credoconsolans
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- neopagan leaning toward moral relativism
As someone else said, most times the forgiveness is for the benefit of the victim/victim's family so they can move on with their lives and not constantly deal with seething, damaging anger and hatred toward the perp.
It's not magnanimous of them. It's purely for their own needs.
Some strangely low self-esteem, or misled, or religious fanatic actually does forgive the perp for their sake, regardless of whether the perp ever cops to the crime. That seems to me to be a form of control.
I don't think forgiveness is needed at all. You can most certainly despise, hate and wish all sorts of negativity on a person and it not damage your life at all as long as you don't let it.
It's like any strong emotion, like love, don't let it obsess you and you're fine.
No forgiveness necessary.
It's not magnanimous of them. It's purely for their own needs.
Some strangely low self-esteem, or misled, or religious fanatic actually does forgive the perp for their sake, regardless of whether the perp ever cops to the crime. That seems to me to be a form of control.
I don't think forgiveness is needed at all. You can most certainly despise, hate and wish all sorts of negativity on a person and it not damage your life at all as long as you don't let it.
It's like any strong emotion, like love, don't let it obsess you and you're fine.
No forgiveness necessary.