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FYI for our fellow politickers:
A gender field has been added to user profiles to denote pronouns if you wish to use it.

Add the pronouns you’d like to be used, “He/Him” or “They/Them” or “She/Her” so that people can remember what you use.

For those who don’t care - leave it blank. But for those who wish folks would use something particular, there it is.
Click on your name at the top right and go to “account details” then scroll down to gender.

And thanks to TomC for the suggestion.
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?

Asking for a friend...
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Generally, I am rooted in both ancient Epicurean and ancient Pyrrhonist sentiments, although I am somewhat sympathetic toward the intentions behind ancient Cynicism.
FYI for our fellow politickers:
A gender field has been added to user profiles to denote pronouns if you wish to use it.

Add the pronouns you’d like to be used, “He/Him” or “They/Them” or “She/Her” so that people can remember what you use.

For those who don’t care - leave it blank. But for those who wish folks would use something particular, there it is.
Click on your name at the top right and go to “account details” then scroll down to gender.

And thanks to TomC for the suggestion.
Informal: sie/hir
Formal: she/her

The informal version is like a nickname. It's like calling somebody "Cat Daddy" or "Method Man," but instead of an informal nickname, it's an informal pronoun that sort of highlights the individual character of the person you are calling by it. As for how that applies to me, well...think...you know me. I mean I am not exactly secretive about my weirdness. That is what it's referring to, that and nothing more.

For formal/office use, she/her will do.
 

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FYI for our fellow politickers:
A gender field has been added to user profiles to denote pronouns if you wish to use it.

Add the pronouns you’d like to be used, “He/Him” or “They/Them” or “She/Her” so that people can remember what you use.

Are the above sets of pronouns the only pronouns available, or are they just an illustration/example?

For those who don’t care - leave it blank. But for those who wish folks would use something particular, there it is.
Click on your name at the top right and go to “account details” then scroll down to gender.

And thanks to TomC for the suggestion.

If somebody puts suggested pronouns in that field, are moderators going to enforce use of the pronouns? I am unclear on the rules of this new policy and the 'Terms and rules' link on the bottom right does not talk about pronoun usage.
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?
Is "faggot" a gender?
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?
Is "faggot" a gender?
I suspect not. Neither is "insufferable cunt", because whilst that describes some people accurately, it doesn't explain gender.

Just stay inside, mate. The outside world is clearly too terrifying for you.
 

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If somebody puts suggested pronouns in that field, are moderators going to enforce use of the pronouns? I am unclear on the rules of this new policy and the 'Terms and rules' link on the bottom right does not talk about pronoun usage.
I am also interested in the answer to this question. Does iidb actually have guidelines for acceptable posting, aside from what is at that link? If so, where can they be found, and could we make them easier to find?
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?
Is "faggot" a gender?
I suspect not. Neither is "insufferable cunt", because whilst that describes some people accurately, it doesn't explain gender.

That only throws up further questions for me. If TomC, or I, or someone else, puts 'faggot' in their gender field, is that a violation of the spirit of the 'gender' field, and how are moderators going to be able to tell? Or is the gender field absolute self-identity?

For example, ZiprHead already has 'Old Fart' in his gender field. I believe some people would find that an offensive mockery of the idea of gender identity.

Just stay inside, mate. The outside world is clearly too terrifying for you.

I am not terrified by the world.
 

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For example, ZiprHead already has 'Old Fart' in his gender field. I believe some people would find that an offensive mockery of the idea of gender identity.
Given the arguments you have raised in the past on similar subjects, I'm certain you are currently arguing in bad faith. Good luck with that.

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I totally believe you.
 

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For example, ZiprHead already has 'Old Fart' in his gender field. I believe some people would find that an offensive mockery of the idea of gender identity.
Given the arguments you have raised in the past on similar subjects, I'm certain you are currently arguing in bad faith. Good luck with that.

I am not making any arguments. I stated a belief - that putting 'old fart' in a gender field would be regarded as an offensive mockery of the idea of gender/gender identity.

If I put 'old fart' or 'faggot' or 'fuck off' in the gender field, or if I put he/him/his or she/they/theirs or beep/bop/boop as my pronouns, would that be accepted by the administrators/moderators, and is the policy to enforce self-selected pronouns?

These are real questions. If we are agreeing to participate in a discussion, we must also be told the terms of engagement.
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Okay.
 

