One conception can result in multiple births.Conception.Really the question is where various points of no return are reached.
Multiple conceptions can result in a single birth without any lost pregnancy.
One conception can result in multiple births.Conception.Really the question is where various points of no return are reached.
Well, okay. But the strings of genetic code that make you uniquely you begin at conception. That includes the genes involved with the expression of sex and sexual characteristics. Sure, you might be able to gene edit sex.One conception can result in multiple births.Conception.Really the question is where various points of no return are reached.
Multiple conceptions can result in a single birth without any lost pregnancy.
It happens all the time to me and having a name that's now gender-confusing (when I was born that was the male spelling. Now there is no male version) but it doesn't bother me. I think people's sensitivity varies--to me, if it's simply a mistake so what?Are you often misgendered? I am often enough, on the phone, due to my naturally high tenor. I've never liked it, but it'd context that makes it hurt more than the act. If I hadn't spent my entire life being bullied and hurt by supposed friends and family for supposedly failing at masculinity and thus, by implication, essentially failing at being a human being, it probably wouldn't hurt quite as much when it happens accidentally at the Wendy's drive thru. But it did, and it does.
And you have some evidence of this coaching beyond the fact that you don't believe what they're saying?What I really dislike about some of this gender stuff, is that is seems to put too much emphasis on stereotypical gender roles. I read about one woman who lost her husband. He had been a truck driver and after he died the wife became a truck driver and then started to identify as mostly male. WTF! I've known of female truck drivers. I met a woman who was an awesome tow truck driver. Sure, she was large and very strong, but she had a husband and children and considered herself a woman. Shouldn't gender stereotypes and roles be dead by now? I think that may be why some of this seems contradictory to me, despite my best efforts to understand it.
If you ever watch any videos of 'trans kids', you will see nothing but coached children tallying off gender stereotypes. Little Billy (who has now been renamed Aurora) always took to feminine-styled clothing and played with dolls. Obviously a girl! Little Jessica (now Max or Ash) pulled the ribbons out of her hair and fought like the dickens when she was required to wear a dress. Obviously a boy!
And you have some evidence of this coaching beyond the fact that you don't believe what they're saying?What I really dislike about some of this gender stuff, is that is seems to put too much emphasis on stereotypical gender roles. I read about one woman who lost her husband. He had been a truck driver and after he died the wife became a truck driver and then started to identify as mostly male. WTF! I've known of female truck drivers. I met a woman who was an awesome tow truck driver. Sure, she was large and very strong, but she had a husband and children and considered herself a woman. Shouldn't gender stereotypes and roles be dead by now? I think that may be why some of this seems contradictory to me, despite my best efforts to understand it.
If you ever watch any videos of 'trans kids', you will see nothing but coached children tallying off gender stereotypes. Little Billy (who has now been renamed Aurora) always took to feminine-styled clothing and played with dolls. Obviously a girl! Little Jessica (now Max or Ash) pulled the ribbons out of her hair and fought like the dickens when she was required to wear a dress. Obviously a boy!
The film also tells the story of Phoenix, a four-year-old boy who starts dressing in girl’s clothes. His parents promptly assume he’s a girl. They attend a Unitarian Universalist service, where the female minister invites anyone “lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, or questioning, intersex, pansexual, asexual, or any category I’ve left out” to “proclaim their identity publicly.” Phoenix’s mother hastily pulls him to the front and hands him the mic. “I just don’t want to tell them that I’m a girl,” the little boy says plaintively. His mother takes the mic: “Phoenix would like you to know that she’s a girl and she prefers she and her pronouns.”
But eventually, Phoenix puts his foot down. “Phoenix decided to go back to living as a boy,” his mother says. “We didn’t know what was going on. It was all very sudden.” She realizes something: “It was a huge mistake. Children are not transgender. He’s a boy. He was born a boy.”
Discrimination exists in both directions. One does not counter the other, both are wrong.Ah yes. I forgot that only reverse discrimination exists.Who would think that? Systemic discrimination against whites and males is alive and well.
I can definitely see why you guys object so vehemently to higher education.
