Am I drinking too much?

[rousseau]

Sobriety. Fucking. Sucks. - Ozzy Osbourne.

I wonder how much of your issue can be attributed to isolation. It's interesting that you managed to stop drinking when you were married, and managed to stay away from it for so long, but have an issue now. Maybe the issue isn't so much sobriety, but boredom.

I definitely get how sobriety can be a bit boring at times, but I find being in a satisfying relationship with my wife interesting enough that I don't really need alcohol or drugs lately. But a number of months ago she went away with our son for a couple days and it didn't take long before I reached for some of my whisky out of boredom. Similarly, last winter the doldrums got bad enough that I started experimenting with CBD oil and edibles. But once summer hit and I could get outside I didn't feel as much of a need.

Well, it seems I am only bored when I'm sober, and that I become interested in things only when I'm under the influence of something

That's kind of what I'm getting at, at this point in your life alcohol is the only thing occupying your time. If you had other outlets like satisfying relationships, hobbies, work etc you wouldn't need to turn to alcohol as much.

 

[WAB]

Well, it seems I am only bored when I'm sober, and that I become interested in things only when I'm under the influence of something

That's kind of what I'm getting at, at this point in your life alcohol is the only thing occupying your time. If you had other outlets like satisfying relationships, hobbies, work etc you wouldn't need to turn to alcohol as much.

Yeah, I know. Perhaps at my new job, where there are lots of really outgoing, pleasant people, I can strike up a friendship and start to go out again. We shall see.

I edited my last post - to mention that I do want to get your book now that I've got enough dinero. I don't know if you saw that.

 

[rousseau]

Well, it seems I am only bored when I'm sober, and that I become interested in things only when I'm under the influence of something

That's kind of what I'm getting at, at this point in your life alcohol is the only thing occupying your time. If you had other outlets like satisfying relationships, hobbies, work etc you wouldn't need to turn to alcohol as much.

Yeah, I know. Perhaps at my new job, where there are lots of really outgoing, pleasant people, I can strike up a friendship and start to go out again. We shall see.

I edited my last post - to mention that I do want to get your book now that I've got enough dinero. I don't know if you saw that.

Just sent you a PM.

 

[WAB]

Yeah, I know. Perhaps at my new job, where there are lots of really outgoing, pleasant people, I can strike up a friendship and start to go out again. We shall see.

I edited my last post - to mention that I do want to get your book now that I've got enough dinero. I don't know if you saw that.

Just sent you a PM.

 

[Loren Pechtel]

Sobriety. Fucking. Sucks. - Ozzy Osbourne.

I wonder how much of your issue can be attributed to isolation. It's interesting that you managed to stop drinking when you were married, and managed to stay away from it for so long, but have an issue now. Maybe the issue isn't so much sobriety, but boredom.

I definitely get how sobriety can be a bit boring at times, but I find being in a satisfying relationship with my wife interesting enough that I don't really need alcohol or drugs lately. But a number of months ago she went away with our son for a couple days and it didn't take long before I reached for some of my whisky out of boredom. Similarly, last winter the doldrums got bad enough that I started experimenting with CBD oil and edibles. But once summer hit and I could get outside I didn't feel as much of a need.

An awful lot of drug use is to escape from a shitty life.

 

[WAB]

Sobriety. Fucking. Sucks. - Ozzy Osbourne.

I wonder how much of your issue can be attributed to isolation. It's interesting that you managed to stop drinking when you were married, and managed to stay away from it for so long, but have an issue now. Maybe the issue isn't so much sobriety, but boredom.

I definitely get how sobriety can be a bit boring at times, but I find being in a satisfying relationship with my wife interesting enough that I don't really need alcohol or drugs lately. But a number of months ago she went away with our son for a couple days and it didn't take long before I reached for some of my whisky out of boredom. Similarly, last winter the doldrums got bad enough that I started experimenting with CBD oil and edibles. But once summer hit and I could get outside I didn't feel as much of a need.

An awful lot of drug use is to escape from a shitty life.

^This is true, and it is largely true in my case***.

To be exact, it is largely true with respect to my over the top alcoholism in recent years, and my use of other drugs during my marriage, when I didn't drink a drop for 8 years. But that abstinence from alcohol was compelled by three strong factors: I had been promoted to a management position, the first time in my life, at 32; I was going to become a father, first time; and I had just gotten married, also first time. I could not logically, morally, or reasonably reconcile drinking, even moderately, with those three challenges. But the underlying |||||||

I will not repeat, yet again, by way of trying to explain my views, what I've already said in numerous posts of late, because I know my long repetitive "rants" are starting to irritate people I care for and love ---

***But it's not always the case, naturally. A great many major figures in world history were drug user or drug addicts. To list them all would require a thousand pages, or more. It would be hard to argue that their drug use...SCREECH!!

nm.

 

[Alcoholic Actuary]

I drink way too much. But I don't want help, and I'm not endangering others, and even given the amount that I drink - I rarely even get buzzed anymore. I think for me it's more about what having a drink in my hand means: "Fuck you! After everything I've been through, there is no way I'm taking any of this shit seriously"

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[WAB]

I drink way too much. But I don't want help, and I'm not endangering others, and even given the amount that I drink - I rarely even get buzzed anymore. I think for me it's more about what having a drink in my hand means: "Fuck you! After everything I've been through, there is no way I'm taking any of this shit seriously"

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Agreed.