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For example, ZiprHead already has 'Old Fart' in his gender field. I believe some people would find that an offensive mockery of the idea of gender identity.
Look at you, worrying about offensive gender descriptions. A sign of growth on your part?
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?
Is "faggot" a gender?
No. It's gender+

I have a very gendered screen name. Anybody sufficiently familiar with the language spoken on IIDB to communicate will know that much about me.

That's not true of all posters. You and Ziprhead have so much in common.

Adding "faggot" would just be strong evidence that I'm also gay, really out, and kinda mouthy without much regard for decorum.

It would be for posters who aren't so familiar with me. Just a sort of heads up.
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For example, ZiprHead already has 'Old Fart' in his gender field. I believe some people would find that an offensive mockery of the idea of gender identity.
Look at you, worrying about offensive gender descriptions. A sign of growth on your part?
It is an enquiry. What does iidb mean by its 'gender' field, and what are the rules around its use? If somebody has pronouns in their gender field, must they be obeyed with moderator enforcement? Or will enforcement be selective?
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?
Is "faggot" a gender?
No. It's gender+

I have a very gendered screen name. Anybody sufficiently familiar with the language spoken on IIDB to communicate will know that much about me.

That's not true of all posters. You and Ziprhead have so much in common.

Adding "faggot" would just be strong evidence that I'm also gay, really out, and kinda mouthy without much regard for decorum.

It seems to me that that belongs in a 'sexual orientation' field, not a 'gender' field. But then, perhaps that's because I know what I and most people mean by sexual orientation, but I don't know what iidb means, or shall decide to mean, by 'gender'.

I am trying to get clarity around this field and whether iidb has introduced new rules of engagement.
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?
Is "faggot" a gender?
No. It's gender+

I have a very gendered screen name. Anybody sufficiently familiar with the language spoken on IIDB to communicate will know that much about me.

That's not true of all posters. You and Ziprhead have so much in common.

Adding "faggot" would just be strong evidence that I'm also gay, really out, and kinda mouthy without much regard for decorum.

It seems to me that that belongs in a 'sexual orientation' field, not a 'gender' field. But then, perhaps that's because I know what I and most people mean by sexual orientation, but I don't know what iidb means, or shall decide to mean, by 'gender'.

I am trying to get clarity around this field and whether iidb has introduced new rules of engagement.

Honestly, when I made the suggestion, I didn't expect it to become a venue for performance art.

I've been on many forums where one of the little symbols by your screen name was the male symbol, the female symbol, a combination symbol, or none. It made it easier to be polite is all. I don't recall ever seeing gendering weaponized before IIDB/TFT.
Tom
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?
Is "faggot" a gender?
No. It's gender+

I have a very gendered screen name. Anybody sufficiently familiar with the language spoken on IIDB to communicate will know that much about me.

That's not true of all posters. You and Ziprhead have so much in common.

Adding "faggot" would just be strong evidence that I'm also gay, really out, and kinda mouthy without much regard for decorum.

It seems to me that that belongs in a 'sexual orientation' field, not a 'gender' field. But then, perhaps that's because I know what I and most people mean by sexual orientation, but I don't know what iidb means, or shall decide to mean, by 'gender'.

I am trying to get clarity around this field and whether iidb has introduced new rules of engagement.

Honestly, when I made the suggestion, I didn't expect it to become a venue for performance art.

I don't mean it to be performance art. I mean I have been sanctioned by iidb for violating terms of use before, even though I do not believe I violated them as they were explained to me.

I can't find the 'terms of use' for the board (was it displayed only when I signed up, in 2007??)

If the ToU are somewhere, can a moderator please link to them?
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?
Is "faggot" a gender?
No. It's gender+

I have a very gendered screen name. Anybody sufficiently familiar with the language spoken on IIDB to communicate will know that much about me.

That's not true of all posters. You and Ziprhead have so much in common.

Adding "faggot" would just be strong evidence that I'm also gay, really out, and kinda mouthy without much regard for decorum.

It seems to me that that belongs in a 'sexual orientation' field, not a 'gender' field. But then, perhaps that's because I know what I and most people mean by sexual orientation, but I don't know what iidb means, or shall decide to mean, by 'gender'.

I am trying to get clarity around this field and whether iidb has introduced new rules of engagement.

Honestly, when I made the suggestion, I didn't expect it to become a venue for performance art.

I don't mean it to be performance art. I mean I have been sanctioned by iidb for violating terms of use before, even though I do not believe I violated them as they were explained to me.

