Reality is reality whether you accept it or not.
I'm an old fart and your incredulity reminds me of me trying to explain to some Vietnamese villagers that I knew fairly well that we had landed "GIs" on the moon (For them American meant GI). They would have none of it. There was absolutely nothing I or anyone else could say that would convince them. They were incredulous because, to them, such a thing made absolutely no sense because the moon was just a light in the sky, not something people could land on. It was impossible for people to go there.
How would you have convinced them with "logic"? Remember, in their world view, the moon is just an unreachable light.
I assume we share a common logic.
We have access to reality. As you say, it is what it is.
And we know that in reality all the things that can be observed and distinguished as discrete entities can be counted.
We have no reason to think the situation is different in some other part of the universe simply because we can't see it.
It's no different than imagining a monster is in the closet because the door is shut.