Trans women are male.* That is their sex.** That is just reality.***
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And you can’t approach the issue of balancing different people’s right’s, without acknowledging that.
You refuse to acknowledge them.
Because females have a right to spaces free from males in some circumstances.
Will you please stop pretending like this about women's rights for you?
But I don’t think it is about pretending.
What I think exactly zero men in this thread understand or acknowledge is that for cis women, it genuinely is at least partly about women’s rights.
And I get that for Emily Lake and yourself, and myself and other, yeah. There is a component to this discussion that needs to address the rights of women. This isn't an either/or thing, though the infrastructure does complicate matters. Which makes this a very complicated problem because the path to the solution doesn't exist.
My specific problem are the people who are pretending their personal position has to do with women's rights. They are just using it as a cover for their anti-transgender bigotry which I find terribly disingenuous.
I sometimes think the sane: it’s just anti-trans bigotry. But we never know what other people have experienced, what trauma has been inflicted. It would be very difficult for a rape victim to suddenly be confronted by someone with an exposed penis in a place where they do not expect to see any male body.
There are a lot of rape victims out there.
Victims of sexual assault constantly evaluate and reevaluate what they missed, what mistake they made, how could they not have known? As if perfect behavior and perfect intuition would be 100% effective.
It’s not.
And some people just struggle more with change, with ambiguity, with shades of gray, never mind a whole exploding rainbow.
There is a definite clash between needs/perceived needs here. I think we can all agree that everyone deserves to feel safe and accepted. But some subset of cis women will feel unsafe with male appearing bodies in intimate spaces. And at least some if not most or all trans people really need to feel accepted as they are.
Of course there is some bigotry involved from some people. But given that I hear crickets from cis makes about what THEY can do to help trans men and trans women and cis women feel safe and accepted, I don’t think men are in the best position to throw stones here.
Of course #NotAllMen.