It's like talking to a wall.
There seems to be two camps. Neither camp blames the victim for the assailants actions, but in one camp, there is blame remaining for the victims involvement. If you walk into a bar in South Carolina and start pinching wives of rednecks, people will take the law into their own hands and leave the floor flowing crimson red. The prevailing attitude will be that he had it coming--blaming the victim, not for the assailants action but rather for the role the victim played encouraging the wrong doing of the assailant.
The police, as professionals, most often try and succeed in overlooking the attitudes and actions of suspected criminals that test the impending decisions police make, but sometimes, try as they might, they will fail to do what's right and will instead unjustifiably commit a wrongful act that injures or kills a suspected criminal. Neither camp fails to see the wrongful nature of the police officers actions (especially when obviously so), yet while one camp cannot fathom exclaiming any blame towards the victim (and remember, neither camp blames the victim for what the assailant did), there is nevertheless going to be blame towards the victim by only one of the camps, not for what the assailant did, but rather for the lesser crime committed by the victim surrounding the incident that eventually led to the assailants actions.
So, while I agree that we should not blame the victim per se, especially when it comes to the unjustified actions of the perpetrator that ultimately made the victim a victim, I too find it difficult to withhold any blame towards the victim--when it comes to the fact that had it not been for the victims actions, they would not have become a victim in the first place, yet I say that while acknowledging the fact that it's also true that the victim would not have been a victim had the officer not overreacted and a committed a more harsh crime in his own right.
Since you're apt to show blame towards a deceased victim even in circumstances when there is an unjustifiable act by a police officer, it's important to be extraordinarily clear that you hold no blame whatsoever towards the victim in regards to an officers wrongful action. Blame them for what they did, not for what happened to them.
It's not the persons fault his blood will be spilt after pinching the wives of rednecks in South Carolina bars. What's his fault are those little red spots on the butts of women. Blame the victim, yes, but blame them for what they did, not for the unlawful acts that most certainly will follow.
When a criminal resists arrest in an atmosphere where an officer is likely to kill you, yes, blame the officer, and be sure to place all the blame on the officer, but if you have some blame reserved for the victim, be sure to note that none of the blame for what the officer did is directed towards the victim. The blame we have for the victim is for the lesser crime of what the victim did, which is resist.