Yes: the evidence of my own eyes. I see children looking to their mothersAnd you have some evidence of this coaching beyond the fact that you don't believe what they're saying?What I really dislike about some of this gender stuff, is that is seems to put too much emphasis on stereotypical gender roles. I read about one woman who lost her husband. He had been a truck driver and after he died the wife became a truck driver and then started to identify as mostly male. WTF! I've known of female truck drivers. I met a woman who was an awesome tow truck driver. Sure, she was large and very strong, but she had a husband and children and considered herself a woman. Shouldn't gender stereotypes and roles be dead by now? I think that may be why some of this seems contradictory to me, despite my best efforts to understand it.
If you ever watch any videos of 'trans kids', you will see nothing but coached children tallying off gender stereotypes. Little Billy (who has now been renamed Aurora) always took to feminine-styled clothing and played with dolls. Obviously a girl! Little Jessica (now Max or Ash) pulled the ribbons out of her hair and fought like the dickens when she was required to wear a dress. Obviously a boy!
It used to be that if a boy acted feminine, or a girl masculine, that was okay. Now, it means that they were born in the wrong body and need hormones and mutilation surgeries. Gays and lesbians are no longer allowed to exist, Mkay?For fuck's sake, let feminine boys be feminine. Stop telling them that they are girls. You are lying to them.
No strawmen at all. Young children are preyed upon by the gender cult if they have gender non-conforming behavior. Metaphor is right to hate the gender cult.A lot of absolutes and strawmen being thrown around here.
Every last one of the children, right?No strawmen at all. Young children are preyed upon by the gender cult if they have gender non-conforming behavior. Metaphor is right to hate the gender cult.A lot of absolutes and strawmen being thrown around here.
Every child who is told they can be the other sex is being lied to. Every single one.Every last one of the children, right?No strawmen at all. Young children are preyed upon by the gender cult if they have gender non-conforming behavior. Metaphor is right to hate the gender cult.A lot of absolutes and strawmen being thrown around here.
You sound jealous.Every child who is told they can be the other sex is being lied to. Every single one.Every last one of the children, right?No strawmen at all. Young children are preyed upon by the gender cult if they have gender non-conforming behavior. Metaphor is right to hate the gender cult.A lot of absolutes and strawmen being thrown around here.
Um, okay?You sound jealous.Every child who is told they can be the other sex is being lied to. Every single one.Every last one of the children, right?No strawmen at all. Young children are preyed upon by the gender cult if they have gender non-conforming behavior. Metaphor is right to hate the gender cult.A lot of absolutes and strawmen being thrown around here.
Who would think that? Systemic discrimination against whites and males is alive and well.Unless you ask a conservative, in which case uou'll be solemnly informed that racism and sexism are functionally extinct and the rule of law need not trouble with it.It's a stubborn beast, isn't it? Feminists have been dismantling the patriarchy for decades, or so I'm told.That would only make sense if "the patriarchy still exists" were the only factor one were considering.Well, that's why I think gender perspectives haven't really changed since the Middle Ages quite as much as you implied.
Thanks for sharing your complex issues, but what you have described sounds more like a transgender person who feels stuck in the body of the sex that doesn't reflect their brain. That must be very difficult. I can understand how difficult it must be to be transgender and be conflicted by your body parts. It's the gender fluidity, based primarily on what I've read on sites specifically for such folks that I am having trouble understanding. Correct me if I'm wrong, but are you saying that because one's body parts don't match their brains, such as in the case of a transgender person, that it's better or acceptable to simply identify as nonbinary? That makes some sense, but most people who identify as nonbinary aren't transgender. There is plenty of science to help us understand transgenderism. Unfortunately, some people simply don't want to change their misperceptions of this aspect of gender.In a lot of ways, folks like me are nonbinary specifically as a rejection of gender norms.I don't know about that. I watched a bunch of videos by people who identify as nonbinary. They seemed very sincere and they did seem a bit out of what we might call mainstream gender. I'd call them nerdy or off beat, if I had to judge them.Identifying with the other sex, if you have gender dysphoria, I can see as a coping mechanism.Narcissism. It’s all narcissism. It’s the current way to be unique and important. Everyone must bow. But in reality it’s completely meaningless. The only categories that matter are male / female and gay / straight / bi.I'm not talking about transgender. That's easy to understand. The brain matter doesn't always match up with the body parts. Those folks should be given the option to transition and be accepted for who they are. It's just a little harder to understand the concept of being gender fluid. Actually, it's becoming difficult to understand what the term gender even means.
