Some interesting info on the issue of culture holding blacks back

[Jason Harvestdancer]

There are different types of fatherlessness.

I believe I saw some studies that showed children raised by a widow perform approximately as well as children raised by two parents. The performance goes down for those who have divorced parents, and even more for those who have an absent parent from having never married in the first place.

This did show the same trend across all races, although the incidents of each category did vary by race. That indicates that an absent father is a bad thing no matter what ones skin color.

There's a lot of assumptions being made here.

A boy who loses his father at 15 probably would be better off than one who never knew him for instance. This is something your study probably doesn't account for. I doubt the marriage in itself meant anything in the equation, more likely that the children of widowers at some point had their fathers in their lives at all and then lost them later in life is a better way to look at it.

When it compared widowed to divorced to single parenting, I think it accounted for fathers being partially there.

 

[LordKiran]

There are different types of fatherlessness.

I believe I saw some studies that showed children raised by a widow perform approximately as well as children raised by two parents. The performance goes down for those who have divorced parents, and even more for those who have an absent parent from having never married in the first place.

This did show the same trend across all races, although the incidents of each category did vary by race. That indicates that an absent father is a bad thing no matter what ones skin color.

There's a lot of assumptions being made here.

A boy who loses his father at 15 probably would be better off than one who never knew him for instance. This is something your study probably doesn't account for. I doubt the marriage in itself meant anything in the equation, more likely that the children of widowers at some point had their fathers in their lives at all and then lost them later in life is a better way to look at it.

When it compared widowed to divorced to single parenting, I think it accounted for fathers being partially there.

Honestly I say divorced parents could potentially be even worse than losing a father mid-childhood.

 

[Derec]

This isn't completely bad for all black men IMO. The ones left enjoy a 20% advantage in finding a woman simply because the competition is in jail or dead. So this advantage means a black male can mate with many women and not worry about getting married to any of them. That explains the high rate of fatherless homes. But strictly in terms of evolution and legacy this is the very best you can do. Much better than what the average white male is faced with for example. By comparison, the average white male has to compete with other white males for the right to reproduce with a woman. So while the average white male has an easier life than the average black male, his chances of reproduction are much lower. And in terms of evolution its not living longer that matters but what you are able to leave behind.

I think we found the core reason for my past dating difficulties.

But seriously though, why aren't more black women open to dating outside their race rather than putting up with "Bibbys" of this world?

 

[repoman]

This isn't completely bad for all black men IMO. The ones left enjoy a 20% advantage in finding a woman simply because the competition is in jail or dead. So this advantage means a black male can mate with many women and not worry about getting married to any of them. That explains the high rate of fatherless homes. But strictly in terms of evolution and legacy this is the very best you can do. Much better than what the average white male is faced with for example. By comparison, the average white male has to compete with other white males for the right to reproduce with a woman. So while the average white male has an easier life than the average black male, his chances of reproduction are much lower. And in terms of evolution its not living longer that matters but what you are able to leave behind.

I think we found the core reason for my past dating difficulties.

But seriously though, why aren't more black women open to dating outside their race rather than putting up with "Bibbys" of this world?

This topic is sort of what Steve Sailer https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steve_Sailer talks about.

Basically, he asserts that there is a mostly genetically determined (hormones etc...) trend from blacks to east asians with whites in the middle of of increasing parental care and less promiscuity. Social fixes can only go so far.

The environment and people around you (for the past thousands of years) determine the sweet spot of your actions related sex and raising or not raising children.