As previously stated, you often bring up case after case of supposedly false rape claims in every single thread about rape and frequently talk about both being drunk so it was mutual rape. In fact, actual studies have demonstrated that rapists are most often sober and not under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
Mostly I was referring to your often touted claim of 'mutual rape.'
Sorry, but if both are drunk and you use drunkenness as reason why it's "rape" then logically it's "mutual rape", unless one was significantly drunker than the other. Feminists tend to claim the responsibility is always on the man, no matter how much either of them drink and that's just wrong on so many levels.
Again: different levels of inebriation would lead to differing levels of capacity to consent, as you have admitted.
I know of no feminist nor any individual who claims that the responsibility is 'always on the man.' Certainly I have never made such a claim.
As far as the Yu case (I am sorry--family stuff has taken me out of town and I haven't followed every post in this thread), I believe that a witness said that the alleged victim began to express doubts about having sex.
Even if this were true, there are several problems. For one, it was a year ago. How well could a witness remember what was said when? Second, the witness was likely the Walker's friend and is thus not disinterested. Third, if she expressed "doubts" that does not mean she didn't finally voluntarily decide to have sex. The evidence of messages where Walker said she had a good time after they had sex is evidence that the sex was consensual (not that Yu should be required to prove his innocence but increasingly men are required to and in this case even that is not enough!).
I believe it was Yu's friend or room mate who mentioned that she was expressing regrets.
But either participant in sex is allowed to change his/her mind before or during sex and decline to proceed further. The other party must stop.
True, but there is zero evidence that this happened here
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Except for the witnesses.
http://nypost.com/2013/06/26/row-ov...legedly-false-rape-accusation-by-team-member/
Later, Walker put a condom on Yu and they got down until his roommate unexpectedly showed up, after which Walker “began to lament about her ex-boyfriend and stated that she was not ready to jump into ‘anything new,’ ” then got dressed and left after noting how she “took Peter Yu’s virginity,” the suit says.
Sounds as though she wanted to stop. The article is told entirely from Yu's perspective and it isn't clear whether he attempted to stop her from leaving or forced her to continue to have sex, which would have been rape, just as if he wanted to stop and she did not, it would have been rape.
Same article
Yu says he later learned that two other women on the rowing team — including his “former romantic interest” — had tried to contact campus security after seeing him walking with Walker, “who appeared to be drunk.”
Which directly goes to whether she was too drunk to consent. I haven't read any witness testimony that they were equally drunk.
And by the same token, if somebody has doubts they can decide either way, which includes the possibility that they decide to have sex. Enter messages where Walker says she had a good time. And in the end, the benefit of the doubt should go for the accused, not against him!
We actually don't know what the entire body of evidence or testimony was presented against Yu. We have only his side of the story and even that does not make it clear that it was not rape: his room mate indicates she didn't want to start anything new (and the quote makes her sound pretty sloppy drunk) and other witnesses report her appearing to be drunk. You may be correct: he could have been treated unfairly but it is not possible for us to know given the very slim details in online articles told entirely from Yu's perspective.
I did find this interesting article about rapes at Occidental:
Wow! What biased piece of BS! Channeling the old Ms. Magazine claptrap about defining rape such that most supposed "victims" do not consider themselves raped and then claiming an epidemic based on that definition.
Derec, it's actually a very serious issue, and one where much education needs to be done. Many of the childhood victims of sexual abuse by priests did not term what happened to them as 'rape' because they didn't believe that it could happen to a boy (in the case of male victims. Although they are not prominently featured in news articles, there are plenty of female victims as well) or that whatever a priest (or coach, or teacher or favorite uncle, etc.) did was ok. Even Mary Kay Letourneau's victim, aka her now husband, does not see that a 35 year old woman having sex with a 12 year old as rape but clearly, it is.
In many cultures, both men and women believe that a woman (or child) must submit to a man, regardless. And if the two are unmarried, it is her fault, even if she is a child. She is often severely punished.
In the U.S., the fact that men can be rape victims is just now gaining popular acceptance. Until about 20-30 years ago, in most states, a husband could legally force his wife to have sex and it was not deemed rape. I've known people who did not count beatings which resulted in black eyes, broken bones, etc. to be 'abuse.' He just lost his temper. I provoked it. And of course, male victims have an even harder time coming to grips with the fact that they are being abused.
Too many people still believe that if you dress a certain way, or drink too much or flirted with someone or if he bought you dinner or if you've had sex with him before or if you are married, then it cannot be rape. Too many people believe that the only people who rape are those who are so desperate for sex that they must use force. A handsome athlete cannot be a rapist: don't all women want to sleep with him? Why would he need to rape anyone? And yet, some handsome, popular, well liked athletes are also rapists who don't believe it is rape because they believe that they are entitled to whatever they want. And that no woman would actually turn them down. Even if she was passed out at the time, she surely wanted it.