But identifying as "Non-binary" seems to me an exercise in narcissism. It is somebody who needs to be the specialest snowflake. And it requires no change in any perceivable appearance or behaviour--because of course there is no non-binary sex.
I know a woman who calls herself 'they/them', and even has adopted the label 'queer' for herself. She is an attractive, feminine, heterosexual woman who has only ever been in monogamous relationships with men. Of course, she isn't remotely bisexual or lesbian, and even if she pretended she were, those identities no longer have any social currency. But if you are 'non-binary'? Girl you're dismantling the heteropatriarchy like nobody's business.
While I don't really understand exactly why they feel this gender concept is so important, they didn't seem narcissistic. They just seemed to think that their gender ID was very important to them. I don't understand why being misgendered is such a terrible thing, but I'm not one who ever lets other people's opinions of me hurt me, so it's always been difficult for me to understand why other people's feelings get so easily hurt, especially by people who they barely know. Apparently, not everyone is able to ignore the things that others say about them that they feel are insulting. I don't think anyone should be discriminated against or bullied due to being a minority of any type. That's different from simply being called a she when you feel like a they, assuming it's not done out of malice.
I just like to understand where people are coming from as much as possible and how best to make them feel comfortable around me. If it takes referring to one as they, that's cool, even if I don't understand it. There are certainly far more important things to be concerned about in today's world. I would hope that all of us could agree on that, regardless of how we perceive our genders.
What I really dislike about some of this gender stuff, is that is seems to put too much emphasis on stereotypical gender roles. I read about one woman who lost her husband. He had been a truck driver and after he died the wife became a truck driver and then started to identify as mostly male. WTF! I've known of female truck drivers. I met a woman who was an awesome tow truck driver. Sure, she was large and very strong, but she had a husband and children and considered herself a woman. Shouldn't gender stereotypes and roles be dead by now? I think that may be why some of this seems contradictory to me, despite my best efforts to understand it.
Then again, maybe there are some people who literally have an odd mix of white and grey brain matter or a hormonal mix that makes it difficult for them to identify as one gender. I don't think we know at this point whether nonbinary gender is purely a social construct or if there is something more to it.
Anyway......I think I've said more than enough.
What most of those who refuse to accept pronoun suggestions perhaps realize but do not wish to speak out loud is that no matter what they claim, with pronoun use comes sex essentialism riding on its coattails.
People expect something from "men".
People expect something from "women".
And moreover they don't want to be expected not to expect as much!
What they expect is often purely behavioral, and while some people seek to fulfill the "best of" and the "worst of" these stereotypes, often as a matter of course or perhaps without any conscious effort at all, some people don't, can't, or won't play that game.
What o do know is this: over the last month I've been experimenting with different doses of Spironolactone. It is a testosterone antagonist. At my current dosage I am expected to be about as impacted by testosterone as a prepubescent individual, mostly because I want to keep my bones from leeching calcium.
Just this last week I had my first follow-up and testing session, which was primarily to monitor possible effects with respect to my kidneys at a known dosage, however now I have been given leave to experiment on dosage with respect to Double and Nothing.
Yesterday was my first, and last day, not taking any. I absolutely hated the intrusiveness of the "sexual" thoughts. For weeks I've been free of it all, and then yesterday it was as if it had turned up to 15, on a scale of 10.
If there were boobs? I found myself being shoved to stare at them, even if the result of staring was "I don't even like looking at these why am I looking at these? Can I please not?"
Imagine this: you probably either now or when you were younger didn't like other people staring at your breasts. Imagine not liking breasts being stared at by your eyes, the lecherous perv being inside your brain somewhere but not exactly the part of you that is "you" in the same way as the part of you that beats your heart or breaths air into your lungs.
You know, for the past 25 years I just chalked it up to the fact I hate looking at faces, and shirts have interesting stuff on them? The fact that I always look down and away? But no, it was like a website trying to advertise a product I don't even like by shoving it into the frame constantly... but by my own fucking endocrine system.
