In other words, it's only racism if you don't like it.
Do you not understand the difference between striking someone and someone striking you in self-defense? Yes,
technically "striking" is a common denominator in both scenarios, but the circumstances are radically different and only a total fucking moron--or an intellectually dishonest agent--would equate the two.
Except your racism
Wrong. Racism is an attack by the oppressor power structure against the oppressed disempowered structure, not necessarily any one individual. That's the whole point, in fact; that there are no "individuals," they are all reduced to one single hated "other." A blow to one oppressed is a blow to all oppressed.
The reverse, however, is not the case. If an oppressed individual strikes back--either directly or indirectly--it is just the one oppressor that may be harmed, but it will then be the entire oppressed that will suffer the consequences.
Iow, a master can strike as many slaves as he desires, but if just one slave strikes a master--or a member of the master class--then ALL the slaves will suffer. It's the NATO of social relations.
It's more akin to the cycle of abuse we often see in families--the kids are abused and grow up into being abusers.
Fundamentally wrong. In that cycle, a parent abuses their child and then that child grows up to abuse their child, but that's the point; they can only abuse the
vulnerable--i.e., their own children--and not turn around and abuse their parents, which is what one would intuitively think happens all the time, but in fact rarely does (because of the psychological side effects of this kind of abuse).
Even if you are never once racist yourself, the fact that you are white means you are a member of the oppressor class and thereby protected. You might be caught in the wrong neighborhood at the wrong time and pay the price, but then what happens? The oppressor class will strike back en mass and in overwhelming force in a myriad of different ways to keep the oppressed class oppressed en mass. It won't just be the individuals that struck you that's for sure; it will be the entire neighborhood at the very least that will get reprisals directly and then on a broader level, other ripples will be felt.
That can (and is) anything from economic to denying access to better schools and living situations and police treatment and just a general sense of
you're not welcome here.
You want to reduce it to individual behavior, of course, because that's the excuse; that's the false equivalence, but it's never individualized at the oppressor level. It is always "they" not "this guy I know."
Let's go get us some niggers to make an example of! Never,
This one guy did me wrong and he needs to pay!
So you can't then turn around and omit that when focusing on
reactive responses.
50 white pillars of the community in hoods routinely meet and go get themselves any nigger they can find every month to lynch as an example to all other black people in the community is in no way comparable to
this one time last year, a black guy beat up a white guy in a bar just because he was white.
Particularly when you then later find out that the black guy was then caught by the 50 pillars in hoods and lynched for his actions.