Rape culture also doesn't exist.
In your opinion, based entirely upon a completely unsupportable semantic argument that a "culture" can
only be defined by a monolithic majority of citizens who lack a certain
opinion, ignoring completely the fact that a minority of bullies do indeed rule the playground and have both the power
and the will to shape that culture any way they choose and that no voting booth can ever counter.
Do the majority create all of the news and entertainment that the citizens watch that can reinforce any culture category in a myriad of conscious and subconscious ways? No.
Do the majority create all of the laws and appoint all of the judges and make all of the policies and hire the police that can reinforce any culture category in a myriad of conscious and subconscious ways? No.
Do the majority hire the teachers and the principals and the professors and the deans of the schools that can reinforce any culture category in a myriad of conscious and subconscious ways? No.
Do the majority
STOP the minority bullies from acting
before causing harm in a myriad of conscious and subconscious ways? No.
So what would be a good indicator of a particular culture; that 51% signed a petition condemning a particular opinion, or that 1 out of every 2 professionals within that targeted culture reported that in spite of that petition, they are still within in a homophobic work environment and 61% of the children within that targeted culture reported a homophobic school environment and that 82% of the adults in that targeted culture reported homophobic attacks at something as universally public as a sporting event?

A petition affirming majority opinion on the one hand, or the majority
daily experiences of the targeted group on the other? Which one better defines the
culture such targeted individuals find themselves within? A piece of paper or being attacked at a football match or a school playground or at work? Hmmmmmmm. What in the world would define that
culture of abuse for the ones who are actually victimized by it? A piece of paper with well meaning signatures on it, or broken ribs 84% of the time you want to go watch a fucking
game?
Gee that's a tough one.
Aside from the profound myopic sophistry of your position that simply ignores the complex, hierarchical structures inherent to both a society and its various cultures, rape is not a belief or an opinion. So rape
culture would have nothing to do with what a majority of citizens
believe or affirm in a poll. It would instead have everything to do with how a minority of citizens
behave.
A minority of citizens like those who create the news and the entertainment that in a myriad of ways supports or otherwise dilutes/confuses/misconstrues pertinent aspects of the abuse; those who create the laws and appoint the judges and make all the policies and hire the police that in a myriad of different ways reinforces or otherwise dilutes/confuses/misconstrues pertinent aspects of the abuse; those who hire the teachers and the principals and the professors and the deans of the schools who....etc., etc., etc.
To say nothing of the fact that a minority
commit the abuse.
Such that,
believe it or not, for the majority of the targeted class of the abuse, they don't seem to agree with your opinion that it's only a monolithic majority of signatures on a petition that defines the culture of abuse they experience on a daily basis, because, unlike you, they aren't drawing an arbitrary line at semantics or only defining the word "culture," well,
culturally.
As incredible as it's going to seem to you, some people are using the word "culture" to apply to the
actions AND the
beliefs of a pervasive minority--
and majority--within subsections of the country as well as in regard to the country as a whole. It's not just about first imagining a monolithic majority and asking its opinion.
And some are using it as an indictment against those who proclaim to hold a certain positive opinion, yet still don't
act on that opinion when it comes time to use their individual power to vote or otherwise stand up and fight when it matters the most (at the point of and just after the abuse).
Like with your example of holding hands with your boyfriend and you noted that everyone else just minded their business instead of doing what they should have done as a monolithic entity; actively rise up together and at least verbally condemn the asshole for his comment and shamed him for being the bully on the playground.
What you're conveniently ignoring is that those people you praised for minding their own business did, in fact, act by
not acting. So it doesn't really matter all that much that someone voted their conscience or signed a petition or went to a gay pride parade if they never stand with the abused against the abusers
when they attack.
That other stuff is great on paper, of course and certainly strides forward, but unless we're talking about
actions not merely
opinions, then, well, 50% in the workplace get attacked; 61% in the schools get attacked; 84% at public sporting events; etc., regardless of what laws may be on the books or how many people voted in an election.
So, once again, your worthless opinion is noted and summarily dismissed.