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??? There’s little evidence of an epidemic of violence against transsexuals when you actually look at each murder. Killed during robbery; shot sitting in car in Chicago; killed by mentally ill mother; are members of other demographics with high homicide/violence rates.
Often they are also shot by romantic partners.

And one case I remember involved a transgender sex worker stealing a client's car and trying to drive though an NSA barrier. Did not work out too well for her, but nobody can say that the shooting had anything to do with her being trans.
Driver killed at NSA identified as transgender sex worker, friend says
 
Anti-wokism tends to be associated with transphobia.

How do you define transphobia? I am pretty anti-woke (it's a stupid term and it and those who subscribed to it deserve derision) but I am not transphobic. I think people should live and let live.
I do not think people should be expected to provide "their pronouns" in say an academic setting just for the sake of a small minority who are trans. I think cis people putting "he/him" or "she/her" in your bio or demanding that all your employees do so is performative wokeness.
I do believe, however, that we should strive to honor people's wishes once expressed to a certain extent. I think there is a difference between legitimate trans people and zoomers who just want to be edgy by demanding people use weird pronouns like "xe" or singular "they".
I also do not think biological males should compete against biological women when being a biological make confers physiological advantage.
I do not think any of these things make me transphobic.
 
the more I interact with them, the more I want to punch them in the eye.
Is this the famous progressive/wokester tolerance I keep hearing about?
"Woke" culture literally promotes being angry over injustice. Therefore, that was actually the most "woke" remark that I have made throughout the entire thread. The slogan is "stay angry, stay woke." Therefore, there would really be no contradiction if I identified as "woke."

However, I do not really identify as "woke." I do not need to get myself psyched-up with rhetoric in order to remember that violence against LGBTQ was routine when I was growing up, back in the 1980's and 1990's. I actually have too much natural anger, and I have actually been trying to tone it down to where I can at least be functional in human society. I did not make very many friends by threatening to burn down their churches and slaughter their congregations like disease-ridden cattle, and it kind of made people think that I was insane. 2010 was about the time when I started to cool off.

Most of the time, when someone around me is confused about the fact that I am transgender, I can establish better relations with that person by simply helping that person to understand how awkward my position actually is. Most of the time, if I approach people on good faith terms, they really want to get along with me. I have found the majority of skeptics to be impressed with my understanding of science and with the fact that I am really more easygoing than they expected based on all of the "woke" rhetoric online. I am uncomplicated, and most people like that. People like easy. Getting along with me is cheap. I am selling at a price that people are willing to pay.

On the other hand, anti-wokeists do not deserve any such benefit of the doubt. As far as I can tell, they are the most useless bunch of cretins that I have ever had the displeasure of interacting with. It looks more like a lunatic cult than anything.
 
People, anti-wokeism is a cult. You might not realize you are in a cult, but you are in a cult. You are in an echo-chamber in which you have made a deranged religion where the leaping devils are every minority group that you have decided to use as a scapegoat.

You have been systematically reinforcing your ridiculous prejudices by picking fights with people that otherwise have easygoing natures. You bait and antagonize transgender people that start out with moderate views until you eventually do make them angry at you. You create a self-fulfilling prophecy. You do not want to have a positive interaction with a transgender woman, so you find ways to bait them and antagonize them until they eventually do say something angry to you. From there, you toss them into the "woke" bucket, so you can keep yourselves convinced that transgender people are all part of some sort of "woke religion."

If you wanted to meet a transgender woman that you could actually relate to, I am actually a dream. Unlike most people, I do not hold with the continental philosophy that is popular in the transgender community. I have never read any of Judith Butler's silly books, and I have no intention of doing so. I do not owe anymore to the prophet Derrida than I owe to the prophet Muhammad, and I don't really owe anything to the prophet Spencer, either.

Many transgender people get angry if you ask them for scientific proof. Some of them get offended by the term "transgenderism," and the reason why I know is that I have gotten trolled for using that term. That behavior is annoying. I get that. I have encountered transgender people that have that mindset, and what you should know about me is that I disagree with them.

Unlike many transgender people, I enjoy talking about science, and I like to talk about what is current in peer-reviewed research. I can keep up with any scientific conversation whatsoever. I have been obsessed with science since I was 14 years old (that's when I got really serious and learned how to find peer-reviewed journals), and I am going on 39.

If you wanted to find a transgender person that you could get along with and relate to, then I am the best thing you have got. I can talk to you in your own language. I could be your friend, and I could help you understand me on your own terms.

However, I think that some of you have gotten sucked into what amounts to a cult. I think that some of you have been hanging out in echo-chambers where you dwell on how aggrieved you are over "wokesters" that have bullied you, and instead of blaming the individuals that were overzealous about their ideology, you are determined to blame transgender people in general. You have gotten yourselves convinced that transgenderism (yes, I use that term non-pejoratively) is all part of a "woke religion."

If you are calling me a "pronoun warrior" and you are head-banging about how you are going to tear me down, you are not going to do anything to make your lives better. Also, you are not really going to make me or any other transgender people disappear. We are still going to be here.

Especially me. You see, many people are just really resistant to being driven to suicide. It's a mixture of open-mindedness and a risk-averse personality type. Weirdly, these personality traits seem to work together synergistically. I grew up in a conservative area, in the 1980's and 1990's, that also had a high crime-rate, and on top of that, I had a neurological disorder that made me stick out like a sore thumb. I will not say that I came out of that without a scratch. I actually had such severe PTSD that I was suffering from outright auditory hallucinations well into my 20's, and I occasionally suffered from serious seizures. In spite of all of that, I am still here. I am alive, I am fit, and I am more healthy for my age than I really deserve.

You are not going to make transgender people disappear. You are not going to do it by "disproving the woke religion." I have shown you the scientific evidence that it is literally impossible for us to be anything besides transgender. I can show it to you again if you want me to.

There is such a thing as a transgender person that you could get along with if you chose to get along with them. We come in all types. We come in all colors. We have smart ones, dumb ones, crazy ones, and ones that like to pretend they are little parrot-sized dragons.

If you choose to do so, you can establish a good rapport with me, but you would have to let go of the idea that I am ever going to stop being transgender. You would have to let go of the idea that I am ever going to find misgendering to be anything except profoundly irritating.

I really have strong libertarian instincts, although I do support the progressive tax rate because it just makes sense to me. I'm willing to agree to disagree on the progressive tax rate for the sake of moving on to other discussions that really mean more to me. I do not think that new laws are always a good way to deal with problems, and if you agree that we ought to legalize magic mushrooms and LSD (to name one example), then we have a starting point for topics on which we can relate. I do not think that we should make laws that police how you are or are not allowed to talk.

However, this is because I think that laws, on some things, are often counterproductive to their putative purposes. I think that we can do more through education than we can through punitive laws. I think that it is more useful to teach people about the causes of transgenderism (again, I use this non-pejoratively, which I think more transgender people should) and the real reasons why it is necessary to practice a social etiquette toward transgender people. I am convinced that most people are good, and I am convinced that most people, once someone has explained to them the reasons why getting a transgender person's pronouns right is important, would be glad to endorse the idea. I really have a positive outlook on human nature.

If you want to say that this makes me part of some "woke religion" as you call it, then your only basis for saying that is that I am transgender. You contradict yourself when you say, "I don't hate transgender people, just the woke religion that tells us we are supposed to believe in transgender people." The outcome is still that you are hateful toward transgender people.

If you have constructed your rhetoric so that it is literally impossible for a transgender person to be on the same side as you, then you should not be surprised if transgender people are telling you that you are hateful toward transgender people. The reason they tell you that you are hateful toward transgender people is that you actually are hateful toward transgender people. If you have decided that you will not have common ground with a transgender person, regardless of what that person's views actually are, then you are a transphobe.

Some of you are being called hateful fanatics because you actually are hateful fanatics.

If you are ready to let go of this ridiculous anti-woke cult that has separated you from transgender people that would otherwise have a lot in common with you, at least about some things (I doubt we will see eye-to-eye about the progressive tax, and that is okay), then we might have a starting point.

I never really agreed with "woke" philosophy, but the reason why is that being angry over the injustice against me, in the past, was my involuntary, almost reflexive reaction to growing up in a community where I was literally beaten bloody a few times over the fact that it was flaming obvious I was queer. If getting punched a few times does not make you burn with anger toward the cause of that violence, then you are not human. I could not help but have dreams of murder and fire. I had been hurt, and I was behaving like a person that had been hurt. That behavior really did not do much to make my life better. It just kept me in cycles of unhappiness.

However, one thing that "wokeism" is right about is the grim reality of injustice. Proponents of "wokeism" might be wrong about the right way to deal with it, but it is still a reality. Injustice is still a cause of pain for people that would otherwise be much better contributors to society if their society did not shatter them and wreck them to the point of them being barely functional. The part that "wokeism" got wrong was that the proponents erroneously saw the inevitable symptom of injustice, which is anger, as the solution, and it really is not. For a while, I saw anger as a remedy for feelings of helpless, but it never really made my life better. While I forgive myself for the fact that I still get angry sometimes, I no longer think it helps me.

