a RAV4 for years and loves it. If you are certain of what you want, you can always talk to your dealer and ask them to be on the lookout for you. Or to place an order for you. I think dealerships are being rationed as far as how many of what kind of vehicles they can even access months down the line.