• Welcome to the Internet Infidels Discussion Board.

A more honest article on the college rape mess

If the two parties are seen not merely "drinking together" but mutually flirting, making out, and leaving together, then yes that matters to all rational people, because it is evidence consistent with mutual sexual interest. It does not make sex with the person acceptable, if they did in fact say no or were unconscious, but it does support the plausibility that the accuser willingly and consciously had sex.
I have a big problem with this position, primarily because the "no" almost always takes place outside of the hearing of witnesses, and the rapist has every reason to claim she didn't say "no". So basically what you are saying is that - in my own personal experience that I described above - even though there was absolutely zero consent to sex even in my inebriated state, because I had previously laughed, danced, played pool with and flirted with this man - in your opinion it would have been better for him to get away with (hypothetically) raping me?

Flirting with someone is not consent to sex. Going to their home to watch a movie or to drop off sister's birthday gifts is not consent to sex.

You are basically suggesting that even third party witnesses should assume consent from unrelated actions. How about we instead expect third party witnesses to testify that they did or did not hear unequivocal enthusiastic sober consent to sex. If witnesses did not hear an unequivocal "yes, I want to have sex with you. Let's go to your place" then their witness testimony is not in his favor and does not trump the victim's own testimony that she did not consent.
 
Maybe we apply the same test that was applied to Derec, to doubting. What does evidence of rape consist of, considering that the actual sexual encounter took place in private? Can you describe it? Short of a confession from the alleged rapist, that is.
 
How about we instead expect third party witnesses to testify that they did or did not hear unequivocal enthusiastic sober consent to sex. If witnesses did not hear an unequivocal "yes, I want to have sex with you. Let's go to your place" then their witness testimony is not in his favor and does not trump the victim's own testimony that she did not consent.
This is tantamount to requiring the accused to prove his innocence rather than requiring the prosecution to prove guilt. Thus it is a non-starter outside the insane world of college campuses.

- - - Updated - - -

Maybe we apply the same test that was applied to Derec, to doubting. What does evidence of rape consist of, considering that the actual sexual encounter took place in private? Can you describe it? Short of a confession from the alleged rapist, that is.
In many cases you can't prove that a rape took place. But that is not a reason to reduce, or even reverse, the burden of proof.
 
\ except that she said he raped her.
So did Crystal Magnum.
And Danmell Ndonye.
And Wanetta Gibson.
And Tawana Brawley.
But no, let's pretend "women never lie about rape". :rolleyes:

So, we have her testimony that it was rape.
And his testimony that it wasn't.

We have video evidence that he tied her down, duct taped her eyes and mouth, and violently raped her.
Common with BDSM sex. I posted the case of false accuser Jamie Rzucek. Their sex looked similar to this.

And we have his own admission that she said "no".
Irrelevant as "no" is often used as part of BDSM playacting. It is evidence of her participating in those activities that introduced sufficient reasonable doubt as to make any conviction difficult. In this case it resulted in a (very likely) guilty man getting off but that is a favorable outcome to innocent men getting wrongfully convicted.
So the ONLY way for you to continue saying there wasn't enough evidence to convict is if, and only if, you assume she is a "lying bitch."
No. You obviously don't understand how the burden of proof works. I do not have to assume she is a "lying bitch" but merely not be convinced she is telling the truth beyond a reasonable doubt and without the benefit of knowing what he would do years later.
1398341121904.jpg
 
Maybe we apply the same test that was applied to Derec, to doubting. What does evidence of rape consist of, considering that the actual sexual encounter took place in private? Can you describe it? Short of a confession from the alleged rapist, that is.
In many cases you can't prove that a rape took place. But that is not a reason to reduce, or even reverse, the burden of proof.

Interestingly, that in no way answers my question. So let's ask it again. Short of a confession from the alleged rapist, and considering that the sex takes place in private, what does evidence of rape consist of?
 
She said she said no. Her husband said she said no. In other words, there was no dispute that she said no. So, I think your questions are literally irrelevant to the issue.