There is a better way, and if you would just recognize that I am not trying to sell you a religion and that I am not trying to fool you, we can meet in the middle with a far better form of discourse.

I like the avatar system of dialogue. You can imagine me as a dragon, but for all that I care, you can imagine me as a featureless blue silhouette with nothing but a pair of eyes to distinguish it from others. Just imagine that I have a face, any kind of face, and try talking to me as you would talk to a person. Take the extra step of imagining that you are making eye-contact with something that has an internal experience, and this will greatly improve your communication. We cannot see eye-to-eye if you will not take the step of acknowledging that I have eyes. If we start there, we can bridge the communication gap.
 
So @Bomb#20, it would be really useful at this point, for establishing good faith, to just acknowledge, whether or not you knew already, "Sigma, it is indeed obvious that people are born transgender, and affirmation is clearly necessary for transgender people's health, especially that of transgender youth." Again, I do not care a button whether you already knew or not. I just need us to clear that communication hurdle, so I can know if it is okay to stop reposting those links.
It's not clear why you posted them in the first place; but I guess I need to congratulate you on having the sense not to post them a third time and become a living example of "What I tell you three times is true." But as far as I can see they have no bearing on any dispute I'm having with you; you seem to have invented out of whole cloth some position for me that you keep arguing against even though I've given you no reason to think whatever position you're fighting against is mine.

Do feel free to clarify your position.
I already stated my positions upthread and if you'd read for content instead of reading for tirade triggers you wouldn't have found them unclear.

But on one point my position is pretty much the same as yours: that evidence is required to back up truth claims. You are not conscientious about not making truth claims without evidence. Over and over, you make claims you have no evidence for about what's going on in other people's minds. My position is that you ought to stop doing that.

I increasingly find anti-wokeists to be the most abysmally useless pieces of <expletive deleted> that I have ever met on the Internet, though, and the more I interact with them, the more I want to punch them in the eye.
Well isn't that special?

I have been attempting to explain what my own positions are.
I'm pretty sure you just did.

Further, it's not clear why you imagine I would need to agree with your above assertion in order to "establish good faith". As far as I can see you haven't offered any evidence for it. There were no babies in the studies you posted. How the heck do you figure anisotropy in diffusion in the brains observed in teenagers and adults says anything one way or the other about whether the anisotropy arose before they were born or during childhood?

In other words, you ask us to speculate that the brain has a degree of plasticity that it does not, as far as anyone knows, have.
Why do you do that? Why do you over and over ignore the plain meaning of the words people say to you and impute some completely different meaning to it? I didn't say a bloody thing about brain plasticity. Read it again, and this time read for content. I'm obviously talking about the timing of brain changes. You made a truth claim about when something happens, and you say empirical evidence is required for truth claims, but nothing you presented was evidence for when brain diffusion becomes anisotropic. What time a change happens has jack squat to do with how plastic anything is.

Unless current conclusions regarding the likely bounds of neural plasticity were to have changed, I suspect that you would engage in outright magical thinking rather than the simpler acknowledgement that a person's gender identity is set at least by childhood.
Of course you would. You don't have a reason to suspect such a thing of me. Right there in the text I wrote that you quoted back to me, I offered childhood as the obvious alternative to in-utero. But you wouldn't let that stop you from making up garbage about me. You're a dragon, and you don't care.

Furthermore, speculation otherwise flies in the face of the current advice of the American Academy of Pediatrics. If you want to argue against some of the most highly educated doctors in the world, then be my guest. They do not take commands from me.

If you are attempting to deny that gender identity is fixed by the time it is recognizable, then you might as well be asserting that being transgender is just a "thought in my head" contrary to the evidence that I have offered.
Where the heck do you see me "attempting to deny that gender identity is fixed by the time it is recognizable"? Why do you make up garbage like that? What I denied is that you'd backed up your claim that people are born transgender. Birth happens years before transgenderism is recognizable. And I denied that agreeing with you about your ill-judged timing claim is necessary to "establish good faith". Accusing people of bad faith for not agreeing with you is called "poisoning the well".

I have furnished empirical evidence that my gender is something that I am stuck with. I have furnished you with the highly authoritative position statement of some of the most educated pediatric experts in the entire country.
Well, (a) if that's what you really meant to be so insistently and repeatedly arguing for, then why the devil didn't you say that, instead of posting a red-herring about it happening before birth? And (b), why the devil do you think it's something you need to convince me of? Where the heck did I say anything to suggest you aren't stuck with it? Of course you're stuck with it.

For me to be clear on what your position is, I need you to simply acknowledge that, based on the scientific knowledge that is currently available to us, my gender identity is most likely fixed, and as a consequence, it is sensible, practical, and reasonable for me to pursue the social affirmation of my gender identity, which is supported by a broad scientific consensus.
Of course it is. No duh! Where the hell did I suggest otherwise?

That doesn't mean I think the way you've been pursuing it here -- by misrepresenting other posters, by libeling them, by fantasizing about punching them in the eye -- is a practical, or reasonable, or ethical, or medically indicated strategy for getting what their consensus tells you you need.

For that matter, why do you care so much?

Because there is no realistic alternative to seeking gender-affirming care and asking for the support of our communities in seeking affirmation in our gender identity.
Bloody hell! Read for content! Why do you care so much ==> whether the anisotropy arose before they were born or during childhood? <== You have no realistic alternative to seeking gender-affirming care and asking for the support of your community in seeking affirmation in your gender identity, and that's the case whether your gender identity happened to you when you were two, or when you were four, or when you were zero, or when you were minus three months.

For us to do otherwise is untenable, and to demand otherwise of us is deranged.
Please point out the post in which somebody here demanded otherwise of you.

If what you keep posting links to prove is that people are transgendered because of brain anatomy, who do you think you're talking to, a Christian? You think I think it's caused by having a sinful immortal soul or something? I'm an atheist! Of course it's caused by brain anatomy! I don't need a study to tell me that. What else besides brain anatomy could cause it?

I am therefore physically different from a cis-gender person. To treat me as if I were the same as a cis-gender person would therefore be demented.
What kind of argument is that?!? A black person is physically different from a white person. Is it demented to treat black and white people the same? A gay person is physically different from a straight person. Is it demented to treat gay and straight people the same? An American of Japanese ancestry is physically different from an American of Irish ancestry. Is it demented to not lock up Japanese-Americans in internment camps simply because you wouldn't lock up Irish-Americans in internment camps? Half the progress in civil rights we've made has come from treating people like they were the same as people they're physically different from. (The other half the progress came from finally, just for the sheer novelty of it, treating the Constitution as if it means what it says.)

Someone that demands that I be given the same pronoun as a cisgender person is simply behaving like a lunatic for no reason.
"Demands"? Who has been making demands about pronoun use, apart from the Shawnee State administrators? Saying something another person doesn't want to hear is no more demanding anything than people who speak Spanish in front of English-speakers are demanding anything.

And "be given"? Why would you imagine a pronoun somebody utters is a gift to the person he's referring to? People aren't giving you pronouns. Pronouns are used for the benefit of the speaker, same as any other words. The function of pronouns is to make constructing a comprehensible sentence less computationally burdensome on the language-organ in the brain.

The use of terms like "woke religion" is inflammatory. Claiming that people are trying to "force a religion" on you is inflammatory.
Inflammatory?!? The SCOTUS is about to rule that Christians can force a woman to make a baby for no better reason than their religious belief that life begins at conception. That's inflammatory. What, should we then all refrain from saying Christians are "forcing a religion" on women, because saying that's what they're doing is inflammatory? The demands woke people make on the rest of us are inflammatory. Forcing their religion on us is inflammatory. People are running around in a commotion and you're blaming it on the news crew covering the fire. Why don't you try blaming the arsonist?

The anti-wokeists have basically just created a hate group for the sake of creating a hate group, and as a consequence, violence against transgender people has been getting worse every year for the last few years.
Okay then, let's talk about hate. One of the more consistent characteristics of woke behavior is their systematic tendency to commit libel against people who don't support their policies and don't pay lip service to their doctrines. They are, for the most part, hate mongers. You know it's true -- you're the one who wrote:

The "Woke Generation" failed. They decided to deal with their problems by destroying anybody that thought differently from how they do​

You also said "I do not appreciate views I do not have being projected on me". Well, news flash, neither does anyone else! When somebody hears the same lies being mindlessly recited about him over and over by the same group of people, it's human nature for him to start to hate whoever is spreading the lies. That's not "created a hate group for the sake of creating a hate group". That's simply paying back in like coin. We're a naturally reciprocating species.

