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There are simply some things that some of us don't usually do, and there is often a reason why we won't usually do it. That we (ourselves) might not do something doesn't necessarily mean we have a problem with others doing it--or that we think it's wrong or think others shouldn't--sometimes yes, perhaps, but not always.
I, for example, rarely conduct any business regarding personal matters on company time. In fact, I will go out of my way (most of the time) to see that it doesn't happen. I think or plan ahead for the most part, and when I don't, I'll deal with whatever issue that needs to be dealt with during my own free time.
Keep in mind that the above is merely an example. It's an example of something that I don't usually do. Is there some reason behind it? Probably, I guess, but what I want to focus on goes well beyond the example--it's the reaction others might have to your usually not doing something when others (themselves) does or would do (or knows someone who does or would do) that which you (yourself) would not ordinarily do.
The reaction is in my experience prevalent. It's sometimes subtle, but it could very easily be characterized as defensiveness--even if it's disguised as otherwise. People (apparently) do not like it when others espouse their views of what they wouldn't ordinarily do when it's something the listener considers perfectly fine ... So, like a spring in action--there is almost always a response of some kind: 1) an interrogative --almost always a tale tell sign that the unspoken basis for the reasoning behind the espousal of the view is somehow relevant 2) a claim -- never verbalized unless their views are in discord with your own. 3) conversation of sorts --never fails--if you don't usually do something and let it be known, you will be met with agreement on occasion, but in the absence of agreement, never (hardly ever) does silence reign supreme; hence, someone's gonna (almost like gotta) ... They can't help themselves ... They must interject.
What's in the air (there seems to be) is a peaceful attempt on part of the listener to justify why they will or would do the very thing you have espoused to usually not do.
I didn't really have a question, but feel free to expound on the topic.
I, for example, rarely conduct any business regarding personal matters on company time. In fact, I will go out of my way (most of the time) to see that it doesn't happen. I think or plan ahead for the most part, and when I don't, I'll deal with whatever issue that needs to be dealt with during my own free time.
Keep in mind that the above is merely an example. It's an example of something that I don't usually do. Is there some reason behind it? Probably, I guess, but what I want to focus on goes well beyond the example--it's the reaction others might have to your usually not doing something when others (themselves) does or would do (or knows someone who does or would do) that which you (yourself) would not ordinarily do.
The reaction is in my experience prevalent. It's sometimes subtle, but it could very easily be characterized as defensiveness--even if it's disguised as otherwise. People (apparently) do not like it when others espouse their views of what they wouldn't ordinarily do when it's something the listener considers perfectly fine ... So, like a spring in action--there is almost always a response of some kind: 1) an interrogative --almost always a tale tell sign that the unspoken basis for the reasoning behind the espousal of the view is somehow relevant 2) a claim -- never verbalized unless their views are in discord with your own. 3) conversation of sorts --never fails--if you don't usually do something and let it be known, you will be met with agreement on occasion, but in the absence of agreement, never (hardly ever) does silence reign supreme; hence, someone's gonna (almost like gotta) ... They can't help themselves ... They must interject.
What's in the air (there seems to be) is a peaceful attempt on part of the listener to justify why they will or would do the very thing you have espoused to usually not do.
I didn't really have a question, but feel free to expound on the topic.
