DON'T ASK, DON'T TELL makes the most sense.
Should a Jewish baker be required to provide a cake to a Neo-Nazi birthday party for Adolf Hitler?
I know, right? Since what these lesbians are trying to impose upon bakers is exactly like what the Nazis did to the Jews!
OK, another analogy:
How about a birthday cake for
Mao Tse Tung? Mao murdered many more millions of humans than Hitler did. So, should an anti-communist baker be required to provide a birthday cake for a Mao Tse-Tung birthday party?
To be consistent, you must say this also may be refused. The baker is allowed to discriminate against any group that is celebrating a person who committed horrible crimes. Or, how about a birthday party for
Alexander the Great, who is mostly honored today, but who, if he had lived in the 20th century, probably would have murdered 10 times as many as Mao?
How about
Fidel Castro? who murdered a much smaller number?
How many humans had to be murdered before the murderer in question is not entitled to a birthday to be celebrated by someone who wants to buy a birthday cake?
How about a birthday cake for
Christopher Columbus who murdered some native Americans? Aren't there still some Italian-Americans who are proud of the great "Discoverer of America"?
Should a native Hispaniolan descendant from survivors of the Holocaust in the West Indies be allowed to run a bakery and refuse service to the local Italians who want to celebrate Columbus with a birthday cake?
Does it depend on the RACE of the baker -- if he's of native Hispaniolan descent, he's entitled to refuse service, but not if he's Spanish or Anglo? If the latter, he has to provide the cake, with the lettering praising Columbus for discovering America?
How about some Iraqis wanting to commemorate
Saddam Hussein? Or how about a birthday party for
Junipero Serra, who is condemned for having been cruel to native Americans, and yet is being considered for sainthood? Should a native American baker be required to provide a birthday cake for some local Catholics wanting to commemorate the great missionary who imposed slavery onto his ancestors?
How about some Southerners who want to celebrate
Robert E. Lee? or
Jefferson Davis? May an African-American baker refuse service to them, whereas other bakers would be required to provide a birthday cake? It depends on your race whether you are required to provide service?
Would an atheist baker be required to provide a cake for a
Billy Graham birthday party? With slogans about believing in Jesus and with prayers to God to stop the atheists from kicking God out of the schools? or with a nativity scene that the atheist baker finds offensive? You would force that baker to provide that birthday cake and put a nativity scene on it? little chocolate shepherds, etc.? and a shining candy STAR shining down from above?
So the state will dictate how "offensive" is too offensive and impose guidelines onto vendors dictating to them when they must violate their conscience, if the state says it's not extreme enough, and when they are free to act in accord with their belief? How can we trust the state, or the court, or the local police, to decide when vendors may and may not act according to their belief?
Isn't it better to leave it up to each vendor? So that when customers disclose what use will be made of the product, the vendor then is free to refuse service? And customers may buy the product without giving that information to the seller.