no harm no foul is what I say and he didn't have an issue with it. I would probably had more of an issue with it if I wasn't there and heard about it later. the people who were standing around watching were actually cheering her on to take it all the way to climax and he would have allowed it to happen.
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no harm no foul is what I say and he didn't have an issue with it. I would probably had more of an issue with it if I wasn't there and heard about it later. the people who were standing around watching were actually cheering her on to take it all the way to climax and he would have allowed it to happen.
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Isn't the difference down to erogenous zones versus non?
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It is all cultural.
There is a Pacific island where the exposed femal breats are not provocative, It is the thighs. Men and women go bare breasted away from tourist areas.
When missionaries got to Tahiti men and women were surfing naked. The Christians managed to stop it.
Breasts go back to the twisted Catholic church that turned sex into something bizarre. There are people today who get upset if a woman breast feeds in public. Think about it.
Clothes as we use them create a fantasy reality, IMO. For men women are in a constant state of a strip tease. Show a little here and a little there. Women wear short tight skirts and if someone stares they make an effort to pull it down. You can watch on cable news with women sitting with crossed legs. Once and a while a skirt gets pulled down even though it is only a fraction of an inch. Comical to me..
We have a maladjusted warped sexuality. Hyper sexuality.
In the old movies women all had bras that created perky pointed breasts. In the 60s women burned their bras. American men are obsessed with breasts. Starting in high school a girl might let a guy touch her breasts, a matter of pride for the guy.
From the other thread in the 80s when I lived coed with non romantic women once the novelty wears off being seen naked is no big deal.
Women wear low cut V blouses that guide your eyes down to the navel get upset if a guy says nice tits.
There is a Pacific island where the exposed femal breats are not provocative, It is the thighs. Men and women go bare breasted away from tourist areas.
When missionaries got to Tahiti men and women were surfing naked. The Christians managed to stop it.
Breasts go back to the twisted Catholic church that turned sex into something bizarre. There are people today who get upset if a woman breast feeds in public. Think about it.
Clothes as we use them create a fantasy reality, IMO. For men women are in a constant state of a strip tease. Show a little here and a little there. Women wear short tight skirts and if someone stares they make an effort to pull it down. You can watch on cable news with women sitting with crossed legs. Once and a while a skirt gets pulled down even though it is only a fraction of an inch. Comical to me..
We have a maladjusted warped sexuality. Hyper sexuality.
In the old movies women all had bras that created perky pointed breasts. In the 60s women burned their bras. American men are obsessed with breasts. Starting in high school a girl might let a guy touch her breasts, a matter of pride for the guy.
From the other thread in the 80s when I lived coed with non romantic women once the novelty wears off being seen naked is no big deal.
Women wear low cut V blouses that guide your eyes down to the navel get upset if a guy says nice tits.
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Do I have super powers? Because I can think to myself, without saying anything, the thoughts are clear to me, and completely to myself. Because of that, I can think things and not express them out loud, because honestly, is an anonymous woman looking for my input?
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Your super power is common sense. Vastly underrated these days.
My take on it--the first three are fine, the second three are not. The dividing line: The first three are fully exposed, the next two are partially exposed and the third is probably not visible at all. When you have put it fully on display it's a valid thing to comment on it's merits, but attire that merely draws attention to it is not.
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Or if we publicly tell a person "You look beautiful" or "You look handsome," we come to that determination because of those features. We applaud and appreciate general comments on each other's beauty and handsomeness, but if we get specific on what we think makes them beautiful or handsome then that is out of bounds and inappropriate.
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The exception, imo, would be tattoos. A lot of people specifically have them on display so that people will comment or ask questions.
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I couldn't care less what other people wear. I would never, ever comment on someone else's choice of clothing, unless it was a close friend or family member that wanted my honest opinion. Otherwise, I will admit that I'm often mildly amused by what other people wear. I just keep my amusement to my self. Sometimes my husband and I do have a little laugh at how some of the locals dress. My favorite is seeing someone in the grocery store wearing pajama bottoms and slippers with a t-shirt that doesn't match. But, there are plenty of amusing outfits to see in my fair city. Perhaps I should admire their ability to not give a fuck about how they look.