I can't find the 'terms of use' for the board (was it displayed only when I signed up, in 2007??)

If the ToU are somewhere, can a moderator please link to them?
If you look at the menu at the bottom of the page, there is Terms and rules link.
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?
Is "faggot" a gender?
No. It's gender+

I have a very gendered screen name. Anybody sufficiently familiar with the language spoken on IIDB to communicate will know that much about me.

That's not true of all posters. You and Ziprhead have so much in common.

Adding "faggot" would just be strong evidence that I'm also gay, really out, and kinda mouthy without much regard for decorum.

It seems to me that that belongs in a 'sexual orientation' field, not a 'gender' field. But then, perhaps that's because I know what I and most people mean by sexual orientation, but I don't know what iidb means, or shall decide to mean, by 'gender'.

I am trying to get clarity around this field and whether iidb has introduced new rules of engagement.

Honestly, when I made the suggestion, I didn't expect it to become a venue for performance art.

I don't mean it to be performance art. I mean I have been sanctioned by iidb for violating terms of use before, even though I do not believe I violated them as they were explained to me.

I can't find the 'terms of use' for the board (was it displayed only when I signed up, in 2007??)

If the ToU are somewhere, can a moderator please link to them?
If you look at the menu at the bottom of the page, there is Terms and rules link.
I referred to that link above. The terms and rules displayed there are completely silent on the 'terms of use' violations I have seen threads shut down for and for violations I have been personally sanctioned for. The terms there say, in full:

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A thread (that I did not participate in) was recently closed by a moderator because of 'accusations of lying' - but accusations of lying is not in the rules above. I don't want to get into too many details, because it's discussing moderation (which is also apparently against the rules, but is not in the above terms of use either).

I am really and seriously and sincerely trying to understand what iidb expects in general and from this new 'gender' field in particular.
 

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If you want clarification for moderation you could either:

1) Act like an obtuse pedantic prick, the type of person who would argue ad nauseum so much in a D&D run people start forgetting to invite him/her/they for future games (also known as "acting like a Rimmer" or "acting like Major Burns")
or
2) Query the mods in private

I'm sure there are a plethora of nuanced variations which I am ignoring but which approach do you think is more productive?
 

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If you want clarification for moderation you could either:

1) Act like an obtuse pedantic prick, the type of person who would argue ad nauseum so much in a D&D run people start forgetting to invite him/her/they for future games (also known as "acting like a Rimmer" or "acting like Major Burns")

or
2) Query the mods in private

I'm sure there are a plethora of nuanced variations which I am ignoring but which approach do you think is more productive?

I don't know. I haven't yet taken either approach so I don't know which would produce (faster) results.

However, since the mods started a thread about this new feature, it seems to me the most logical place to field queries is within the thread they started.

(Also: I am the exact opposite of a D&D rules-Nazi as a player or DM, but I do respect that a DM, in fact, sets the rules. The rules can be whatever they want, but they should be knowable. There should be natural justice, even in a world where the bosses have legendary actions).
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?
Is "faggot" a gender?
No. It's gender+

I have a very gendered screen name. Anybody sufficiently familiar with the language spoken on IIDB to communicate will know that much about me.

That's not true of all posters. You and Ziprhead have so much in common.

Adding "faggot" would just be strong evidence that I'm also gay, really out, and kinda mouthy without much regard for decorum.

It seems to me that that belongs in a 'sexual orientation' field, not a 'gender' field. But then, perhaps that's because I know what I and most people mean by sexual orientation, but I don't know what iidb means, or shall decide to mean, by 'gender'.

I am trying to get clarity around this field and whether iidb has introduced new rules of engagement.

Honestly, when I made the suggestion, I didn't expect it to become a venue for performance art.

I don't mean it to be performance art. I mean I have been sanctioned by iidb for violating terms of use before, even though I do not believe I violated them as they were explained to me.

I can't find the 'terms of use' for the board (was it displayed only when I signed up, in 2007??)

If the ToU are somewhere, can a moderator please link to them?
If you look at the menu at the bottom of the page, there is Terms and rules link.
Which says nothing about this policy...
 

