DrZoidberg
Contributor
Here's a video, specifically on, why it's important for a victim of emotional abuse, not to psychoanalyse their abuser, when in therapy about it afterwards.
Typically, a person who has been in a relationship with a narcissist, psychopath, or even just somebody themselves suffering from PTSD, will be confused about what is real or not. They will have had their boundaries so violated so often and so much that they no longer know what they themselves feel about anything. What they need in therapy is to be a bit childlike, and in a safe space, feel what their boundaries are. They need to spend time in their own head and make up their minds what they think about stuff, and what their authentic emotional response to that is. So it's important that they NOT try to understand it from their abusers point of view. That's nice for their own understanding of the human condition. But it won't help their own healing.
I think this can be expanded to all of society today. I'm thinking about all the TV series where protagonists are suffering from a serious mental condition. And the show is just as much about showing how it is to live with the diagnosis as it is about the story. It's so common that it's basically standard now. I think it has to do with the woke narrative. As long as you are suffering from being marginalized, you get a free pass on being an asshole. So everybody in their own heads is a victim now justified to lash out in pain. We bend over backwards to see things from any perspective justifying any behavior. Since we've robbed ourselves of any ability to have an authentic emotional response we reduce society to simple teams. "Freedom fighter or sheeple". Those on our team we are willing to jump through any hoops to justify their behaviour. Those on the other team we smack with evil.
I think what the world needs right now is for people to think less and feel more. No it won't solve all the worlds problems. It certainly won't lead to equality. But right now, humanity seems lost. Nitpicking it's way ever further into the labyrinth.
Typically, a person who has been in a relationship with a narcissist, psychopath, or even just somebody themselves suffering from PTSD, will be confused about what is real or not. They will have had their boundaries so violated so often and so much that they no longer know what they themselves feel about anything. What they need in therapy is to be a bit childlike, and in a safe space, feel what their boundaries are. They need to spend time in their own head and make up their minds what they think about stuff, and what their authentic emotional response to that is. So it's important that they NOT try to understand it from their abusers point of view. That's nice for their own understanding of the human condition. But it won't help their own healing.
I think this can be expanded to all of society today. I'm thinking about all the TV series where protagonists are suffering from a serious mental condition. And the show is just as much about showing how it is to live with the diagnosis as it is about the story. It's so common that it's basically standard now. I think it has to do with the woke narrative. As long as you are suffering from being marginalized, you get a free pass on being an asshole. So everybody in their own heads is a victim now justified to lash out in pain. We bend over backwards to see things from any perspective justifying any behavior. Since we've robbed ourselves of any ability to have an authentic emotional response we reduce society to simple teams. "Freedom fighter or sheeple". Those on our team we are willing to jump through any hoops to justify their behaviour. Those on the other team we smack with evil.
I think what the world needs right now is for people to think less and feel more. No it won't solve all the worlds problems. It certainly won't lead to equality. But right now, humanity seems lost. Nitpicking it's way ever further into the labyrinth.