My questions are essential to the issue. They are an attempt to determine if she actually objected or if she was play acting. To find him guilty of rape you have to prove not only that she didn't want it, but that she communicated that in a way that he should be expected to understand, and if she has established with him that she is going to say no, but really wants him to proceed, then her saying no doesn't do that. She needs a safe word.
Again, there was no dispute that she said no. No means no. We teach 2 year olds and dogs that - and they seem to learn it quickly. Unless you can show that "no" doesn't mean "no", it appears you are simply offering excuses for this rapist. And people wonder why some people think there is a rape culture.
 
Interestingly, that in no way answers my question. So let's ask it again. Short of a confession from the alleged rapist, and considering that the sex takes place in private, what does evidence of rape consist of?
Anything can be evidence, including witness statements, physical evidence etc. The question is does the sum total of evidence for and against it being rape add up to "proof beyond a reasonable doubt" or not.
In the BDSM case brought up here the video is evidence in favor of it being rape but there was also the evidence of her engaging in BDSM play voluntarily. In the Jamie Rzucek false rape case there likewise was evidence of rough BDSM sex that the court used to convict the innocent man because the judge improperly withheld exculpatory evidence of emails exchanged between the two parties.
Evidence of sexual intercourse may or may not be evidence of rape but if sex is admitted it obviously isn't.

Often the available evidence doesn't ad up hill of beans much less reasonable doubt though. That is unfortunate for genuine rape victims but not a reason why we should stop demanding proof beyond a reasonable doubt.
 
Again, there was no dispute that she said no. No means no. We teach 2 year olds and dogs that - and they seem to learn it quickly. Unless you can show that "no" doesn't mean "no", it appears you are simply offering excuses for this rapist. And people wonder why some people think there is a rape culture.

Usually no means no. Unless there is evidence that the two used "no" as part of playacting. Which there was in this case.
Again, look at the Jamie Rzucek false rape allegation case. Similar situation but an innocent man was wrongfully convicted because evidence that showed that her being tied up etc. was part of mutually agreed BDSM play was improperly excluded by the judge.
So to sum up - "no" usually means "no" but doesn't have to. If there is evidence the people in question use it as part of playacting that negates the relevance of her having said "no".
 
Again, there was no dispute that she said no. No means no. We teach 2 year olds and dogs that - and they seem to learn it quickly. Unless you can show that "no" doesn't mean "no", it appears you are simply offering excuses for this rapist. And people wonder why some people think there is a rape culture.

Usually no means no. Unless there is evidence that the two used "no" as part of playacting. Which there was in this case.
There was no evidence of play-acting, especially given the actual testimony. And people deny there is a rape culture.
 
We have video evidence that he tied her down, duct taped her eyes and mouth, and violently raped her.
Common with BDSM sex.

It's really not. Some people get off on danger, feeling helpless, etc., but you don't want to be violent towards them. There are some people who get off on pain, but not usually violence. And there are those who get off on violence, but they don't get off on being tied up, and don't get turned on by pain. Pain & violence & bondage & humiliation is a very strange combination, even though they're in the same genre.

And who the heck uses duct tape? Is she supposed to have really hated having eyelashes?
 
It's really not. Some people get off on danger, feeling helpless, etc., but you don't want to be violent towards them. There are some people who get off on pain, but not usually violence. And there are those who get off on violence, but they don't get off on being tied up, and don't get turned on by pain. Pain & violence & bondage & humiliation is a very strange combination, even though they're in the same genre.
We really don't know what's on that video and just how violent it was.

And who the heck uses duct tape? Is she supposed to have really hated having eyelashes?

Can't really comment on that.

- - - Updated - - -

There was no evidence of play-acting, especially given the actual testimony. And people deny there is a rape culture.
Actually there was.
 
Actually there was.
And people wonder why the claim of a "rape culture" is credible.

You keep ducking and dodging the points being made and repeating this like some sort of religious mantra.

If somebody asks you to play act a rape on them, because they get off on it, and explicitly tell you not to stop when they say no, then them saying no no longer means they want you to stop. Do you disagree and why? Perhaps you could amswer that point instead of continuing to chant your mantra.
 