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If you want clarification for moderation you could either:

1) Act like an obtuse pedantic prick, the type of person who would argue ad nauseum so much in a D&D run people start forgetting to invite him/her/they for future games (also known as "acting like a Rimmer" or "acting like Major Burns")
or
2) Query the mods in private

I'm sure there are a plethora of nuanced variations which I am ignoring but which approach do you think is more productive?
I don't really see why having a published set of moderation policies would be such a problem. Most fora have them. If you're going to enforce rules, it's only reasonable to make them available for posters to read. Wouldn't it make less work for our volunteer moderators if PMing them weren't the only way to find out what the forum rules are?
 

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If you want clarification for moderation you could either:

1) Act like an obtuse pedantic prick, the type of person who would argue ad nauseum so much in a D&D run people start forgetting to invite him/her/they for future games (also known as "acting like a Rimmer" or "acting like Major Burns")
or
2) Query the mods in private

I'm sure there are a plethora of nuanced variations which I am ignoring but which approach do you think is more productive?
I don't really see why having a published set of moderation policies would be such a problem. Most fora have them. If you're going to enforce rules, it's only reasonable to make them available for posters to read. Wouldn't it make less work for our volunteer moderators if PMing them weren't the only way to find out what the forum rules are?
I dare say there is very little Politesse and I agree on, but I couldn't agree more with this. It is--dare I say--Kafkaesque to have a set of rules that the site owner and moderators have decided upon but then not let the users know what they are.
 

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Which says nothing about this policy...
Honestly, I think that your gender is kind of like the place where you say you are from. If you want to say you are from "The Milky Way Galaxy" or "The Middle of Nowhere," then that suits me down to the ground. If you want to say that your gender is "dragon" or "dragoness," then that suits me just fine. It is so hard to be offensive with this purely by accident that it literally defies belief.
 

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FYI for our fellow politickers:
A gender field has been added to user profiles to denote pronouns if you wish to use it.

Add the pronouns you’d like to be used, “He/Him” or “They/Them” or “She/Her” so that people can remember what you use.

Are the above sets of pronouns the only pronouns available, or are they just an illustration/example?

For those who don’t care - leave it blank. But for those who wish folks would use something particular, there it is.
Click on your name at the top right and go to “account details” then scroll down to gender.

And thanks to TomC for the suggestion.

If somebody puts suggested pronouns in that field, are moderators going to enforce use of the pronouns? I am unclear on the rules of this new policy and the 'Terms and rules' link on the bottom right does not talk about pronoun usage.

Is there nothing you can't suck the joy out of? What new policy? It's not that serious.

Just go into your account details and write whatever you want or not.

By the way, the terms and rules link just goes to some Xenforo boilerplate text. It's not IIDB's or TFT's crafted rules. I found this out recently because I had an issue with moderation and they referenced some rule here that I never heard of and I went to look for the rules and only found that one page too. But I did find their old rules at the web archive. It didn't have that alleged rule. 🕵️‍♀️

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Just let Metaphor use the word faggot if Metaphor wants to. I don't see any harm in us referring to Metaphor as faggot if that's what Metaphor wants. :)
 

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FYI for our fellow politickers:
A gender field has been added to user profiles to denote pronouns if you wish to use it.

Add the pronouns you’d like to be used, “He/Him” or “They/Them” or “She/Her” so that people can remember what you use.

Are the above sets of pronouns the only pronouns available, or are they just an illustration/example?

For those who don’t care - leave it blank. But for those who wish folks would use something particular, there it is.
Click on your name at the top right and go to “account details” then scroll down to gender.

And thanks to TomC for the suggestion.

If somebody puts suggested pronouns in that field, are moderators going to enforce use of the pronouns? I am unclear on the rules of this new policy and the 'Terms and rules' link on the bottom right does not talk about pronoun usage.

Is there nothing you can't suck the joy out of?

Henry Cavill didn't return my calls.
What new policy?
I don't know. Is there a new policy? That's what I'm enquiring about. I have been given demerit points for viloating a policy I did not know I was violating, and in fact the post for which I got the reprimand I had gone out of my way to not violate the policy as I understood it. I want to know the rules of engagement.

You know what sucks the joy out of something? Being subject to a policy which you don't know the terms of and which may be enforced selectively, especially since you don't know the terms and there is no appeal.

It's not that serious.

How do you know? This board has a reprimand system and people have been permanently banned, presumably for violating policies.

Just go into your account details and write whatever you want.

