Toni
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See post #935Non-threat to anyone. Zero documented cases.No, I’m focusing on what YOU assume to be a non-threat basically because it is not a threat to YOU.In other words, male looking males that appear to be a threat. I don't think anyone is denying they exist and I think you would have had every right to have them thrown out and banned.And yeah, sometimes there were men in the women’s restroom, usually showering with their girlfriend. Generally not a problem but I can think of one or two guys who lived in my dorm whose presence in the women’s restroom would definitely have been very very threatening. Not trans at all. Just wears af in a very rapey way. As in these were guys I went way out of my way to try to keep them from knowing which was my room, to the extent that I sometimes walked the whole way up the stairs to the 11th floor to avoid being in the elevator with them
And I've spooked more than one woman by simply walking quickly down the same route they were on. It's simply not something the law should protect you from.But given that we are talking about an instant reaction—not everyone will immediately think: trans woman. Many if not most might immediately see threat, even if there is no actual threat. And will have to, in the moment, suppress that reaction and be concerned more about making the other person feel comfortable than about their own feelings.
The problem is you are focusing on a non-threat. It has not been established that there is any overlap between the creeps you talk about and the ones trying to pass. There are zero reported rapes by the ones trying to pass. Just because they share a bit of anatomy with the actual problems doesn't make them a problem. Discrimination.Yep, sounds like exactly what is always expected of women.
I don’t mean to be glib. I genuinely think that everybody should be able to feel safe and accepted and to be safe and accepted.
You are expecting this to work. What do people like my SIL do? She's one of those that doesn't pass--except she really is female. What do the transmen do? You're going to have them in the women's room, you just made your problem much worse.You are expecting women to in an instant evaluate a male appearing body in their locker room as a non-threat even though women all know —mostly from experience—that it is impossible to tell by looking which male is a threat what which is not.
Who said anything about urinal?? I was simply saying that I have spooked women by walking quickly on the same path they are on. Clearly a legal activity, therefore spooking a woman isn't sufficient to make something illegal. And all you're actually complaining about is being spooked.It may be the case that you use a public street as a urinal but likely that’s frowned upon if not actually illegal. Just like walking around without your pants on may be totally fine in your own home but generally not in public.
Complete strangers, mental health is utterly irrelevant. They were simply spooking about a male moving quickly in their general direction. Always in environments with many other people around, no possible threat.Also if women frequently cross the street when they see you, you need to do some serious self-evaluation and maybe enlist the help of a mental health professional.
If it is a frequent occurrence that women are spooked by you then you ARE doing something wrong, particularly if it is in a well traveled area. YOU may know that you are NOT a threat but something about YOU is triggering those women. Maybe find a friend or two and ask for brutal honesty. I don't know you at all. I'm just saying that I've known plenty of guys who swore they were no threat yet spooked the heck out of multiple women in public spaces. The guy that spooked me the most spooked me enough that I was willing to routinely climb stairs to the 11th floor, even carrying laundry. Was I right about him? Well, I did spend a night keeping him from lighting on fire my friend who had too much to drink and who had fallen asleep in a room on the men's floor. I'm sure that wasn't you, Loren and I'm sure you'd never do such a thing but if women are commonly reacting that way to you, you need to figure out why and stop it.