Insensitive would be telling your own "unwanted" child to eff off because you never want to see them again.
You don’t thnk of rape and abuse as traumatic at all, do you.
Your privilege is showing.
Insensitive would be telling your own "unwanted" child to eff off because you never want to see them again.
If your child will suffer things like hunger and isolation and the dangers of poverty with you is it immoral to give the child a better life?
If your child will suffer things like hunger and isolation and the dangers of poverty with you is it immoral to give the child a better life?
It doesn't cost a cent to say to a long lost child;
I love you,
I've missed you,
I wish I could have raised you.
Not one cent.
If your child will suffer things like hunger and isolation and the dangers of poverty with you is it immoral to give the child a better life?
It doesn't cost a cent to say to a long lost child;
I love you,
I've missed you,
I wish I could have raised you.
Not one cent.
If your child will suffer things like hunger and isolation and the dangers of poverty with you is it immoral to give the child a better life?
It doesn't cost a cent to say to a long lost child;
I love you,
I've missed you,
I wish I could have raised you.
Not one cent.
I'm not sure what you're asking. I twice said that it may often be the case that, following a pregnancy (that the mother does not wish to terminate) the best of many bad options is to put the child up for adoption. That doesn't make it any less bad in terms of its impact on the child and the parents' direct responsibility for it, despite doing everything in their power to mitigate it.Is it really moral to bring someone into existence and then declare yourself free from all responsibility toward that person? Are there any proper channels that could resolve the ethical problem of imposing the inevitable struggles of life on someone and asking someone else to foot the bill on your behalf? I realize in many cases that may be the best outcome for the child, but it still occurs within the larger context of an act of violence and disrespect toward her. You would basically be saying, under even the most charitable circumstances: "I was unable to prevent you from being born, and now that you're born, I'm unable to support you, but if I place you in state custody until somebody volunteers to take care of you, I deserve to be left alone by you forever." Not only are all the usual sufferings of life the responsibility of the parents, but the additional pain caused by the residual social stigma of being adopted is also traceable to the parents, even if adoption was the least bad option at the time. This is not to say that they should be punished and humiliated of course, but I dispute the argument that they are entitled to invisibility.
So, abortions then?
I don't share your assumption that life should be uncritically regarded as a gift. Life is precarious, boring, frustrating, and terminal in even the best cases. It's something the living are obliged to make better, because in itself it doesn't have much going for it. Being born into the adoption system doesn't help matters much.As I outlined in the OP, in the case of rape? You gift that someone with life and that’s not enough?
I'm saying no such thing. There is quite conceivably no equitable outcome that does not violate either the autonomy of the parents or that of their offspring. I'm just pointing out the difference between that interpretation and the one that allows the parents to remove themselves from the moral analysis.I’m surprised by those who say birth = forced parenthood.
I care about abortions, and I hope that society advances to regard them as morally laudable compared to giving birth to someone who must be submitted to a state bureau until they are adopted, which may never happen.For those who care about abortions, this will increase them.
Is there any real moral issue here?
A grown person is curious about their parents and family.
Finding out can be a good or bad experience.
This is an issue of wisdom not morality.
Is it wise to seek knowledge that may hurt you as opposed to living without knowing?