By the way, the terms and rules link just goes to some Xenforo boilerplate text. It's not IIDB's or TFT's crafted rules. I found this out recently because I had an issue with moderation and they referenced some rule here that I never heard of and I went to look for the rules and only found that one page too. But I did find their old rules at the web archive. It didn't have that alleged rule. 🕵️‍♀️

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So, you agree with me that the rules should be made available, but you use your post to attack me instead?

Moderators: Can we please have terms of use made available to the users, including policies on 'gender' discussion?
 

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So, you agree with me that the rules should be made available, but you use your post to attack me instead?

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Moderators: Can we please have terms of use made available to the users, including policies on 'gender' discussion?

Psst, ixnay on the addingyay oremay ulesray alktay.
 

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Yeah, those linguistics would be far too advanced. My fault, knowing you already had trouble with plain English. Lo siento.
 

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So... does the forum have rules or not?
If you want clarification for moderation you could either:

1) Act like an obtuse pedantic prick, the type of person who would argue ad nauseum so much in a D&D run people start forgetting to invite him/her/they for future games (also known as "acting like a Rimmer" or "acting like Major Burns")
or
2) Query the mods in private

I'm sure there are a plethora of nuanced variations which I am ignoring but which approach do you think is more productive?
I don't really see why having a published set of moderation policies would be such a problem. Most fora have them. If you're going to enforce rules, it's only reasonable to make them available for posters to read. Wouldn't it make less work for our volunteer moderators if PMing them weren't the only way to find out what the forum rules are?
I dare say there is very little Politesse and I agree on, but I couldn't agree more with this. It is--dare I say--Kafkaesque to have a set of rules that the site owner and moderators have decided upon but then not let the users know what they are.
Kafkaesque seems a bit dramatic. But if the forum does, in fact, have rules, it would be interesting and perhaps productive to able to read them. This is not the only policy I'm curious about, though it is the only one I've ever been censured for. If I know that a rule exists, I will generally endeavor to follow it; I'm prickly, not antinomian.
 

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Yeah, those linguistics would be far too advanced. My fault, knowing you already had trouble with plain English. Lo siento.
But not sorry enough to explain yourself?

EDIT: Your post didn't do both, and I did not ask for the site to add more rules.
 

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FYI for our fellow politickers:
A gender field has been added to user profiles to denote pronouns if you wish to use it.

Add the pronouns you’d like to be used, “He/Him” or “They/Them” or “She/Her” so that people can remember what you use.

Are the above sets of pronouns the only pronouns available, or are they just an illustration/example?

For those who don’t care - leave it blank. But for those who wish folks would use something particular, there it is.
Click on your name at the top right and go to “account details” then scroll down to gender.

And thanks to TomC for the suggestion.

If somebody puts suggested pronouns in that field, are moderators going to enforce use of the pronouns? I am unclear on the rules of this new policy and the 'Terms and rules' link on the bottom right does not talk about pronoun usage.

Is there nothing you can't suck the joy out of? What new policy? It's not that serious.

Just go into your account details and write whatever you want or not.

By the way, the terms and rules link just goes to some Xenforo boilerplate text. It's not IIDB's or TFT's crafted rules. I found this out recently because I had an issue with moderation and they referenced some rule here that I never heard of and I went to look for the rules and only found that one page too. But I did find their old rules at the web archive. It didn't have that alleged rule. 🕵️‍♀️

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Metaphor and others are correct. The TOU and other rules have not been posted. This was a mistake due to the forum software being new to us as well as you all. The TFT terms of service linked above is still in effect.

We will work on correcting this problem asap. My apologies.
 

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RayJ has been notified of the issue above. Hopefully he will attend to it soon but right now he's probably still in bed.

Again, my apologies for this oversight.
 

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@ZiprHead I was under the impression that no policy had been created, but if the new function was intended to have a policy associated with it, then I see it as a package deal.
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?
Is "faggot" a gender?
No. It's gender+

I have a very gendered screen name. Anybody sufficiently familiar with the language spoken on IIDB to communicate will know that much about me.

That's not true of all posters. You and Ziprhead have so much in common.

Adding "faggot" would just be strong evidence that I'm also gay, really out, and kinda mouthy without much regard for decorum.

It seems to me that that belongs in a 'sexual orientation' field, not a 'gender' field. But then, perhaps that's because I know what I and most people mean by sexual orientation, but I don't know what iidb means, or shall decide to mean, by 'gender'.

I am trying to get clarity around this field and whether iidb has introduced new rules of engagement.

Honestly, when I made the suggestion, I didn't expect it to become a venue for performance art.