I belabor this point because you have been a frequent perpetrator of libel against other posters. You have repeatedly projected views onto other members that they don't have. So if you want a society where people don't hate the woke, stop libeling people. Maybe if the woke see you take up being careful to be truthful about your opponents, they'll be inspired to emulate you and start being truthful about theirs, and then the rest of us won't feel so hated by them and won't hate them back.

"Be the change you want to see in the world."

For the sake of clearing up communication, then, it would be easier if you just acknowledged that you understand the contents of those articles, and I can stop reposting them.
You never had a reason to post them in the first place. You could have just asked me if I thought you could stop being transgendered, by willing yourself to or by taking a pill or whatever, and I'd have said, "No, of course you can't, it's ridiculous", and then you could have moved on to whatever conclusion you think follows from that impossibility.

Are you aware of the scientific evidence that transgender people are biologically different from cis-gender people and not realistically able to change this difference?
Asked and answered. Duh!

Furthermore, are you aware that there is a scientific consensus that gender-affirming care actually works to help improve transgender people's health?

You can just say "yes" and "yes," and, once we have established that, you can clarify what your views actually are.
It's fair to say there is a scientific consensus that well-chosen gender-affirming care works to help improve the average transgender person's health. But none of us is average. When you asked that question you were, ironically, attempting to oversimplify a massively complicated issue into a simple binary. That's not how scientific consensus works. We are all individuals. What's best for one person is not automatically what's best for another person. Some health care providers give what they regard as gender-affirming care to patients with gender dysphoria who later come to regret getting the treatment, but it's irreversible, and in some cases it does permanent damage to their health. So gender-affirming care always needs to be considered case-by-case.

You think pointing out that people who don't give a rat's ass about the First Amendment tend to be a problem for the rest of us is somehow by magic instilling fear of everybody with gender dysphoria? Is there anything else I say that causes people to be afraid of you? Should I keep my mouth shut about nuclear power being the safe and sane way to stop global warming in case somebody takes that as incitement to beat up trans people?

When I have a coworker threatening me just because I use my own freedom of speech to assert my gender identity when I disagree with his insinuations to the contrary, then that constitutes someone attempting to use physical violence to limit my own freedom of speech.
And that's a bad thing for him to do, because people shouldn't limit your freedom of speech.

So no, I am not saying there should necessarily be a law to tell you that there is a socially acceptable way to talk to and about transgender people. You should not need one. You should want people around you to believe that you have an above-average IQ. You should want people around you to not be embarrassed of you.
And if the people appalled by Prof. Meriwether had merely told him he was a below-average IQ embarrassment, and a "douche-flute" if they were so inclined, and they hadn't escalated the matter beyond speech vs. counterspeech, then they wouldn't have lost a lawsuit, this thread never would have happened, and the smartest guy remaining in IIDB wouldn't have gotten fed up with one fabrication about him too many and piped us all to /dev/null.

This isn't about you. This is about Shawnee State and its administrators' apparent preference for an ideological monoculture.

If you are taking the position that employers should not have a right to set standards of decorum, then I can recognize that as a point-of-view that you might actually have.
There are employers and then there are employers. What standard is acceptable for a bank to set is not automatically the same as what is acceptable for a state university to set. For better or worse, there's a body of constitutional case-law holding that free speech rights include academic freedom for college professors. This is not an elementary school where the government is supplying the teacher with a captive audience; a college is not a "safe place" where people come to be told what they want to hear or what their parents or health-care providers think is in their best interests to hear. Students listen to a professor because they think they have something to learn from her. She has a considerable level of discretion to decide how she wants to teach; and if students find a professor doesn't fulfill their needs, they're free to go find one who does.
 
It is a bit of a mystery why some people in the civilian world want to belittle and intimidate others by using inappropriate pronouns.
It is a bit of a mystery why you think people 'in the civilian world' want to do that. You are begging the question.
Do you know why some people express hostility about using the pronoun a particular person prefers?
Yes: because it is trying to compel somebody's speech, and, in some cases, forcing them to say things they do not believe.

Is there some altruistic motive behind this kind of behavior?
It depends on what you mean by "altruism". For example, when black people fought for civil rights in America in the 1960s, they surely stood to gain personally, but other people also stood to gain.
"Trying to compel somebody's speech" is an interesting take on it. If a person chooses to demonstrate antisocial behavior,, or as I said in an earlier post, be an insufferable prick, they can expect to have a social stigma put upon them. It's really no different than when Black people fought for the civil rights and racists became to be seen as insufferable pricks.

Perhaps in a generation those who insist that misprouning people is an act of defying tyranny will be seen in the same light as those who once refused to concede that Cassius Clay is now known as Mohammed Ali. It's pretty much the same thing.
You can change your name. You can't change your sex.
A person with a vulva changes their name to John Robert and that's okay, but you draw the line at him and his. Got it.
Of course it's okay. People have changed their names throughout history. I used to live next door to a man who changed his last name to 'Death'.

You can't change your sex. I'm sorry if I draw the line at 'reality'.
I presume he didn't wander the neighborhood in a black robe and carrying a scythe.
No. This was a long time ago so I don't remember him well, but no, he didn't do that. I assume he just thought it was edgy to have that last name.

Okay, a quick update. A person can choose a name which seems inappropriate for their current vital signs, or a name not generally associated with their genital status, as you perceive it, and you are happy to accede to their wishes. You'll call a living person Death and someone you believe to be a man, Mary, simply because they requested you to do so.

However, you are offended if Mr. Death wants to be a she
I'm not offended. I just understand it is literally impossible for Mr Death to change sex, and I don't want the State to force me to pretend he is a she. The Australian government has punished people for "misgendering".

and this strains your social graciousness to the point you feel justified in returning the offense.
I am not offended, and calling biological males 'he' is not returning an offense. Not practising your religion or participating in your delusion is not 'returning an offense'.
If you issue the disclaimer, "No offense intended," before using a pronoun which a person does not want used for them, I'm sure no one will think less of you because of it.
Why would I issue any such disclaimer? Why should the default presumption be that I intend offense?
Gee. Let's see if we can analyze this and find and answer for you. A person has a personal preference about how others refer to them
And as we have seen on this and other threads, there are all kinds of personal preferences that you and others are willing to not respect, such as using bug/bugself, or lord/master.

So, why must I respect some pronouns and not others?
You don't have to. The consequences for your antisocial behavior rest solely on you.
So, why is refusing to use 'bugself' not antisocial?
I'm still interested in a good answer to this question. From Bronzeage if possible but from anybody else will do.
 
It is a bit of a mystery why some people in the civilian world want to belittle and intimidate others by using inappropriate pronouns.
It is a bit of a mystery why you think people 'in the civilian world' want to do that. You are begging the question.
Do you know why some people express hostility about using the pronoun a particular person prefers?
Yes: because it is trying to compel somebody's speech, and, in some cases, forcing them to say things they do not believe.

Is there some altruistic motive behind this kind of behavior?
It depends on what you mean by "altruism". For example, when black people fought for civil rights in America in the 1960s, they surely stood to gain personally, but other people also stood to gain.
"Trying to compel somebody's speech" is an interesting take on it. If a person chooses to demonstrate antisocial behavior,, or as I said in an earlier post, be an insufferable prick, they can expect to have a social stigma put upon them. It's really no different than when Black people fought for the civil rights and racists became to be seen as insufferable pricks.

Perhaps in a generation those who insist that misprouning people is an act of defying tyranny will be seen in the same light as those who once refused to concede that Cassius Clay is now known as Mohammed Ali. It's pretty much the same thing.
You can change your name. You can't change your sex.
A person with a vulva changes their name to John Robert and that's okay, but you draw the line at him and his. Got it.
Of course it's okay. People have changed their names throughout history. I used to live next door to a man who changed his last name to 'Death'.

You can't change your sex. I'm sorry if I draw the line at 'reality'.
I presume he didn't wander the neighborhood in a black robe and carrying a scythe.
No. This was a long time ago so I don't remember him well, but no, he didn't do that. I assume he just thought it was edgy to have that last name.

Okay, a quick update. A person can choose a name which seems inappropriate for their current vital signs, or a name not generally associated with their genital status, as you perceive it, and you are happy to accede to their wishes. You'll call a living person Death and someone you believe to be a man, Mary, simply because they requested you to do so.

However, you are offended if Mr. Death wants to be a she
I'm not offended. I just understand it is literally impossible for Mr Death to change sex, and I don't want the State to force me to pretend he is a she. The Australian government has punished people for "misgendering".

and this strains your social graciousness to the point you feel justified in returning the offense.
I am not offended, and calling biological males 'he' is not returning an offense. Not practising your religion or participating in your delusion is not 'returning an offense'.
If you issue the disclaimer, "No offense intended," before using a pronoun which a person does not want used for them, I'm sure no one will think less of you because of it.
Why would I issue any such disclaimer? Why should the default presumption be that I intend offense?
Gee. Let's see if we can analyze this and find and answer for you. A person has a personal preference about how others refer to them
And as we have seen on this and other threads, there are all kinds of personal preferences that you and others are willing to not respect, such as using bug/bugself, or lord/master.

