How you can satisfy your need for greater pleasure? Don't seek pleasure.
Revolutionary new rule for finding greater pleasure: Don't seek pleasure -- follow this rule and you'll find that pleasure you're seeking.
Fuck pleasure or gratification. That's for children. What I'm talking about is something much greater. The stuff Aristotle called "eudaimonia" or Mihalo Csikszentmihalyi calls "flow". What Buddhists and hippies call "being one with the universe". Total ego extinction. It's ecstasy.
Just different words for pleasure. Giving it a different name doesn't change what it is.
Isn't "ecstasy" a name for a drug which gives pleasure to those who use it?
It's transitory by nature and will only pop up now and again throughout a life, but makes the rest of it worth it.
Certain pleasures fit that description. Higher form of pleasure.
It makes the chasing of pleasure or avoiding pain redundant.
But the "it" you're talking about is a pleasure experience, and a pain suppression mechanism.
I maintain that what you propose as a worthwhile goal for life is not a life at all.
"not a life at all" = a life that's no fun, without pleasure, or without the best pleasure
= devoid of pleasures, of fun experiences
Until I had my first major trauma I was a miserable fucker.
I.e., you suffered pain. But the trauma reduced your overall net pain, in the long run, so it was a short-term pain which then eliminated later pain, leading to net total reduced pain. Which is the point. (If you're being honest in saying that it reduced your misery.)
Yes, because it made me accept that life is inherently meaningless.
No, if it was meaningless, you would not be posting in this message board.
That if I wanted life to have meaning I had to create meaning myself. So I did.
How do you know it wasn't already there and what you did was "find" it? Others also say similar things, so you found something similar to what they found. It was already there for you to bump into it.
It also made me not fear death. I became fearless. Still am. I feel like my life didn't really start until this point.
It started earlier.
People who have never experienced great pain are terrified little anxious losers scared of everything. I didn't truly start to live until I'd learnt not to be afraid of death.
"truly start to live" = increased pleasure, worth suffering some pain for. It all boils down to calculating the total net pain and pleasure.
Pleasure and suffering has nothing to do with feeling alive.
Sounds like you enjoy this "feeling alive" sensation. Sounds like this is a pleasure you seek.
Example I've spent many hours painting paintings. All that time is suffering.
If you chose to do it, then by definition it must have given you pleasure, and this must have outweighed the pain.
Pain/suffering by definition is something we try to avoid, and pleasure is an experience we want to have.
All the time. But it focuses my mind. The joy of having the painting on the wall cannot make-up for the suffering. I still do it.
But it focuses your mind, which empowers you to pursue a higher cause which leads to some long-term pleasures which are great enough to make that suffering worth it as a sacrifice.
It helps to discipline me. Helps me grow. Helps me to be more present in my life. Focuses the mind. Helps me pay attention to people around me. Helps me become a better listener. Helps me to become more emphatic. It helps me connect to people. It helps me become a better person.
All of which empower you in the longer term to achieve the higher goals which eventually produce the highest pleasures, which are valuable enough to be worth the cost of that suffering.
I also go to the gym every day. Similar thing. I do yoga and meditate. Same thing. None of this has to do with pleasure or pain.
I.e., short-term immediate pleasure or pain. Rather, it's the higher long-term pleasures it aims at, and reducing the long-term pain.
I don't seek pleasure or gratification in life.
I.e., the short-term superficial pleasure or gratification. Rather it's the long-term pleasure and gratification you gain through this discipline and focusing and being a better listener etc.
It was many years now since. It does nothing for me anymore. I need more from life.
I work as a consultant. I get a lot of brutally honest feedback from clients after I'm gone. The number one thing they say about me is how genuinely happy I am and how good I am at listening and motivating the people around me.
Which translates into a good payoff in long-term gratification, which is the whole point.
I think I'm a quite happy person. I think that is because I don't seek gratification or pleasure. I just see the beauty and joy all around me all the time. It's there if you just look for it. I don't need to go looking for pleasure. So I don't.
You used the technique of not seeking gratification or pleasure as the means to find longer-term gratification/pleasure.
Like I said I think your goals in life are just immature.
Does being immature lead to some bad consequences? like increased pain/suffering, or to less gratification/pleasure?
Just my humble opinion. I hope you grow out of it.
Does growing out of it lead to some good consequences? to a life with less suffering, or with increased long-term gratification?
And please don't judge others by that standard. Please be open to the idea that there are still things in life you have left to learn. I think that is pretty obvious.
Does learning new things lead to some good consequences?
Why do you keep recommending something which would lead to good consequences, like reduced long-term pain and increased long-term pleasure?