I don't mean it to be performance art. I mean I have been sanctioned by iidb for violating terms of use before, even though I do not believe I violated them as they were explained to me.

I can't find the 'terms of use' for the board (was it displayed only when I signed up, in 2007??)

If the ToU are somewhere, can a moderator please link to them?

What I meant by "performance art" was stuff like "old fart" and "here". I know I kinda started it with "faggot". But I really don't see what's complex about it. Sigma made a preference clear. You could too. The poster I was thinking of, specifically, was Elixir. Ungendered screen name, and I couldn't recall a post making his gender clear.
Usually, in real life, the cues about polite pronouns are clear. I could be chatting with six footer with linebacker shoulders and a tight waist. But if they're wearing lipstick and a dress, I use female pronouns. It might be obvious that Andrea was born Andrew, but it doesn't matter to me. Politeness isn't usually at all difficult on this subject. The internet is different, due to lack of such cues.

At the risk of being too honest, your inability to grasp this simple concept does look like a performance though. "How mean can I be without breaking a rule?" "How socially backwards can I pretend to be without getting spanked by the staff?" It really does look like a performance, at least to me.
Tom
 

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Would describing oneself as "faggot" be a problem? Perhaps a little to thorough and honest?
Is "faggot" a gender?
No. It's gender+

I have a very gendered screen name. Anybody sufficiently familiar with the language spoken on IIDB to communicate will know that much about me.

That's not true of all posters. You and Ziprhead have so much in common.

Adding "faggot" would just be strong evidence that I'm also gay, really out, and kinda mouthy without much regard for decorum.

It seems to me that that belongs in a 'sexual orientation' field, not a 'gender' field. But then, perhaps that's because I know what I and most people mean by sexual orientation, but I don't know what iidb means, or shall decide to mean, by 'gender'.

I am trying to get clarity around this field and whether iidb has introduced new rules of engagement.

Honestly, when I made the suggestion, I didn't expect it to become a venue for performance art.

I don't mean it to be performance art. I mean I have been sanctioned by iidb for violating terms of use before, even though I do not believe I violated them as they were explained to me.

I can't find the 'terms of use' for the board (was it displayed only when I signed up, in 2007??)

If the ToU are somewhere, can a moderator please link to them?

What I meant by "performance art" was stuff like "old fart" and "here". I know I kinda started it with "faggot". But I really don't see what's complex about it. Sigma made a preference clear. You could too. The poster I was thinking of, specifically, was Elixir. Ungendered screen name, and I couldn't recall a post making his gender clear.
Usually, in real life, the cues about polite pronouns are clear. I could be chatting with six footer with linebacker shoulders and a tight waist. But if they're wearing lipstick and a dress, I use female pronouns. It might be obvious that Andrea was born Andrew, but it doesn't matter to me. Politeness isn't usually at all difficult on this subject. The internet is different, due to lack of such cues.

At the risk of being too honest, your inability to grasp this simple concept does look like a performance though. "How mean can I be without breaking a rule?" "How socially backwards can I pretend to be without getting spanked by the staff?" It really does look like a performance, at least to me.
Tom
Tom, I think you are making a good point, and I definitely think you have Metaphor's motivations pretty well pegged here.

But I also think that vague or unstated policy invites such scuffles.
 

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But I also think that vague or unstated policy invites such scuffles.

What policy?

The option of making one's gender clear, if one cares enough, became available. There's no policy changes.
I'd discuss a difference of opinion you and Jarhyn and I had awhile back. But I know that would be against the rules, so I won't.

Maybe the problem is that now posters can be clear, more like in real life? Or remain vague if It suits them.
I dunno.

Really, I'd be sorry I ever brought this subject up if it weren't more amusing than many of the political forum threads.
Tom
 

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For example, ZiprHead already has 'Old Fart' in his gender field. I believe some people would find that an offensive mockery of the idea of gender identity.
Well, it certainly isn't taking the 'idea of gender identity' too seriously.
It may be mockery. But, mocking the idea? Or the idea that it's rigid? Or the idea that it matters? Or the idea that it matters online?

So much to mock, so little opportunity...

As to offensive, that i cannot help you with. That's an internal decision on 'some people's' part. Not necessarily connected to the poster. I mean, on one board, the moderator determined i was a lesbian from my posts, and they were offended by my disregard of God's plan for women. They were further offended that i was not upset by their being offended. None of which was my intent, nor my problem.
 
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