I do prefer clothing to nudity. Think of it this way. Most mammals have fur. Our closest relatives have fur, and bonobos are the only apes who openly show off their erotic parts. Birds have feathers. Mammals and birds would be ugly without their fur or feathers. People don't have fur or feathers, so we wear clothing to make us look more attractive, and to protect us from the elements. It's not a moral issue for me. I just don't find nudity attractive in the majority of cases. Sure, it's fun to be naked and uninhibited when you're having sex, but that's it for me. In public, I prefer keeping some things private and hidden from view.
So, do your thing and don't worry about what anyone else thinks of you. If I spend time fixing my hair, wearing jewelry, or making sure that my jeans fit me perfectly, I do it for myself and not for anyone else. And, other than my adoring husband, I'd prefer not to have any men make comments about my appearance. If a female friend tells me that she likes what I'm wearing or that I have pretty hair, that's cool. It's just not necessary. I have more than enough self esteem as it is.
I do prefer clothing to nudity. Think of it this way. Most mammals have fur. Our closest relatives have fur, and bonobos are the only apes who openly show off their erotic parts. Birds have feathers. Mammals and birds would be ugly without their fur or feathers. People don't have fur or feathers, so we wear clothing to make us look more attractive, and to protect us from the elements. It's not a moral issue for me. I just don't find nudity attractive in the majority of cases. Sure, it's fun to be naked and uninhibited when you're having sex, but that's it for me. In public, I prefer keeping some things private and hidden from view.
So, do your thing and don't worry about what anyone else thinks of you. If I spend time fixing my hair, wearing jewelry, or making sure that my jeans fit me perfectly, I do it for myself and not for anyone else. And, other than my adoring husband, I'd prefer not to have any men make comments about my appearance. If a female friend tells me that she likes what I'm wearing or that I have pretty hair, that's cool. It's just not necessary. I have more than enough self esteem as it is.
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and speaking from the husband side of funcouple and the receiver of the ACT, I was definitely OK WITH IT!
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It's NEVER ok to 'comment' on ones physical appearance (I'm talking about casually). One does NOT know what another is going through and random comments could be dangerous triggers. Imagine the teenager battling a deadly eating disorder having someone come up and say...."Wow, you've lost some weight....you look amazing....wish I could have that kind of self control." Blah blah blah. They have NO IDEA what they have just done, but given that ED have a 20%, that's 1 in 5, FATALITY rate.....that "innocent" albeit inappropriate comment could have been the "death" of another person.
at the same time...we can't walk around worrying that our nice comment is going to push someone over the edge.
Indeed. I don't want to live in a society built on coddled crybullying where everyone has to walk on eggshells all the time. But at the same time, people should refrain from oggling at others or making crass comments, especially to strangers.
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At the grocery store where I shop there was, for a few years, a stock girl who handled the frozen aisles who showed outrageous amounts of plumber's crack. She favored low-riding jeans, was constantly bending over her various boxes, and gave the shopper a good 2 to 3 inches of p.c. That's a lot when you're shopping for ice cream sandwiches. Every time I saw her, the same tight jeans and the same show. Each time I fantasized complaining at the front desk, but never did. I figured a supervisor would eventually get on her case. "Sandy! Fer chrissakes, pull up your pants. People are shopping for food here." She eventually wasn't there anymore. I don't know why. I don't miss her.
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Really. I assume ffc doesn't boob smack. She boob smacks down!
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Agreed. The last thing we all need to do is to take someone else's opinion to mind instead of just using inertia as an excuse for what we do or say. Also, not having to compliment someone on their outfit or looks isn't "stepping on egg shells". Stepping on "egg shells" is responding to the question, "Does this outfit make me look fat."
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How long have you and Mrs. Jimmy Higgins been married now?
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