I could live my life exactly as I do now, sans penis.
to be completely fair though...
yes, you could do that *now*, because you've already had it your entire life. but if you hadn't had it your entire life, you couldn't live your life exactly as you do now because you wouldn't be who you are now, because huge swaths of your living experience would be radically different.
more than anything else, this is the sticking point for me from a purely philosophical position on the whole trans issue.
When it comes to biological sex, there are two elements that are actually meaningful: what shape your brain has, and what hormones it gets exposed to, and for trans people in today's world, that's exactly their one, desired puberty. They are most meaningfully, their "trans" sex.
i'm afraid this is inaccurate, because there is a third: how you are treated by literally everyone you ever encounter in your life and what life lessons and personality-shaping social pressures are applied to you and how that shapes who you are.
now, i'm not saying that these 'life lessons' are necessary or good, but they do exist and they are a huge component to personality development in humans.
as an example:
i've never in my life met a woman who's sexuality wasn't shaped by society's pressure on her to not enjoy sex.
whether they caved to that pressure and developed a complex about it, or they rebelled against it and found their own sense of sexual freedom, or if they had a progressive mom who taught them otherwise (or a myriad of other scenarios), basically every biologically female person in the US has the social pressure to not be aggressively sexual drilled into them from before they can even talk, and that is a foundational part of what sculpts who they are and how they interact with the world.
a trans woman will never experience that, can never experience that, because they did not grow up as a female.
a trans woman will never experience the combination of shame and guilt at having her first period, or dealing with the social reaction to developing breasts as a teen.
a trans man will never understand how a lifetime of cultural sculpting makes one expected to suppress their emotions at all times, and to avoid outward displays or 'negative' feelings.
a trans man will never fully understand the internal calibration needed to reconcile society's expectation that you be tough, detached, stoic, and callous towards others with the internal drive to rebel against social expectations and be someone sensitive and honest and open, but also try to figure out how to do that without being seen as a 'faggot' for it.
i know this is kinda getting into the weeds a bit here, this is a derail where i'm going off quite a bit over something that was basically an offhand comment, but this is something that really bothers me about me the trans conversation.