TomC
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It looked like a response to Sigma, since it followed immediately.But I understand the confusion (I guess).
Tom
It looked like a response to Sigma, since it followed immediately.But I understand the confusion (I guess).
It was a reply to clarify that I do not fucking believe teachers need permission from parents to teach. But again, people just think I'm being dishonest so fuck off.It looked like a response to Sigma, since it followed immediately.But I understand the confusion (I guess).
Tom
Are you asking me this?Teachers don't need permission from parents to do their job. They work for the school board. Let me ask you something, do you believe that a student is more likely to succeed with or without parent participation?
That's all I was saying in my reply to that video and why I was in agreement with the parent in that video as that's why she was upset. Y'all must have saw who posted the video and thought some other shit. Something dumb like not wanted teachers to teach sexuality or Rhea accusing me of assuming that all parents are available and/or capable of being supportive EVEN THOUGH I ALREADY RECOGNIZED THAT IN MY FUCKING POST.Are you asking me this?Teachers don't need permission from parents to do their job. They work for the school board. Let me ask you something, do you believe that a student is more likely to succeed with or without parent participation?
I think that the main reason Catholic and other private schools out perform the public schools so much is due to having more engaged and invested parents. Parental participation is crucial.
Tom
Would you consider explaining your position? I actually object to looking at anything on Twitter on principle.Look I'm all for people challenging my positions but you gotta get my positions right first. Gosh
@Gospel it seems that @SigmatheZeta feels entirely appropriately that parents ought have no leverage over denying teachers from offering impartial and unbiased information about sexuality and sex.
Would you consider explaining your position? I actually object to looking at anything on Twitter on principle.Look I'm all for people challenging my positions but you gotta get my positions right first. Gosh
Would you consider explaining your position?
I am not sure about where I would put the boundaries, on that, but I am really strongly against giving the parents too much control. My parents were conservative Protestants, and while I would have appreciated being able to talk to a trusted teacher about my sexuality, I would have been afraid to say anything at all if my parents might have found out. Conservative Protestants can be extremely dangerous people.@SigmatheZeta @Gospel this is dumb.
@SigmatheZeta it seems @Gospel feels entirely appropriately that the conversation of whether a child is themselves gay or lesbian is a topic to discuss with parents, whenever possible.
A teacher having the "maybe you're gay" talk with a kid is a step too much.
Maybe the kid starts the "maybe I'm gay" conversation at which point the teacher says nothing beyond facts about gay and straight people and that both are valid lives to live is as far as it should extend
@Gospel it seems that @SigmatheZeta feels entirely appropriately that parents ought have no leverage over denying teachers from offering impartial and unbiased information about sexuality and sex.
These views are compatible.
A Twitter link is not an explanation. I have an obsessive-compulsive personality, which is a normal chacteristic of the Tourette's syndrome that I am diagnosed with. It is very important for me to avoid any social media that causes even neurotypicals to act like they've got OCD. It is reasonable for me to request accommodation.Would you consider explaining your position?
I think I've done enough explaining.
A Twitter link is not an explanation. I have an obsessive-compulsive personality, which is a normal chacteristic of the Tourette's syndrome that I am diagnosed with. It is very important for me to avoid any social media that causes even neurotypicals to act like they've got OCD. It is reasonable for me to request accommodation.
And I'm saying there is a razor's edge in that relationship.I am not sure about where I would put the boundaries, on that, but I am really strongly against giving the parents too much control. My parents were conservative Protestants, and while I would have appreciated being able to talk to a trusted teacher about my sexuality, I would have been afraid to say anything at all if my parents might have found out. Conservative Protestants can be extremely dangerous people.@SigmatheZeta @Gospel this is dumb.
@SigmatheZeta it seems @Gospel feels entirely appropriately that the conversation of whether a child is themselves gay or lesbian is a topic to discuss with parents, whenever possible.
A teacher having the "maybe you're gay" talk with a kid is a step too much.
Maybe the kid starts the "maybe I'm gay" conversation at which point the teacher says nothing beyond facts about gay and straight people and that both are valid lives to live is as far as it should extend
@Gospel it seems that @SigmatheZeta feels entirely appropriately that parents ought have no leverage over denying teachers from offering impartial and unbiased information about sexuality and sex.
These views are compatible.
Yes, there are cases where a young person might want to keep their parents out of all discussion about their sexuality. There are still too many situations where a young person's sexuality might become a cause for domestic violence.
So yes, I am paranoid about the idea of parents being brought unnecessarily into discussions about a young person's sexuality.
A simpler way for a teacher to discuss sexuality, rather than having a "maybe you are gay" talk, would be to discuss the simple reality that if you are gay, you don't "feel gay," and you don't "look gay," but you feel and look the same way you always have. At heart, it's not really something new. Your feelings toward people of your own gender, in your own age group, are just an extension of how you have always felt about them. A gay boy might find that other boys can make them feel strange and a little defensive. This does not mean that those other boys are really trying to hurt them, but it just means that those boys have more power to provoke reactions in them, both good and bad. Realizing you are gay is just forming a better understanding of why you have always had those feelings.
Many parents might object to that conversation, but many parents beat their children with a belt. You wouldn't demand that a teacher beat a student with a belt in order to enforce the parent's dysfunctional concept of "discipline," and you wouldn't expect a teacher to ask for a parent's feedback on whether or not their child should be beaten with a belt.
Teachers have a separate relationship with their students from the relationship between children and their parents, and that is an important boundary. There are truly things that young people can talk about with teachers that they could never bring up with their moms and dads, and this confidentiality is really a very important part of a teacher's job.
I don't think that either I nor Gospel thinks that parents have any right to withhold knowledge of sexuality and gender and identity from a child.
Okay.A Twitter link is not an explanation. I have an obsessive-compulsive personality, which is a normal chacteristic of the Tourette's syndrome that I am diagnosed with. It is very important for me to avoid any social media that causes even neurotypicals to act like they've got OCD. It is reasonable for me to request accommodation.
I didn't post the Twitter video. Trausti did that to make the argument that a child was coached into a trans identity. My reply was to Trausti to make the counterclaim that it wasn't what was being shown in the video. Instead (if you were to watch it) it was a concerned parent upset about being deliberately left out of the discussion and expressing her anger about the damage they caused to not only her relationship with her child (she actually said she would have been supportive if they would have given her a chance) as well as dealing with the horror of almost losing her child to suicide.
The breakdown in communication we're having here is you refusing to look at the video I responded to as well as attributing Trausti's argument to mine somehow. At least that's what I think.
Hence why I made the post: so friends stop talking past one another and realize they aren't at odds@Gospel it seems that @SigmatheZeta feels entirely appropriately that parents ought have no leverage over denying teachers from offering impartial and unbiased information about sexuality and sex.
I never made the claim that teachers need parents' permission to teach in fact I've repeatedly said it's their job.
I sort of might be.Hence why I made the post: so friends stop talking past one another and realize they aren't at odds@Gospel it seems that @SigmatheZeta feels entirely appropriately that parents ought have no leverage over denying teachers from offering impartial and unbiased information about sexuality and sex.
I never made the claim that teachers need parents' permission to teach in fact I've repeatedly said it's their job.
Okay.
Again, it is often necessary for teachers to preserve the confidentiality of their students, even in regard to their own parents. Kids are not always ready to come out to their parents.