So, why must I respect some pronouns and not others?
You don't have to. The consequences for your antisocial behavior rest solely on you.
So, why is refusing to use 'bugself' not antisocial?
I'm still interested in a good answer to this question. From Bronzeage if possible but from anybody else will do.
I am truly flattered that you value my opinion, but any further exploration of this matter would only hurt your feelings.
 
It is a bit of a mystery why some people in the civilian world want to belittle and intimidate others by using inappropriate pronouns.
It is a bit of a mystery why you think people 'in the civilian world' want to do that. You are begging the question.
Do you know why some people express hostility about using the pronoun a particular person prefers?
Yes: because it is trying to compel somebody's speech, and, in some cases, forcing them to say things they do not believe.

Is there some altruistic motive behind this kind of behavior?
It depends on what you mean by "altruism". For example, when black people fought for civil rights in America in the 1960s, they surely stood to gain personally, but other people also stood to gain.
"Trying to compel somebody's speech" is an interesting take on it. If a person chooses to demonstrate antisocial behavior,, or as I said in an earlier post, be an insufferable prick, they can expect to have a social stigma put upon them. It's really no different than when Black people fought for the civil rights and racists became to be seen as insufferable pricks.

Perhaps in a generation those who insist that misprouning people is an act of defying tyranny will be seen in the same light as those who once refused to concede that Cassius Clay is now known as Mohammed Ali. It's pretty much the same thing.
You can change your name. You can't change your sex.
A person with a vulva changes their name to John Robert and that's okay, but you draw the line at him and his. Got it.
Of course it's okay. People have changed their names throughout history. I used to live next door to a man who changed his last name to 'Death'.

You can't change your sex. I'm sorry if I draw the line at 'reality'.
I presume he didn't wander the neighborhood in a black robe and carrying a scythe.
No. This was a long time ago so I don't remember him well, but no, he didn't do that. I assume he just thought it was edgy to have that last name.

Okay, a quick update. A person can choose a name which seems inappropriate for their current vital signs, or a name not generally associated with their genital status, as you perceive it, and you are happy to accede to their wishes. You'll call a living person Death and someone you believe to be a man, Mary, simply because they requested you to do so.

However, you are offended if Mr. Death wants to be a she
I'm not offended. I just understand it is literally impossible for Mr Death to change sex, and I don't want the State to force me to pretend he is a she. The Australian government has punished people for "misgendering".

and this strains your social graciousness to the point you feel justified in returning the offense.
I am not offended, and calling biological males 'he' is not returning an offense. Not practising your religion or participating in your delusion is not 'returning an offense'.
If you issue the disclaimer, "No offense intended," before using a pronoun which a person does not want used for them, I'm sure no one will think less of you because of it.
Why would I issue any such disclaimer? Why should the default presumption be that I intend offense?
Gee. Let's see if we can analyze this and find and answer for you. A person has a personal preference about how others refer to them
And as we have seen on this and other threads, there are all kinds of personal preferences that you and others are willing to not respect, such as using bug/bugself, or lord/master.

So, why must I respect some pronouns and not others?
You don't have to. The consequences for your antisocial behavior rest solely on you.
So, why is refusing to use 'bugself' not antisocial?
I'm still interested in a good answer to this question. From Bronzeage if possible but from anybody else will do.
I am truly flattered that you value my opinion, but any further exploration of this matter would only hurt your feelings.
So, you can't answer my question. I thought so.

Anyone else care to?
 
still interested in a good answer to this question. From Bronzeage if possible but from anybody else will do.
For what it's worth, that huge pile of nested quotes was too difficult to read, much less answer.

It's not just you, by any stretch. It's become very common on IIDB. I just happened to mention it when I found myself with a post so quote nested that it literally had no words in the middle, just orange vertical lines.

Like I said, it's not just you. Bronze Age's post was every bit as unintelligible.
Tom
 
So @Bomb#20, it would be really useful at this point, for establishing good faith, to just acknowledge, whether or not you knew already, "Sigma, it is indeed obvious that people are born transgender, and affirmation is clearly necessary for transgender people's health, especially that of transgender youth." Again, I do not care a button whether you already knew or not. I just need us to clear that communication hurdle, so I can know if it is okay to stop reposting those links.
It's not clear why you posted them in the first place; but I guess I need to congratulate you on having the sense not to post them a third time and become a living example of "What I tell you three times is true." But as far as I can see they have no bearing on any dispute I'm having with you; you seem to have invented out of whole cloth some position for me that you keep arguing against even though I've given you no reason to think whatever position you're fighting against is mine.

Do feel free to clarify your position.
I already stated my positions upthread and if you'd read for content instead of reading for tirade triggers you wouldn't have found them unclear.

But on one point my position is pretty much the same as yours: that evidence is required to back up truth claims. You are not conscientious about not making truth claims without evidence. Over and over, you make claims you have no evidence for about what's going on in other people's minds. My position is that you ought to stop doing that.

Not everything that I say is specifically a response to your particular views. I have a lot to say on the subject, in general.

*snaps her tail with a loud crack*

Now, pay attention. There are others in this thread besides you and myself. There is at least one douche-flute here that claims that the fact that I am transgender is "just a thought in my head," regardless of the fact that I have offered evidence to the contrary. There is at least one raving lunatic here that claims that I am trying to bring an end to civilization only by asking people around me to call me she/her, s'il vous plait, merci beaucoup.

Also, the general anti-woke movement, throughout the country, has become particularly toxic surrounding conservative politicians like DeSantis. He has signed a bill that literally makes it a crime for a teacher to have a copy of Heather Has Two Mommies on the bookshelf or to talk about the families of children that actually do have same-sex parents. They are calling people "groomers" if they object to that lunacy. Furthermore, transphobia, in the United States, has been surging for the past three years, at least, and as someone that has already experienced the violence of the 1980's and the 1990's, I know, from experience, that that kind of hate can get seriously out-of-hand.

There are several issues that I talk about in these posts, not just views specifically stated by you.

I increasingly find anti-wokeists to be the most abysmally useless pieces of <expletive deleted> that I have ever met on the Internet, though, and the more I interact with them, the more I want to punch them in the eye.
Well isn't that special?

I have been attempting to explain what my own positions are.
I'm pretty sure you just did.

Further, it's not clear why you imagine I would need to agree with your above assertion in order to "establish good faith". As far as I can see you haven't offered any evidence for it. There were no babies in the studies you posted. How the heck do you figure anisotropy in diffusion in the brains observed in teenagers and adults says anything one way or the other about whether the anisotropy arose before they were born or during childhood?

In other words, you ask us to speculate that the brain has a degree of plasticity that it does not, as far as anyone knows, have.
Why do you do that? Why do you over and over ignore the plain meaning of the words people say to you and impute some completely different meaning to it? I didn't say a bloody thing about brain plasticity. Read it again, and this time read for content. I'm obviously talking about the timing of brain changes. You made a truth claim about when something happens, and you say empirical evidence is required for truth claims, but nothing you presented was evidence for when brain diffusion becomes anisotropic. What time a change happens has jack squat to do with how plastic anything is.

I find such naivette, regarding how the central nervous system develops, to be shocking. It is doubtful to me that such large differences in connectivity are amenable to changing readily during development. I assumed that most people possessed of any interest in science at all understood that the brain you have is, to a large extent, the brain you are stuck with. Besides subtle things you can do to guard yourself against cognitive degeneration later in life and weak evidence regarding the efficacy of nootropics like bacopa monnierri and hericium erinaceus, your ability to change how your brain is connected, throughout most of your lifetime, is actually a little bit limited. While you can slightly improve your general cognitive performance over long periods of time if you do a lot to exercise your brain every day, it is actually unusual and extraordinary if you can fundamentally change how your brain is put together. I tend to take this to be general knowledge.

Therefore, I was really shocked when you asked me when a person's brain becomes this way. As far as I know, the way that y our brain is fundamentally put together when you are a small child is a fairly good predictor of how it will be fundamentally put together when you are an adult.

I assumed that the statement from the American Academy of Pediatrics would give you enough information to satisfy you, in regard to the position that a person's gender identity is pretty much set from early childhood. If you find their sources to be inadequate, I would like to know which ones you contend are inadequate.

If you want me to, I can cite a single study that specifically finds sex-atypical brain connectivity in transgender children. This article by a team including Nota, Kruekels, and several other highly educated doctors concludes that transgender children have sex-atypical brains. If you want to pull up the entire article on Sci-Hub, then be my guest. Here is the abstract.

