Of course your race confers certain privileges. Affirmative action, black-only scholarships, preferential hiring for government jobs, ability to play race card, ability to make fun of whites because of their race but calling whites who retaliate "racist".
Same goes to gender. Still affirmative action and gender-based scholarships but add to that preferential treatment in divorce/family court, free birth control, now illegal to charge women more for health insurance but still legal to charge men more for car and life insurance, ability to unilaterally make reproductive decisions while making the man pay for them, getting lower sentences than men for the same crime etc.
Of course race and gender do this. And it runs in all directions. You can be unfairly advantaged in some ways for being male, and in others for being female. You can be unfairly advantaged in some ways for being white, and in others for being black, and in yet others for being asian, native american, etc. And not all who belong to these groupings benefit equally or suffer equally due to these manifestations of privilege/bias/racism/sexism. That Athena refuses to see this is what I was referring to in my initial post in this thread that baffled Athena so. Just because white and male have the biggest privilege does not mean the others cease to exist. These don't cancel each other out.
It's not that it is uncomfortable, it's that the definition is fine tuned to exclude blacks or women by claiming their privileges do not count as privileges.
Exactly, and note how Athena continues to deny that there could be any such privilege running in the opposite direction. I asked her once if she defines privilege similarly to how she defines racism, to exclude certain groups from it. She never directly answered, but I think can now safely infer that she does.