So did Crystal Magnum.
And Danmell Ndonye.
And Wanetta Gibson.
And Tawana Brawley.
But no, let's pretend "women never lie about rape". :rolleyes:
For starters, I do not recall anyone ever claiming that "women never lie about rape" But if you can quote such claim whether from FRDB or TFT, please do so. You tend to build cases against claims that were never made.
So, we have her testimony that it was rape.
And his testimony that it wasn't.
I think we have already agreed that cases solely based on "he says" "she says" should be falling under reasonable doubt. Note the specific of "solely".
We have video evidence that he tied her down, duct taped her eyes and mouth, and violently raped her.
Common with BDSM sex. I posted the case of false accuser Jamie Rzucek. Their sex looked similar to this.
Except that what is actually common with BDSM adepts is that the non dominant party remains able to use a safe word to convey non consent at any time during the activities. Which cannot be the case in a situation where the non dominant party's mouth was duct taped. So, that was NOT a "common BDSM sex" situation.
And we have his own admission that she said "no".
Irrelevant as "no" is often used as part of BDSM playacting.
Certainly not in a situation where the non dominant party is rendered unable to communicate consent or non consent DURING the play acting activities. A BDSM adept dominant party is going to insure that the non dominant party remains able to verbalize non consent with a safe word throughout the entire set of activities. Such adepts would NOT go along with any scenario where the non dominant party is either left without a safe word or rendered unable to verbalize a safe word indicating "stop".

It is evidence of her participating in those activities that introduced sufficient reasonable doubt as to make any conviction difficult. In this case it resulted in a (very likely) guilty man getting off but that is a favorable outcome to innocent men getting wrongfully convicted.
Though I personally would rather see a guilty party go free than an innocent man being convicted, I am not sure it is a justification to ignore or dismiss the fact that a guilty party going free sends the signal to all rape victims that they are highly susceptible to not be recognized as victims of a sexual crime. Unfortunately it can only add fuel to their pre existing state of being reluctant to come forward for reasons that have been covered, detailed and explained several times in the course of rape-topic threads.

On the other end, just about any male is susceptible to be falsely accused by an ill intended female. And short of the accusing party confessing she made it up, a non guilty verdict pronounced by a Jury based on reasonable doubt still leaves DOUBT in the mind of the public that he is innocent. The French fiction based drama film "Les Risques du Metier" superbly interpreted by Jacques Brel takes us into the mind of an innocent man facing several accusing parties. It tells us about the lingering suspicions affecting the main character even after his female students confess they made it up. He is reduced to pack his bags and permanently leave(along with his spouse) the rural community where he had been a dedicated school teacher.

Going back to the "college rape mess", and in view of the broad wide circulation of drugs and alcohol among College students, those students who will consume alcohol or drugs should yield to this set of advice :

1) If you are going to be drinking or using drugs, KNOW your limits.

2) If you are the remaining sober type, acknowledge once for all that having sex with a drunk person or on a drug induced trip comes down to that person's mind and thinking/reasoning process being altered. You are effectively taking advantage of a party whose mental process is off. You might not consciously think in terms of " I am going to exploit that person in a vulnerable state", but it still comes down to the same result.

3) Rely on the "Golden Rule" as you are part of the remaining sober category. I hope I do not have to explain why the Golden Rule remains the code of ethics which covers situations where there is a potential for the exploitative factor to prevail.



So the ONLY way for you to continue saying there wasn't enough evidence to convict is if, and only if, you assume she is a "lying bitch."
No. You obviously don't understand how the burden of proof works. I do not have to assume she is a "lying bitch" but merely not be convinced she is telling the truth beyond a reasonable doubt and without the benefit of knowing what he would do years later.
1398341121904.jpg
I agree with your reply. IMO it is unreasonable to conclude that a Jury rendering a non guilty verdict is motivated by the belief that the accusing party is a "lying bitch". Jury's hands are pretty much tied up by the rigor of their being called to measure the validity of the defense argumentation versus the prosecution argumentation. A weak prosecution is bound to result in the Jury leaning towards a non guilty verdict. Not related to rape trials, but I think everyone would agree that the OJ Simpson's trial resulting in a non guilty verdict was the product of a pathetic prosecution which failed to eliminate reasonable doubt. The majority of analysis which came out following the verdict all agreed that it should not be confused for the Jury being convinced that OJ was innocent rather that the prosecution missed their opportunity to eliminate reasonable doubt.
 
Actually there was.
And people wonder why the claim of a "rape culture" is credible.

