Treedbear
Veteran Member
- Joined
- May 30, 2016
- Messages
- 2,567
- Location
- out on a limb
- Basic Beliefs
- secular, humanist, agnostic on theism/atheism
I don’t know if one needs a metaphysical anything to feel gratitude for those occasions of “happiness”. And not necessarily a human “someone” either. Nature does it for me. I feel gratitude to trees for breathable air; and to water and the ground and birdsong and so much else. I have an innate selection bias for the negative things in life, so happiness… or, I prefer the phrase “relative contentment”… is something I work at. Having a gratitude practice has helped a lot. I love to walk in the park, and when I do I don’t just try to be mindfully (bodily) present with the life in the park, I will often deliberately express my gratitude for all the life there in the park including 'mine'. There’s a boost in “relative contentment” with such deliberate practices.... Often the mistaken need to feel grateful in order to be happy leads to an intellectual conflict between the atheistic perspective and the need, ultimately, for a metaphysical purpose...
Perhaps you're on to something. Gratitude eludes me, but that might be due to having had a Catholic upbringing. Gratitude for such things meant thanks to God. Now I thank Darwin for revealing the true beauty behind such things. I appreciate nature for its complexity and how we (being part of nature) are able to recognize that and understand it. But don't let me dissuade you. I've been known to say that happiness is over-rated. As far as religions go I'm most attracted to Shinto for the way it seems to evoke an appreciation of and a respect for that relationship.