Brain functional connectivity patterns in children and adolescents with gender dysphoria: Sex-atypical or not?​

Author links open overlay panelNienke M.NotaaBaudewijntje P.C.Kreukelsb
Martinden HeijeraDick J.VeltmancPeggy T.Cohen-KettenisbSarah M.Burked1JulieBakkerbe1
Various previous studies have reported that brains of people diagnosed with gender dysphoria (GD) show sex-atypical features. In addition, recent functional magnetic resonance imaging studies found that several brain resting-state networks (RSNs) in adults with GD show functional connectivity (FC) patterns that are not sex-atypical, but specific for GD. In the current study we examined whether FC patterns are also altered in prepubertal children and adolescents with GD in comparison with non-gender dysphoric peers. We investigated FC patterns within RSNs that were previously examined in adults: visual networks (VNs), sensorimotor networks (SMNs), default mode network (DMN) and salience network. Thirty-one children (18 birth assigned males; 13 birth assigned females) and 40 adolescents with GD (19 birth assigned males or transgirls; 21 birth assigned females or transboys), and 39 cisgender children (21 boys; 18 girls) and 41 cisgender adolescents (20 boys; 21 girls) participated. We used independent component analysis to obtain the network maps of interest and compared these across groups. Within one of the three VNs (VN-I), adolescent transgirls showed stronger FC in the right cerebellum compared with all other adolescent groups. Sex differences in FC between the cisgender adolescent groups were observed in the right supplementary motor area within one of the two SMNs (SMN-II; girls > boys) and the right posterior cingulate gyrus within the posterior DMN (boys > girls). Within these networks adolescent transgirls showed FC patterns similar to their experienced gender (female). Also adolescent transboys showed a FC pattern similar to their experienced gender (male), but within the SMN-II only. The prepubertal children did not show any group differences in FC, suggesting that these emerge with aging and during puberty. Our findings provide evidence for the existence of both GD-specific and sex-atypical FC patterns in adolescents with GD.​

And I can assure you that it is not possible to raise a transgender child to be anything besides transgender. My father's attempts to teach me how to hunt and fish only made me a transgender girl that knew how to hunt and fish. I could still dress a deer if I wanted to. I had a hermaphroditic rolepaying character (a highly feminine one) by the time I was 14, and I only took that long because I was a late-bloomer.

*spreads out her wings and poses in her shiny black glory* Of course, since that secret roleplaying character was once my only outlet for my real gender identity, I actually did develop a deep emotional attachment to dragons that has, as you can see, stuck like crazy glue.

I think that the chances that transgender children are not set on that course from birth are trivial. The science is still young, but I think that it will eventually be proved that transgender people literally are born as such, assuming it has not been already and I have merely failed to find the publication that proves it.

*looks at you levelly with her absinthe-green eyes, and her white teeth flash against her scaly, jet muzzle as she speaks*

I do not know if you have heard of dissociative identity disorder. The boy my biological sire raised was a perfect, little rural Christian boy. He was everything that his father had wanted. He was tough, and he was not afraid to go for a tumble. He was a crackshot with a rifle and quick with a shotgun, and he would fearlessly swim in the same water as 8 foot long alligators. He could hold his own in a fight with a larger boy than himself, and he had a deadly choke-hold. I wonder what happened to that boy.

*flicks out her pale pink tongue* I ate him, of course.

He was a contrived persona. He was a character in a play. I kept on playing that role, so I could continue having the affection of my father a little bit longer. However, the longer I kept playing in that role, the more flat and insincere the lines sounded to my own ears. The problem was that I had never meant any of it. I finally made up my own ending where a dragon came down and ate him in the end. That part of the play was closer to being true than any other part. All of it was a lie.

Sure, maybe you say that believe me. I need to keep saying it because it needs to be said. If your child is transgender, then you can have a living and healthy transgender child, or you can have a corpse. There is a third scenario, though. The third scenario is where a dragon comes down from the sky and eats your child, and then the dragon will never like you very much.

The reason why I do not have any truck with "woke" philosophy is that I have already gone through the phase of my life where I was constantly angry all of the time and never stopped being angry. I was savage, and I was cruel. I was a monster that had forgotten how to feel any emotion besides vengeance.

No, it did not make my life better, but it made me incredibly lonely. People that sympathized with me at first would begin to distance themselves from me. One day, there would be some relatively weirder than usual detail about my life that would come out, or I would share one of my more controversial views. As soon as the grounds for a scandal were there, I would be anathema because I had not made a single real friend.

But that was not the dragon. The dragon is just a playful flirt and a nerd. The part of me that raged was a different sort of animal, and it was one that I really never particularly liked.

It is true that many of the people that follow "woke" philosophy are obsessed with outrage, and it is true that that outrage is really unhealthy. However, I know why they do it. Being angry feels slightly more comfortable, in the moment, than feeling helpless.

However, there is a better way.

Unless current conclusions regarding the likely bounds of neural plasticity were to have changed, I suspect that you would engage in outright magical thinking rather than the simpler acknowledgement that a person's gender identity is set at least by childhood.
Of course you would. You don't have a reason to suspect such a thing of me. Right there in the text I wrote that you quoted back to me, I offered childhood as the obvious alternative to in-utero. But you wouldn't let that stop you from making up garbage about me. You're a dragon, and you don't care.

It constitutes a politically meaningless difference, except perhaps to a father that thinks he can stop his son from being transgender by teaching him to fish, skin a deer, and play football. You don't strike me as that stupid.

I say that transgender people may as well be assumed to be born that way, and my reason why is that it strikes me as unlikely that the neurological connections that determine gender identity are formed during childhood rather than during gestation. I believe that gestation is a simpler and therefore more likely explanation. There is significantly more developmental plasticity, then. It requires less imagination than it takes to suggest that gender identity somehow forms during childhood.

Furthermore, speculation otherwise flies in the face of the current advice of the American Academy of Pediatrics. If you want to argue against some of the most highly educated doctors in the world, then be my guest. They do not take commands from me.

If you are attempting to deny that gender identity is fixed by the time it is recognizable, then you might as well be asserting that being transgender is just a "thought in my head" contrary to the evidence that I have offered.
Where the heck do you see me "attempting to deny that gender identity is fixed by the time it is recognizable"? Why do you make up garbage like that? What I denied is that you'd backed up your claim that people are born transgender. Birth happens years before transgenderism is recognizable. And I denied that agreeing with you about your ill-judged timing claim is necessary to "establish good faith". Accusing people of bad faith for not agreeing with you is called "poisoning the well".

I assume, then, that you acknowledge that gender identity is fixed at least by childhood. That's good to know. I am far too lazy and busy to go through the entire thread to figure out where you might have mentioned that viewpoint before, so it is useful if you just tell me.

I have furnished empirical evidence that my gender is something that I am stuck with. I have furnished you with the highly authoritative position statement of some of the most educated pediatric experts in the entire country.
Well, (a) if that's what you really meant to be so insistently and repeatedly arguing for, then why the devil didn't you say that, instead of posting a red-herring about it happening before birth? And (b), why the devil do you think it's something you need to convince me of? Where the heck did I say anything to suggest you aren't stuck with it? Of course you're stuck with it.

Thank you. *clicks her claws against her perch appreciatively* I can assure you that it is even more awkward for me than it is for others. It is better if others around me are at least aware of that fact.

For me to be clear on what your position is, I need you to simply acknowledge that, based on the scientific knowledge that is currently available to us, my gender identity is most likely fixed, and as a consequence, it is sensible, practical, and reasonable for me to pursue the social affirmation of my gender identity, which is supported by a broad scientific consensus.
Of course it is. No duh! Where the hell did I suggest otherwise?

It is good to have that cleared-up, then!

That doesn't mean I think the way you've been pursuing it here -- by misrepresenting other posters, by libeling them, by fantasizing about punching them in the eye -- is a practical, or reasonable, or ethical, or medically indicated strategy for getting what their consensus tells you you need.

Then anti-wokeists should abstain from being annoying douche-flutes.

For that matter, why do you care so much?

Because there is no realistic alternative to seeking gender-affirming care and asking for the support of our communities in seeking affirmation in our gender identity.
Bloody hell! Read for content! Why do you care so much ==> whether the anisotropy arose before they were born or during childhood? <== You have no realistic alternative to seeking gender-affirming care and asking for the support of your community in seeking affirmation in your gender identity, and that's the case whether your gender identity happened to you when you were two, or when you were four, or when you were zero, or when you were minus three months.

*raises up one wing and waves it around for attention* From birth seems to be more likely because neural plasticity is significantly higher during gestation. While it is not necessarily impossible, as far as I know, that there could a period during early post-natal development where a child's prospective gender identity, by early puberty, could change, I am not aware of any evidence of such a phenomenon. I believe that it is simpler to extrapolate that prenatal conditions most likely influence a person's likely gender identity.

For us to do otherwise is untenable, and to demand otherwise of us is deranged.
Please point out the post in which somebody here demanded otherwise of you.

Someone demanding that I should be called by male pronouns only because of my assigned sex at birth is deranged, and I think it's kind of crazy. Some of the more extreme anti-wokeists demand this. Maybe you haven't, but you would be surprised at how often I run into anti-wokeists that insist on that lunacy. That is without even going on Twitter. I'm not even sure what happens on there.

