Jokodo
Veteran Member
Yes. I reject that the actions taken in the OP amount to consent to fatherhood.
I reject that the actions taken in the OP amount to consent to fatherhood.
And I tend to agree, to the extent that what we've seen represents a full picture, though the court may have seen additional evidence we don't know of that changes that picture.
But you also explicitly said that there should be no time limit at all, that a father who has been a father to a child he knows is not biologically his for 10 years should be able to cancel his obligation on a whim absent a documented adoption or some other kind of evidence of explicit consent.
Your language begs the question. He is not cancelling an obligation. He was never obligated in the first place.
When he found out the child is not his, he had the opportunity to file for the nullification of his status as a legal parent, which would void his obligations. So at that point he was not obligated. When he chose not to do this and instead chose to continue being the child's father, he made a choice - a choice that comes with consequences. One of the consequences being that now he is obligated. What part of that is so hard to understand?
Once again, for clarification: I do not know if this does or should apply to the OP case - arguably he was not in a mental state to make legally binding decisions due to the shock of the revelation etc, which appears to be what he's claiming. But in the case of a man who stayed together with the kid's mother for another five years after finding out the kid's not his, and continued to parent (not babysit) the child for another five years after they finally did seperate, the picture is clear enough.
You and others seem continually unable to acknowledge or grasp that no legal framework can force a man to continue to be a father in the ways that matter. In that sense, you believe that he can, in fact, 'cancel his obligation' and you agree that he should be able to. No legal framework is going to compel a man to visit his children. No legal framework is going to compel a man to help children with their homework. No legal framework is going to put love into the heart of a person who does not feel it.
And therefore what? Because we can't enforce some obligations a person willingly agreed to, we should give up on enforcing all obligations?