You don't know that the marriage was (supposedly) monogamous.
Your phantasias are unconstrained by the facts.
He was devastated when he found out his wife had had an affair and his child wasn't his. A consensually 'open' marriage is completely inconsistent with being
surprised and devastated with finding out your wife has had outside sex.
In a way you are right. The marriage was certainly
not monogamous, but it was because his wife violated the marriage, not because it was agreed to beforehand.
You don't know that anyone had unprotected sex. Birth control fails.
Is there any straw you won't grasp? To what end would whether it was protected or unprotected sex in the marriage make a difference?
He DID 'consent' to being father to this child. The one that was growing in her belly. Does the man get to withdraw his consent if the child is the wrong gender? Has a physical or genetic abnormality? Is gay or transgender or ambiguously sexed? Hearing impaired? Blind? Has the wrong color hair?
Oy gevalt. He consented to the child growing in her 'belly' (womb or uterus, darling, we're not five years old),
with the understanding that the child growing in her 'belly' was his. We know this because he was devastated when he found out it was not his. In other words, he consented to another event which
did not happen.
When you consent to sex, Toni, do you consent to everything and anything sexual a man could do to you? If you consent to penis-in-vagina sex, does that mean you consented to anal sex? If you consented to being spanked on the bottom, does that mean you consented to being choked out?
Your double standards beggar belief. Do you think a
mother ought not be able to withdraw consent to being a mother for the child being the wrong gender, or any reason, or no reason at all?
You would scream blue murder if I suggested that a woman consenting to sex meant she was consenting to motherhood.
We do not know when the mother knew that her husband was not the father or how that information came to be revealed to either of them. For all we know, she believed her husband was the father of the child and only later considered it could have been the other guy. We do not know.
Irrelevant. I haven't suggested that she knew for certain he was the father and it is completely irrelevant whether she did.
He did not consent to be the father.