Setting aside the language abuse involved in calling opinions "imposing", what makes her saying 'he" any more an imposition on everybody else than you saying "she"? Quite the reverse -- Emily didn't call you an uncool dick for saying "she". Looks to me like Emily's the one exhibiting the live-and-let-live attitude here. She uses the pronouns she wants to use; you use the pronouns you want to use; what's the problem? It's a free country.
Yes, it is a free country. Is that the bar for decency though? For what is considered proper decorum?
Nope. Why do you ask? Are decency and proper decorum the bar for truth? This is an
infidel forum, for crying out loud. If we gave a toss about other people's criteria for decency and proper decorum don't you think we'd all be pretending to be theists?
When you saw Roots, and Kunte is being whipped because he refuses to accept a third-party identity, were you thinking "it is a free country"?
It wasn't a free country. When you saw it were you thinking what made the country unfree was the kidnapper calling Kunte "Toby", not the kidnapper whipping him and, you know, kidnapping him?
I doubt it. Is it okay, just as long as we don't torture the person?
Is what okay? Calling a guy named Kunte "Toby" and kidnapping him? Calling a guy named Kunte "Toby"? Calling a guy named Kunte "him"? First one's evil, second one's not proper decorum, third one, yeah, that one kind of seems okay to me.
Calling someone that truthfully feels like they are the alternate gender, their birth gender is presumptuous and really... nothing short of rude.
Tenzin Gyatso, I presume, truthfully feels like he's the reincarnation of Thupten Gyatso. After all, he grew up surrounded by people who told him he was. Do you think it's therefore presumptuous and nothing short of rude for us infidels here to call Tenzin "not the reincarnation of Thupten"? Sure, it might be rude to say it to his face, but that's not what's going on here, is it?
Sure, it is a "free country", but unless someone has a particular insight into how someone else thinks, going with the original birth gender is nothing short of judgmental.

What the heck has "how someone else thinks" got to do with it? I don't need to know how Tenzin Gyatso thinks to judge that he's not anyone's reincarnation, and if you find that judgmental of me, that's nothing short of judgmental of you. It's a discussion forum -- judging stuff is the whole point.
Gender is a
social construct. If you have evidence that "how someone else thinks" is part of the social criteria for gender, share.
Yeah, and the Christians of my childhood figured it was pretty fracking arrogant to declare Jesus was mistaken about being the Son of God. I think it's pretty fracking arrogant to declare people are dicks because they won't accept an argument from authority. Do you have any substantive reason to think a person cannot be mistaken about his or her own gender?
I think that person is most likely in the best position to judge on that, not an independent third person. They can be mistaken or wrong or confused, but they'll know a lot more about how they reached this point than some third party who refuses to take how they identify with any sense of seriousness.
You think I'm one "who refuses to take how they identify with any sense of seriousness"? But I've given you no reason to think that of me. The reason you think that of me is apparently that you are in the grip of the same equivocation fallacy that underlies about 99% of gender ideology, equivocation between "gender identity" and "gender". That fallacy would also account for you thinking "that person is most likely in the best position to judge on that, not an independent third person".
Of course I take how Semenya identifies seriously. Why on earth wouldn't Semenya think yena*'s a girl? Yena grew up surrounded by people who thought yena was a girl and told yena so. That's life as a guevedoce. What I don't take seriously is the religious belief of gender ideologues that an individual's inner feelings trump reality. Gender is a social construct. What the criteria for the genders are are up to society
collectively.
(* "Yena" is the third-person singular pronoun in Sepedi, so it's presumably what Semenya grew up accustomed to being called. Sepedi doesn't do grammatical gender.)