"I was assigned the male gender at birth".
No, you were not. Nobody has ever been assigned a gender at birth, by anyone, ever. "Gender" was not even a term widely applied to humans before the 1960s, when its use was principally typing certain kinds of nouns.
A doctor looked at your genitals and classified you (almost certainly correctly), according to your sex, just like a chicken sexer looks at baby chicks to see which ones are going to lay eggs and which ones are going to be thrown alive into a mincing machine.
Sexual orientation is about "gender" rather than "sex".
No, it isn't. I'm a gay man because I am attracted to the primary and secondary sexual characteristics of biological men. Trans men sometimes pass, with secondary sexual characteristics that approach those of biological men, but they are "missing" a particular primary characteristic that is, in the overall scheme of things, a deal breaker for most people. A hard 'no' on dating a trans person isn't transphobic, any more than a hard 'no' from a lesbian to dating men is androphobic.
When people say of their partners "I'm attracted to her mind", they're leaving out something implied but important: they first had to be attracted to the sex of the person. That's why there's no bisexual utopia, where people fall in love with "a person, not a gender". (Not ragging on bisexuals, but that's something you can say only because you are already attracted to more than one sex).
If sexual orientation were about "gender" (and by gender I mean the psychological dimension of biological sex), then the idea of sexual orientation would be meaningless.
Deadnaming is morally wrong.
No, it isn't. (Deadnaming is to use somebody's previous name, especially if it's a gendered name and reflects a gender they are transitioning from). When people have birth names, that is simply a matter of historical fact. Having coherent conversations about that person sometimes requires referencing them when they were a different gender (or, if they were always the same gender, then from when they presented as another gender).
You ought have no expectation about how people refer to you in conversations for which you are not a witness.
When I was younger, some fuckwit teachers would "correct" students who used the pronoun "she". "She's the cat's mother!" they would say, implying using the 'she' pronoun was somehow offensive.
When people are talking to you, they'll generally use your name, which is why you have one. When people are talking about you, they'll refer to you in whichever way is most natural to them, and you have no purchase on how they do that. You simply don't have the right.
A related gripe here is the obligation of former partners to use newly-acquired pronouns for relationships that happened in the past. There are gay men who dated people who are now transwomen, but at the time of the relationship presented as men and had the primary and secondary sexual characteristics of men. They didn't date a biological woman. If a lesbian dated a woman who later transitioned to become a transman, she didn't date 'him'. She isn't bisexual.
You will never engineer a society where every conversation is preceded with "I'm X, and these are my pronouns".
Not much more to say on that one. People are not going to do this. It is never going to happen. Pick your battles. (Cisgendered social justice warriors who are actually doing this right now don't count).
Related: I will use he, she, or they. That's the list.
Stop this monomania for believing gender-nonconforming children are transgender.
I saw an interview where a trans parent said (to their putatively transgender child):
do you like doing quiet girly activities, or do you like jumping around and being crazy and tackling everybody?
This should anger people. This should enrage people. It is old-school, unreconstructed sex-role stereotyping and controlling, and it's coming from the trans community.
A girl who likes doing physical activity and roughhouses in a way more typical of a boy doesn't make that girl a boy. She is doing nothing wrong. Let her play the way she wants to play, you narcissistic asswipe.
I was a gender-nonconforming pregay boy. If I were raised now, people would probably attempt to explain to me I was trans (and who knows what I could be indoctrinated to believe). I am not trans, and neither are most gender nonconforming boys and girls. Just let kids do what they want.
No, you were not. Nobody has ever been assigned a gender at birth, by anyone, ever. "Gender" was not even a term widely applied to humans before the 1960s, when its use was principally typing certain kinds of nouns.
A doctor looked at your genitals and classified you (almost certainly correctly), according to your sex, just like a chicken sexer looks at baby chicks to see which ones are going to lay eggs and which ones are going to be thrown alive into a mincing machine.
Sexual orientation is about "gender" rather than "sex".
No, it isn't. I'm a gay man because I am attracted to the primary and secondary sexual characteristics of biological men. Trans men sometimes pass, with secondary sexual characteristics that approach those of biological men, but they are "missing" a particular primary characteristic that is, in the overall scheme of things, a deal breaker for most people. A hard 'no' on dating a trans person isn't transphobic, any more than a hard 'no' from a lesbian to dating men is androphobic.
When people say of their partners "I'm attracted to her mind", they're leaving out something implied but important: they first had to be attracted to the sex of the person. That's why there's no bisexual utopia, where people fall in love with "a person, not a gender". (Not ragging on bisexuals, but that's something you can say only because you are already attracted to more than one sex).
If sexual orientation were about "gender" (and by gender I mean the psychological dimension of biological sex), then the idea of sexual orientation would be meaningless.
Deadnaming is morally wrong.
No, it isn't. (Deadnaming is to use somebody's previous name, especially if it's a gendered name and reflects a gender they are transitioning from). When people have birth names, that is simply a matter of historical fact. Having coherent conversations about that person sometimes requires referencing them when they were a different gender (or, if they were always the same gender, then from when they presented as another gender).
You ought have no expectation about how people refer to you in conversations for which you are not a witness.
When I was younger, some fuckwit teachers would "correct" students who used the pronoun "she". "She's the cat's mother!" they would say, implying using the 'she' pronoun was somehow offensive.
When people are talking to you, they'll generally use your name, which is why you have one. When people are talking about you, they'll refer to you in whichever way is most natural to them, and you have no purchase on how they do that. You simply don't have the right.
A related gripe here is the obligation of former partners to use newly-acquired pronouns for relationships that happened in the past. There are gay men who dated people who are now transwomen, but at the time of the relationship presented as men and had the primary and secondary sexual characteristics of men. They didn't date a biological woman. If a lesbian dated a woman who later transitioned to become a transman, she didn't date 'him'. She isn't bisexual.
You will never engineer a society where every conversation is preceded with "I'm X, and these are my pronouns".
Not much more to say on that one. People are not going to do this. It is never going to happen. Pick your battles. (Cisgendered social justice warriors who are actually doing this right now don't count).
Related: I will use he, she, or they. That's the list.
Stop this monomania for believing gender-nonconforming children are transgender.
I saw an interview where a trans parent said (to their putatively transgender child):
do you like doing quiet girly activities, or do you like jumping around and being crazy and tackling everybody?
This should anger people. This should enrage people. It is old-school, unreconstructed sex-role stereotyping and controlling, and it's coming from the trans community.
A girl who likes doing physical activity and roughhouses in a way more typical of a boy doesn't make that girl a boy. She is doing nothing wrong. Let her play the way she wants to play, you narcissistic asswipe.
I was a gender-nonconforming pregay boy. If I were raised now, people would probably attempt to explain to me I was trans (and who knows what I could be indoctrinated to believe). I am not trans, and neither are most gender nonconforming boys and girls. Just let kids do what they want.
