I think you misunderstand the issue or are arguing from a religious standpoint of "all government bad" and not a rational one. Nobody is claiming that it is about our personal needs, but rather it is about free speech and expression, access to ideas, products and services... The authoritarians in this matter are not the government, but the cable company that seeks to control what you can see, what you can buy, when you can see it, from who you can purchase it from, and how much it will cost you for various goods and services.
Or could it be that you misunderstand the meaning of free speech, and cling to the secular faith that "all expansions of government's police power and impositions of monopoly edicts on its citizenry are good"? Now which is actually an authoritarian mindset?
Free speech is the liberty of every person to express their conscious on any political or social matter they please, without being coerced under a threat of use of governments monopoly police powers. What a person expresses as their opinion and the means they use to do so is none of the government's business (or at least it should not be).
The history of government authoritarianism is well known, and chronicled in many free speech cases. And the history of the FCC, telecommunications, and broadcasting is also common knowledge. The government (on several levels) created ATT as a monopoly through "public interest" regulations, restricted "paid" (cable) TV for decades on behalf of local interests, and limited broadcasting of free speech (radio and TV) for decades.
The notion that regulation is needed to preserve free speech and expression on the Internet is hysterical nonsense. Free expression and alternative journalism exploded on the Internet precisely because government did not impose the same heavy handed restrictions that it employed in prior telecommunications and broadcasting. The commercial basis of the internet drove the expansion of the net such that free and commercial speech became cheaper and more easily broadcast than ever before.
It's no coincidence that the same liberal intelligentsia and political forces that sought to impose the "Fairness Doctrine" and "Equal Time" mandates in broadcasting support "network neutrality" edicts. The FCC would love to have the regulatory power expanded such that they can 'balance' viewpoints should the partisan need arise.
If the explosion in cellular, texting, internet, social media, and other communications since the 1996 reform is indicative of 'evil corporate authoritarianism' then let's have more of it.
Your other points I will answer as time permits.