No, please, don't accuse me of projecting that onto you. I am complaining about it to you, and I am hoping that you will give a shit.
 
If what you keep posting links to prove is that people are transgendered because of brain anatomy, who do you think you're talking to, a Christian? You think I think it's caused by having a sinful immortal soul or something? I'm an atheist! Of course it's caused by brain anatomy! I don't need a study to tell me that. What else besides brain anatomy could cause it?

I am therefore physically different from a cis-gender person. To treat me as if I were the same as a cis-gender person would therefore be demented.
What kind of argument is that?!? A black person is physically different from a white person. Is it demented to treat black and white people the same? A gay person is physically different from a straight person. Is it demented to treat gay and straight people the same? An American of Japanese ancestry is physically different from an American of Irish ancestry. Is it demented to not lock up Japanese-Americans in internment camps simply because you wouldn't lock up Irish-Americans in internment camps? Half the progress in civil rights we've made has come from treating people like they were the same as people they're physically different from. (The other half the progress came from finally, just for the sheer novelty of it, treating the Constitution as if it means what it says.)

While men and women should have the same opportunities, they are actually born with different neurology. This is where I am going to make myself unpopular with the followers of the Prophet Derrida, but the followers of the Prophet Derrida are fucking useless idiots. There is just no getting away from it: the genders are different. This is not because they have "different essences" or some stupid Hegelian shit, but it has more to do with connectivity between the hemispheres through the corpus callosum, hemispheric symmetry, and many other differences between most members of the sexes.

However, gay men's brains are really structured more like those of heterosexual women, in certain important aspects, than those of heterosexual men, but this does not mean that they are transgender, because gender dysphoria is related to a specific set of white matter tracts that influence self-perception. This makes them apart from either straight cis-men or straight cis-women or transgender people.

Equality is a different concept from sameness.

Someone that demands that I be given the same pronoun as a cisgender person is simply behaving like a lunatic for no reason.
"Demands"? Who has been making demands about pronoun use[...]?

Have you not been paying attention to some of the more ridiculous conversation in here? I am not going to bother digging it up for you.

And "be given"?

Yes. I prefer to be called "she" and "her." To be more accurate, I choose these because they are simpler than my real preference, which is "sie" and "hir." Nobody would remember those. They represent a generally feminine but not absolutely female non-binary gender identity. Also, I feel that my gender identity is "lopsided." I think that, in some aspects, I am hyper-feminized beyond what is usual for women, but in other aspects, I am not really feminized at all. The "sie" and "hir" set refers to this uniqueness. However, it is easier to just say "she" and "her," and I prefer to make the lives of others around me easy.

Most people in my life have gone along with this. One thing that surprised me was that, when I approach people with polite assertiveness, they tend to be more respectful toward me than I ever thought they would be. I was really pleasantly surprised by this. I think that most people really just want to be on polite terms with you, and giving you your preferred pronoun is a simple way for them to lobby for equal respect from you in return.

In fact, when people do give me my preferred pronoun, I actually make eye-contact with them more easily, and I find it easier to remember their names. I call them by their names, and I find their company to be more pleasant than that of others.

That is one thing I meant by "there is a better way." At first, it was a natural reaction to some people being polite to me, not just about my gender but in general, but I found out that if I rewarded people that were nice to me in simple workaday ways, then other people would tend to imitate them. People are actually glad to find out that I am really a very easy person to get along with.

If you want people to respect you, try being nice to them. If you want people to disrespect you, try yelling at them.

*swishes her tail* And if you want people to recognize that you are a harmless nerd with some minor psychiatric abnormalities, try openly roleplaying as a parrot-sized black dragon in the middle of your posts.

The use of terms like "woke religion" is inflammatory. Claiming that people are trying to "force a religion" on you is inflammatory.
Inflammatory?!? The SCOTUS is about to rule that Christians can force a woman to make a baby for no better reason than their religious belief that life begins at conception. That's inflammatory. What, should we then all refrain from saying Christians are "forcing a religion" on women, because saying that's what they're doing is inflammatory? The demands woke people make on the rest of us are inflammatory. Forcing their religion on us is inflammatory. People are running around in a commotion and you're blaming it on the news crew covering the fire. Why don't you try blaming the arsonist?

I grew up in the 1980's and 1990's, and right now, we have a large political wave of homophobia and transphobia coming in. It is going to get ugly, and there are going to be more assaults, more murders, and more of the same shit that I grew up with.

When you spread around negative stories about transgender people in transphobic political echo-chambers, you are just giving them outrage fodder and a false sense of justification for their prejudices.

It was just as unhealthy and destructive when I was going through my rage phase, and I would go through the news looking for negative stories that I could shake my fist over and rage over and sermonize over. That type of behavior is the reason why some transgender people actually can be overzealous and rude. They obsess over negative stories that reinforce and magnify their outrage, and while the hurts that are at the base of that outrage are real, they are just tearing open the wound over and over again for the petty satisfaction of screaming over it and vowing revenge over it. It is unhealthy.

I am not saying that I should have ignored negative news, but I should not have looked for it obsessively for the sake of head-banging over how angry I was over it just in order to get the adrenaline buzz from being outraged.

The anti-wokeists are just doing the same shit, but in this case, the target of the same rage is a highly suicide-prone minority group. That rage can become very addictive. You might as well shoot up with meth.

The anti-wokeists have basically just created a hate group for the sake of creating a hate group, and as a consequence, violence against transgender people has been getting worse every year for the last few years.
Okay then, let's talk about hate. One of the more consistent characteristics of woke behavior is their systematic tendency to commit libel against people who don't support their policies and don't pay lip service to their doctrines. They are, for the most part, hate mongers. You know it's true -- you're the one who wrote:

The "Woke Generation" failed. They decided to deal with their problems by destroying anybody that thought differently from how they do​

Turning around and doing the same thing at the expense of highly suicide-prone minority groups is not really the right way to handle that.

You also said "I do not appreciate views I do not have being projected on me".

That is correct. The fact that I think that anti-wokeism is destructive does not mean that I think that wokeism was helpful. It's the same shit with different stakeholders, only this time, one of those sets of stakeholders are a highly suicide-prone minority group.

It was the behavior that was the problem, not the stakeholders that were involved.

You never had a reason to post them in the first place. You could have just asked me if I thought you could stop being transgendered, by willing yourself to or by taking a pill or whatever, and I'd have said, "No, of course you can't, it's ridiculous", and then you could have moved on to whatever conclusion you think follows from that impossibility.

You've cleared that up in remarks above. I understand you better now, and I will not repine upon the matter.

Are you aware of the scientific evidence that transgender people are biologically different from cis-gender people and not realistically able to change this difference?
Asked and answered. Duh!

Alright.

Furthermore, are you aware that there is a scientific consensus that gender-affirming care actually works to help improve transgender people's health?

You can just say "yes" and "yes," and, once we have established that, you can clarify what your views actually are.
It's fair to say there is a scientific consensus that well-chosen gender-affirming care works to help improve the average transgender person's health. But none of us is average. When you asked that question you were, ironically, attempting to oversimplify a massively complicated issue into a simple binary. That's not how scientific consensus works. We are all individuals. What's best for one person is not automatically what's best for another person. Some health care providers give what they regard as gender-affirming care to patients with gender dysphoria who later come to regret getting the treatment, but it's irreversible, and in some cases it does permanent damage to their health. So gender-affirming care always needs to be considered case-by-case.

The American Academy of Pediatrics have been using the strategy of doing "social transition" first and only taking other measures as they are needed. In fact, it is now rather common for many young people to identify as "non-binary" or even transgender in an unserious way, and according to the American Academy of Pediatrics, it is still good for establishing trusting relationships with their families if their families support them at the time. It is still unusual for pediatricians to recommend life-altering surgery for younger patients, although it does happen.

You think pointing out that people who don't give a rat's ass about the First Amendment tend to be a problem for the rest of us is somehow by magic instilling fear of everybody with gender dysphoria? Is there anything else I say that causes people to be afraid of you? Should I keep my mouth shut about nuclear power being the safe and sane way to stop global warming in case somebody takes that as incitement to beat up trans people?

When I have a coworker threatening me just because I use my own freedom of speech to assert my gender identity when I disagree with his insinuations to the contrary, then that constitutes someone attempting to use physical violence to limit my own freedom of speech.
And that's a bad thing for him to do, because people shouldn't limit your freedom of speech.

I am glad you agree. It is a part of my own freedom of speech to assert my own identity.

