ruby sparks
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One of my deep-seated fears is public speaking. I think it's not uncommon at all to have such a fear. I've hated it all my life and I've generally avoided doing it where possible. I'm now thinking of doing something about it, either by going to classes or by seeking out real life situations in which to do it. But it scares the bejebus out of me. On the other hand, it annoys me greatly that I'm hiding from it.
I also have other deep-seated fears, about not being liked for example, and in some ways I feel that some of these other fears are related to the OP fear.
I think on the whole I am and have always been quite an insecure person. That said, I don't think I'm crippled by my insecurities. I've coped quite well, and I've successfully confronted some of my fears and insecurities. And I'm much less insecure, in at least a few ways, than I used to be. But this one is still there.
There was a time early in my career that I dreaded either chairing or speaking up at around-a-table work meetings, but I'm mostly over that, having done it quite a few times. I reckon I could handle being a teacher in a classroom too, even if it were adults in the class. I've coached basketball teams, and still do, and that's ok.
The sort of situations that I dread are giving speeches, at a wedding for instance, or at an anniversary party or something. The expectation of being witty seems to be especially scary. I think I could give a talk on a 'dry' or boring subject, if I felt I knew enough about it, without too much difficulty, though I'd still be nervous beforehand. But feeling that I'm expected to be witty as well is almost a sort of curse.
Does anyone else have this fear of public speaking? Or did you once have it but you've overcome it? Perhaps you found that you just had to do it, as part of a job, for instance, and that while it was difficult at first, you became inured to it.
Or, possibly, is/was there some similar public/social fear or phobia that you have or had that you are either avoiding, coping with, tackling or overcame?
I also have other deep-seated fears, about not being liked for example, and in some ways I feel that some of these other fears are related to the OP fear.
I think on the whole I am and have always been quite an insecure person. That said, I don't think I'm crippled by my insecurities. I've coped quite well, and I've successfully confronted some of my fears and insecurities. And I'm much less insecure, in at least a few ways, than I used to be. But this one is still there.
There was a time early in my career that I dreaded either chairing or speaking up at around-a-table work meetings, but I'm mostly over that, having done it quite a few times. I reckon I could handle being a teacher in a classroom too, even if it were adults in the class. I've coached basketball teams, and still do, and that's ok.
The sort of situations that I dread are giving speeches, at a wedding for instance, or at an anniversary party or something. The expectation of being witty seems to be especially scary. I think I could give a talk on a 'dry' or boring subject, if I felt I knew enough about it, without too much difficulty, though I'd still be nervous beforehand. But feeling that I'm expected to be witty as well is almost a sort of curse.
Does anyone else have this fear of public speaking? Or did you once have it but you've overcome it? Perhaps you found that you just had to do it, as part of a job, for instance, and that while it was difficult at first, you became inured to it.
Or, possibly, is/was there some similar public/social fear or phobia that you have or had that you are either avoiding, coping with, tackling or overcame?
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