I think Incels spend a fuckton of time telling each other lies about how 20% of the men are sleeping with 80% of the women, and the women that cannot get an Alpha Male are sleeping with dogs, or other women, or women that have transitioned to men.
They also see a study on how a dating site's records show X-many women members are contacting Y-many men and figure those ratios are universal, But it's all posing and tiny sample sizes and out-of-context accusations.
And noise.
LOTS of noise for the sake of noise.
I can recommend the book Dataclysm. It's based on the biggest and best dataset ever produced. OKcupids. It's pretty eye opening. It has all kind of dating data that shows pretty clearly what is going on. Both from which profiles people keep going to, as well as which they actually send messages to, and then how the outcomes are.
Women typically see the men at the lower end of the top 20% of men as average looking/attractiveness. While women do care less about looks than men. The truth is that they care about looks as well as other stuff. They want a hot guy who also has status, intelligence, humor, has similar values and a good penis. Men are much less picky.
I absolutely believe that 80% of men struggle to get laid, while the top 20% have as much sex as their appetite allows. When women whine about their struggles in finding a good man, that is the problem. They typically have unrealistic expectations and an extremely warped sense of what a normal man is.
When women complain that they're suffering to live up to the demands of men. What they're complaining about is living up to the demands of the top 20%. And that's a completely different story.
While almost all men prefer women who are 21-23 years old. We still are more democratic and less picky with out women.
Most people have sex with people on the "the best I can do" principle. Few people, men or women, have sex with the people they'd like. I have no trouble believing that a man at the lower end of the desirability spectrum will be completely locked out of the dating scene. But that's always been the case. That's not a new development. That's what I am skeptical about.
While less desirable women have similar problems. Women are only in very extreme situations ever completely locked out of the dating scene. A woman who is willing can almost always get laid. Which is not true for women in the same situation.
I also don't see it as a problem. This is a market place. If you want to get laid, then put in the effort. Nobody owes anybody sex. Yeah, it sucks for all those people with various problems making it hard. But that's most people. That's just life.
I'm just sceptical about the idea that Incels is a new thing or increasing.