So no, I am not saying there should necessarily be a law to tell you that there is a socially acceptable way to talk to and about transgender people. You should not need one. You should want people around you to believe that you have an above-average IQ. You should want people around you to not be embarrassed of you.
And if the people appalled by Prof. Meriwether had merely told him he was a below-average IQ embarrassment, and a "douche-flute" if they were so inclined, and they hadn't escalated the matter beyond speech vs. counterspeech, then they wouldn't have lost a lawsuit, this thread never would have happened,

So you disagree with employers having a right to enforce a standard of workplace decorum. That is a valid point-of-view, but I believe that many people that go into business soon find that they do not like that idea as much anymore.

This isn't about you. This is about Shawnee State and its administrators' apparent preference for an ideological monoculture.

If you are taking the position that employers should not have a right to set standards of decorum, then I can recognize that as a point-of-view that you might actually have.
There are employers and then there are employers. What standard is acceptable for a bank to set is not automatically the same as what is acceptable for a state university to set. For better or worse, there's a body of constitutional case-law holding that free speech rights include academic freedom for college professors. This is not an elementary school where the government is supplying the teacher with a captive audience; a college is not a "safe place" where people come to be told what they want to hear or what their parents or health-care providers think is in their best interests to hear. Students listen to a professor because they think they have something to learn from her. She has a considerable level of discretion to decide how she wants to teach; and if students find a professor doesn't fulfill their needs, they're free to go find one who does.

*shrugs her wings* The question of what is or is not to be allowed in places of work is a heavily politicized topic, and I tend to be cautious about making strong statements on the matter.

However, the anti-wokeists just might succeed at getting a lot of people to burn with anger toward transgender people and other minority groups, and this will probably escalate into extreme and public violence. When it inevitably does, a la Charlottesville, then they are going to get a severe political backlash within a year or less of that event. As a consequence, there is going to be a parade of new restrictive laws on what you are and are not allowed to say, and when that happens, I am going to tell you that I told you so. Anti-wokeism is just more of the same shit.

This "woke v. anti-woke" shit is just different groups of people doing the same shit back and forth, and it really does not change anything.

Excuse me, it does change something but not for the better. We are getting taken back to the same shit we were doing in the 1980's and 1990's.

There is nothing wrong with what the woke movement was trying to do. The format is what I really take exception to.
 
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still interested in a good answer to this question. From Bronzeage if possible but from anybody else will do.
For what it's worth, that huge pile of nested quotes was too difficult to read, much less answer.

It's not just you, by any stretch. It's become very common on IIDB. I just happened to mention it when I found myself with a post so quote nested that it literally had no words in the middle, just orange vertical lines.

Like I said, it's not just you. Bronze Age's post was every bit as unintelligible.
Tom
I can repeat the question:

Why does it make me 'antisocial' and worthy of (presumably highly negative) social consequences to refuse to use the 'she' pronoun for a particular person, but it is not 'antisocial' to refuse to use the 'bug' pronoun for a particular person?

It seems very clear to me that the people accusing me of being an antisocial asshole for not using 'she' for an adult human male would support my right to not use 'bug' for the same adult human male, regardless of whether that adult human male wanted to have the pronoun 'bug' or not.

So, what's the difference? Morally, I mean. Obviously 'she' is not a neopronoun and 'bug' is a neopronoun. But if the crux is respecting identity, what's the moral difference?
 
Not everything that I say is specifically a response to your particular views. I have a lot to say on the subject, in general.

*snaps her tail with a loud crack*

Now, pay attention. There are others in this thread besides you and myself. There is at least one douche-flute here that claims that the fact that I am transgender is "just a thought in my head," regardless of the fact that I have offered evidence to the contrary.
Oy gevalt. Sigma has now referenced me multiple times, though has not taken me off ignore to read anything I've written.

What Sigma does not appear to understand is that gender identity is indeed a thought in someone's head. I never claimed people had libertarian free will to think differently, nor did I claim thoughts were not related to brain structures (clearly, they are).

But, if it pleases Sigma, I will rephrase the question I ask. What difference does it make what your brain structure is? Why should I use a particular pronoun based on your brain structure, rather than on your sexed body? Where and when did this moral obligation arise? Why does anything in your brain obligate me to say things I do not believe to please you?
 
In fact, the possibility of this kind of reaction was part of why the woke movement actually worried me. With any kind of negative behavior, you should never forget that what is good sauce for the gander is also good sauce for the goose.

However, it is also still true that two wrongs don't make a right.

You might think that you are just "making a point" by getting a large number of people banging their heads over how aggrieved they are over "wokeism," but the people that actually end up getting hurt are going to be convenient scapegoats and probably many of them children or young adults, not the people that actually hurt your feelings.

I have already seen how anti-LGBTQ hate plays out in actual practice because I experienced the last great flush of it during the 1980's and 1990's. The people that get hurt as a consequence of the resulting violence are often teenagers that have never even had sex before, or some of them do not even know what their sexual orientation is, yet.

Homophobia and transphobia in this country are becoming a serious problem. I recognize the signs when I see them.
 
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*looks back up* I really can become pompous when I start discussing brain science. I do beg your pardon, but it has been one of my favorite subjects since I was a kid.

I do not believe that I am exaggerating when I say that the brain probably does not change a lot, over time, in how it fundamentally works. For example, personality inventories like the "big five" personality inventories find that your personality is actually surprisingly stable over the course of your lifetime. I have tried to make myself into more of a "conscientious" personality type of personality as I have gotten more experienced at life and realized the usefulness of this trait, but while I have managed to do a lot to change my behavior by only recognizing that it would be a good thing if I did, I have only been able to move from "median" to "above-average"; that was done over the course of years, too, and it was hard. You can recognize that a personality trait would be useful to have, but you cannot really choose your personality willy-nilly. Furthermore, I still have almost 0 neuroticism, the highest possible score for openness, and moderately high agreeableness. Interestingly, my current agreeableness score, when testing as myself, is identical to the score I had during my youth when I answered for my "dragon" persona, so I think that my strong sense of misanthropy, during my youth, might have been a direct product of gender dysphoria. I therefore argue that my real agreeableness score has remained consistent). My extroversion score followed the same pattern: the dragon was always an outrageous flirt, and now that I have come completely out, that is my outward workaday personality. I think that the GD did a lot to obfuscate my real personality.

Now, personality inventories are only one simple example, and I realize that there are some people that think they have valid objections to them, including people that are well-read about brain science. I am not wedded to the theory that supports them, but there is indeed a theory that is well-supported by peer-reviewed research. I was only using the theory behind those systems as an example. I am sure that we could go elsewhere and have a lively debate about the evidence for and against the system, but if you object to them, I will let the matter go for purposes of this discussion. I would be glad to make a new thread in one of the science forums if you would like to discuss them intellectually.

I will admit that I like Cloninger's Temperament and Character Inventory better in principle because he does list a few "characters" that, unlike your temperaments, actually can change meaningfully over your lifetime. For example, Cloninger believes that your self-transcendence, cooperativeness (which means not being a douche-flute), and self-directedness can change. The last of those makes sense to me because a change in self-directedness would explain my modest improvements to my conscientiousness score. Furthermore, the seeming change in my extroversion and agreeableness scores would correspond with a change in my cooperativeness score on Cloninger's test. I think that the fact that Cloninger finds your level of cooperativeness to be relatively mutable is really down to the fact that your environment can make you believe that you have to hide your real personality, but even if you are only forced by your circumstances or beliefs to live a lie, this tends to lead to you seeing other people around you as just as phony as your false persona. My experience has been that I tend to be nicer to people if I live more authentically, so my experience actually resonates with Cloniger's views.

The point of bringing up personality inventories was that the theory behind them predicts that your personality (according to Cloninger, only your temperament) tends to remain stable over the course of your lifetime. It does not necessarily predict that you are absolutely static, but it does predict that you are more likely than not to have generally similar personality traits by late adulthood to those that you had during your youth. If they change, then they change slowly and slightly. A fundamental inversion, in what kind of person you are, is really unusual.

The point is that you are, to a large extent, absolutely stuck with the brain that you have got, whether you like it or not. You cannot pick who you are. You can only change within narrowly defined parameters and then only with difficulty. For anything else to occur is extraordinary and should be considered to be particularly exceptional and an object of curiosity. For example, if queers become more extroverted after coming out, then this should make you curious about the extreme psychological effects of being closeted. It is not impossible for people to change, but if they do change, then you should be very interested in why and how.

That is why I almost choked when you asked me when people's gender identity is probably a set thing. Now that I look more closely at your last post, I realize that you did indeed suggest that you think it might be determined during childhood. While I am not aware of any specific study that has succeed at tracing gender identity to gestation, I am also not aware of any specific study that has traced gender identity to childhood development, either. My personal opinion, though, is that the fact that neural plasticity tends to be greater during gestation suggests that we must exercise less imagination to look to gestation as a more likely point in development where gender identity is determined.

When it was not clear to me that you understood that gender identity was probably determined by at least childhood, though, I almost shit a brick. It is just strange to me if someone does not understand at least that much about neurological development.