You keep ducking and dodging the points being made and repeating this like some sort of religious mantra.
I did not logically duck anything. On the otherhand, a number of posters seem unable to understand that "no" means "no" and use that ignorance to excuse rape. Which is an example of why people can reasonable conclude there is still a rape culture.
If somebody asks you to play act a rape on them, because they get off on it, and explicitly tell you not to stop when they say no, then them saying no no longer means they want you to stop. Do you disagree and why? Perhaps you could amswer that point instead of continuing to chant your mantra.
There is no evidence in Crawford case (the context of that subdiscussion) that the victim asked to play act a rape. None whatsoever. It is possible she may have asked in the past, but that is irrelevant to the case. So, one might wonder what your fascination with that straw man is.

However, I previously established my position on your irrelevant question. Earlier in this thread, I wrote " Second, and more importantly, no means no until the naysayer clearly indicates otherwise. " In your example, the naysayer clearly indicates otherwise. But in the absence of such an indication (and there was no evidence of such an indication in the Crawford case), no means no.
 
Interestingly, that in no way answers my question. So let's ask it again. Short of a confession from the alleged rapist, and considering that the sex takes place in private, what does evidence of rape consist of?
Anything can be evidence, including witness statements, physical evidence etc. The question is...

And again, not answering the question. Yes, anything can be evidence, but we've established there's no witnesses to the sex, and you can't name physical evidence of lack of consent. So let's ask it one more time.

Short of a confession from the alleged rapist, and considering that the sex takes place in private, what does evidence of rape consist of?

In case you've not grasped why I'm asking, would it be fair to say that you believe that, since it's impossible to evidence what occurs between two people in private, rape shouldn't be prosecuted at all? Certainly you seem to have adopted a standard of proof that you yourself can't meet, even hypothetically.

Often the available evidence doesn't ad up hill of beans much less reasonable doubt though.

Hm.. Not asking about likelihood though. I'm asking what an evidenced claim of rape would look like, given no witnesses. Can you standard of evidence actually be met, in practice?
 
But when she has previously said that no doesn't really mean no then how is he supposed to know if she really means no or if it's part of the game? That's the whole point of safewords.
First, you don't know if someone previously said no without meaning it. Second, and more importantly, no means no until the naysayer clearly indicates otherwise. FFS, two year olds are taught that.

Guess what? Mistakeningly thinking "no" means "yes" does not absolve a rapist from the act.

What you are missing is that when couples are playing rape fantasy games no does not usually mean no.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safeword
 
no, Derec, I did not. That is your own faulty assumptions at work here.

But when there is a woman tied down, duct taped over her mouth and eyes, visibly struggling, violently raped, AND she reports it as rape - people like you STILL insist she is a liar - which exactly proves my original point.
Nobody insists that she is a liar but that the prosecution didn't prove he was a rapist beyond a reasonable doubt which are very different things.
The rapist ADMITTED that she said "no". So apparently, not only have you proven my point that not even video evidence will ever convince you that any woman anywhere was raped, not even the rapist's confession that he did not have consent will do it.

I will ask again since you did not answer this: I want to know exactly what YOU would consider evidence of a rape short of a full confession from the rapist.

While I am not Derec, if it was agreed that she had used their safeword I would have no problem at all calling it rape. If they played such games without a safeword I don't believe it's possible to prove rape.
 
In the Crawford case, she was tied down and gagged and blindfolded: she could not communicate any safe word. Before the incident she refused to have sex and his response was to come up from behind, knock her over the head, drag her to the bed, tie her hands and feet, blindfold and gag her, cover her eyes with duct tape, set up a video camera and then rape his wife with various objects and his penis. Perhaps there is a way that I am aware of that she could have communicated a safe word. I can't think of one.

You're assuming that safewords must be verbal. Read the Wikipedia article I linked above, such cases are addressed.
 
But when she has previously said that no doesn't really mean no then how is he supposed to know if she really means no or if it's part of the game? That's the whole point of safewords.
First, you don't know if someone previously said no without meaning it. Second, and more importantly, no means no until the naysayer clearly indicates otherwise. FFS, two year olds are taught that.

Guess what? Mistakeningly thinking "no" means "yes" does not absolve a rapist from the act.

What you are missing is that when couples are playing rape fantasy games no does not usually mean no.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safeword
It is hard to believe you read the post you quoted, since it contains Second, and more importantly, no means no until the naysayer clearly indicates otherwise.
 
Back
Top Bottom