I do think it is weird if you would make any particular quibble about whether gender identity is a set thing only by childhood or during gestation. Occam's Razor does not mean that the simpler explanation is always right, but it does mean that the simpler explanation is the one that you should look at first. While weird and complex things do happen in nature, they need to be proven rather than disproved. The idea that there is an event during childhood development where a large white matter tract--to be specific, the fronto-occipital fasciculus--becomes set to its probable adult configuration might be possible, but my opinion is that such a change needs to be proven rather than disproved. While we might not know for sure that gender identity is determined during gestation, it is nevertheless the simpler assumption.

I think that it is therefore serviceable, as shorthand, to simply say, "gender identity is almost certainly a fixed thing by childhood, and we are probably born with the neurological causes of it."

If I come across as arrogant, when it comes to brain science, that is only because it is a favorite subject for me, and it annoys me when I have to explain what I tend to think ought to be general knowledge. I run into shocking ignorance about it often enough that I am on a bit of a hair-trigger to get cranky about it. If I have come across as offensive, then I am really more inclined to be conciliatory than otherwise.
 
Why does it make me 'antisocial' and worthy of (presumably highly negative) social consequences to refuse to use the 'she' pronoun for a particular person,
Because you're twisting the language, for no obvious reason other than feeling superior at someone else's expense.

Whatever you think ought to be, standard English is using pronouns that are gendered not sexed. A century ago, sex was extremely important. And sex and gender invariably matched, so there wasn't a distinction to make. But things are different now. Paying the social costs of deliberately misgendering people, and only getting the benefits of feeling superior, makes you look a bit irrational.

but it is not 'antisocial' to refuse to use the 'bug' pronoun for a particular person?
You answered this question yourself, in the last paragraph. Bug isn't a pronoun. Someone insisting on being referred to as a bug is twisting the language for some reason.
How I, personally, would respond would be very situational. What I do at a Halloween party would probably differ from a dentist office. Does it feel whimsical or deliberately annoying(like your misgendering)? I dunno. It's never been a question for me.
Tom
 
@Bomb#20

Let me make this simple.

My situation is that I am a transgender woman. Most people I work with are glad to call me by my preferred pronouns, and there is one old man that, while he repeatedly pretends not to hear me, is charming and friendly enough that, as far as I am concerned, he gets away with it. I am not really rude to anyone that is not rude to me first.

I also had one coworker that took it as a personal insult that I kept politely correcting him, and he eventually ended up threatening me. I actually had to reasure my managers that all I wanted to do was talk to the guy in order to get him back into his job. Yes, I am boasting about my virtue in this situation. I think I deserve to take some pride in that.

And that is with me being inexperienced at being openly transgender. As for why I took so long, my life has been very chaotic up until recently, and I have only recently reached a point of stability where I can say, confidently, that I have as normal of a life, for now, as a transgender woman ought to expect, and while getting there is a little behind schedule, watch me live a long ass life and laugh.

Now, my complaint is this. Some people are demonizing me for the fact that I have been politely assertive about my gender identity. They claim, hysterically, that the fact that I ask (literally ASK) to be called "she" and "her" is going to somehow "destroy civilization." That sort of person claims that I am making an "assault on the English language" and that I am "spreading a harmful ideology" and I must somehow be stopped. That sort of person is attempting to create a false sense of crisis over the fact that I am peacefully living my life the way that I do.

Would you agree that that sort of person, regardless of individual variance, are useless, blithering lunatics?

Now, hold that separate if you must.

That lunatic is using stories like that in the OP to convince his followers that people like I are somehow a "danger to civilization." He is like a dishonest prosecutor that is using information that is technically accurate to tell a false story.

For example, it is unusual for professors to be such complete assholes that their students want to cause them grief in the first place, and if is unusual for colleges to fire them over merely being unpleasant. It is an exceptional case where many people involved really behaved quite poorly.

I see this as similar to making a lot of noise about child molesters that choose male victims while ignoring those that target female victims. It is telling people something that is technically accurate to get people to believe something that is not really true.

Most transgender people are not trying to get you thrown out of your job. Most of us are, like I, just trying to live our lives, and most of us deal tolerantly with people that choose to be weird about us wanting to identify as the gender opposite of our birth. Most of us would be horrified if one of our coworkers were fired over nothing more than a pronoun.

Making a lot of noise where nobody involved really behaved well paints a false potrait. Even though the story itself is accurate and nobody involved really behaved well, the portrait of it that it is being used to paint of transgender people is a lie.

That is my concern.
 
It is a bit of a mystery why some people in the civilian world want to belittle and intimidate others by using inappropriate pronouns.
It is a bit of a mystery why you think people 'in the civilian world' want to do that. You are begging the question.
Do you know why some people express hostility about using the pronoun a particular person prefers?
Yes: because it is trying to compel somebody's speech, and, in some cases, forcing them to say things they do not believe.

Is there some altruistic motive behind this kind of behavior?
It depends on what you mean by "altruism". For example, when black people fought for civil rights in America in the 1960s, they surely stood to gain personally, but other people also stood to gain.
"Trying to compel somebody's speech" is an interesting take on it. If a person chooses to demonstrate antisocial behavior,, or as I said in an earlier post, be an insufferable prick, they can expect to have a social stigma put upon them. It's really no different than when Black people fought for the civil rights and racists became to be seen as insufferable pricks.

Perhaps in a generation those who insist that misprouning people is an act of defying tyranny will be seen in the same light as those who once refused to concede that Cassius Clay is now known as Mohammed Ali. It's pretty much the same thing.
You can change your name. You can't change your sex.
A person with a vulva changes their name to John Robert and that's okay, but you draw the line at him and his. Got it.
Of course it's okay. People have changed their names throughout history. I used to live next door to a man who changed his last name to 'Death'.

You can't change your sex. I'm sorry if I draw the line at 'reality'.
I presume he didn't wander the neighborhood in a black robe and carrying a scythe.
No. This was a long time ago so I don't remember him well, but no, he didn't do that. I assume he just thought it was edgy to have that last name.

Okay, a quick update. A person can choose a name which seems inappropriate for their current vital signs, or a name not generally associated with their genital status, as you perceive it, and you are happy to accede to their wishes. You'll call a living person Death and someone you believe to be a man, Mary, simply because they requested you to do so.

However, you are offended if Mr. Death wants to be a she
I'm not offended. I just understand it is literally impossible for Mr Death to change sex, and I don't want the State to force me to pretend he is a she. The Australian government has punished people for "misgendering".

and this strains your social graciousness to the point you feel justified in returning the offense.
I am not offended, and calling biological males 'he' is not returning an offense. Not practising your religion or participating in your delusion is not 'returning an offense'.
If you issue the disclaimer, "No offense intended," before using a pronoun which a person does not want used for them, I'm sure no one will think less of you because of it.
Why would I issue any such disclaimer? Why should the default presumption be that I intend offense?
Gee. Let's see if we can analyze this and find and answer for you. A person has a personal preference about how others refer to them
And as we have seen on this and other threads, there are all kinds of personal preferences that you and others are willing to not respect, such as using bug/bugself, or lord/master.

So, why must I respect some pronouns and not others?
You don't have to. The consequences for your antisocial behavior rest solely on you.
So, why is refusing to use 'bugself' not antisocial?
I'm still interested in a good answer to this question. From Bronzeage if possible but from anybody else will do.
I am truly flattered that you value my opinion, but any further exploration of this matter would only hurt your feelings.
So, you can't answer my question. I thought so.

Anyone else care to?
If that thought pleases you, I won't disturb your mood.
 
Why does it make me 'antisocial' and worthy of (presumably highly negative) social consequences to refuse to use the 'she' pronoun for a particular person,
Because you're twisting the language, for no obvious reason other than feeling superior at someone else's expense.
It is your opinion that I'm twisting language, and it is your stubborn view that the reason for doing it is to 'feel superior', even though you've been told directly that isn't the reason.

Whatever you think ought to be, standard English is using pronouns that are gendered not sexed.
It is not a matter of 'ought'. You are making a claim about "is", a claim I do not believe.

A century ago, sex was extremely important. And sex and gender invariably matched,
No, a century ago, in English, the concept of 'gender' did not apply to humans.

so there wasn't a distinction to make. But things are different now. Paying the social costs of deliberately misgendering people, and only getting the benefits of feeling superior, makes you look a bit irrational.
I do not believe using pronouns that match a person's sex is 'misgendering', and I do not feel superior doing it.

but it is not 'antisocial' to refuse to use the 'bug' pronoun for a particular person?
You answered this question yourself, in the last paragraph. Bug isn't a pronoun. Someone insisting on being referred to as a bug is twisting the language for some reason.
It is because their gender identity is 'bug'.

How I, personally, would respond would be very situational. What I do at a Halloween party would probably differ from a dentist office. Does it feel whimsical or deliberately annoying(like your misgendering)? I dunno. It's never been a question for me.
Tom
My "misgendering" is not "deliberately" annoying, though that may be a side effect.
 
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