Sometimes it has as much to do with something inside you pushing you to be something that does not fit the person who you are, something which gains in strength from the presence or absence of a hormone, something that pushes you on who you are even if the push is unwanted, even if it is a gross violation. Imagine being touched in an unwanted way not on your body, but your very thoughts!
Imagine a father in your life who keeps telling you to be a "proper lady", and that "you will never find a man acting like that", and to "smile more"... But instead of another person it's something inside your own head.
For many trans people it starts with living while fighting against a current in one's head that is very insistent on telling them to be something they are not. In the instance of mere behavioral transition it lets someone experiment, even in the face of a wind fighting against them, to discover ways of acting that more befit their own desires for themselves above those desires of compartments fueled by their endocrine balance.
I can say this with distinct confidence now, that this is the case, because I have lived it. I have directly observed, through differential diagnosis, that testosterone is the driver of those nerve cells and their unwanted intrusive thoughts and even behaviors.
I can't decide to suddenly LIKE the effects testosterone has on me. The effects only make me miserable. I had some respite from just ignoring them to the best of my ability but now that I don't have to I feel at peace.
Being misgendered sucks specifically because it is a return, an echo of that droning force, that expectation, but foisted upon you by others, expected by others. It's saying "you are that voice from the back of your head that you already are fighting against, and you can never escape it, a d you shouldn't even try. It defines you!"
It's a statement that they don't trust someone to have more leverage over themselves than the leverage held by a droning "hormone monster", even when that hormone monster has been killed. It's demoralizing and moreover counterproductive to the act of self-actualization.
I've watched a program that included trans children and I didn't find that they were being coached at all. IN fact, those who were able to begin transitioning at an early age seemed happier. They seemed to know that their bodies didn't match the gender that they identified with, so I have to disagree with your statement. I've never had an issue with people who were transgender. It makes perfectly good sense to me that sometimes a person is born with body parts that don't match brain matter. I can imagine that it's very difficult for them, if they haven't been accepted by their families and supported by their communities.What I really dislike about some of this gender stuff, is that is seems to put too much emphasis on stereotypical gender roles. I read about one woman who lost her husband. He had been a truck driver and after he died the wife became a truck driver and then started to identify as mostly male. WTF! I've known of female truck drivers. I met a woman who was an awesome tow truck driver. Sure, she was large and very strong, but she had a husband and children and considered herself a woman. Shouldn't gender stereotypes and roles be dead by now? I think that may be why some of this seems contradictory to me, despite my best efforts to understand it.
If you ever watch any videos of 'trans kids', you will see nothing but coached children tallying off gender stereotypes. Little Billy (who has now been renamed Aurora) always took to feminine-styled clothing and played with dolls. Obviously a girl! Little Jessica (now Max or Ash) pulled the ribbons out of her hair and fought like the dickens when she was required to wear a dress. Obviously a boy!
Not really "trans" unless you mean "trans-neuter".Thanks for sharing your complex issues, but what you have described sounds more like a transgender person who feels stuck in the body of the sex that doesn't reflect their brain
I can't exactly speak to fluidity. As I have said, I think for the vast majority of "fluid" folks, it's an excuse to feel less constrained and to explore until they find where they really belong.It's the gender fluidity, based primarily on what I've read on sites specifically for such folks that I am having trouble understanding
No. It's not about body parts matching brains for me. I am not transgender in the typical way. I'm (chemically) a eunuch.Correct me if I'm wrong, but are you saying that because one's body parts don't match their brains, such as in the case of a transgender person, that it's better or acceptable to simply identify as nonbinary?
I can't give you a pile of research. I can only give you one observation by someone who has approached their own life in a scientific way.There is not as of yet, that I know of, any science to help us understand being gender fluid or not having any gender, etc.
This is absolutely correct. But it does not change the fact that I don't identify as male or female. I spent the last two years to get permission to be a eunuch.Nobody should feel inferior if they identify as male or female but don't fill the traditional stereotypical roles associated with that gender.
Maybe, but probably not. For most, it's the halfway-out-of-the-egg-house. YMMV.So, if a person is very assertive but also very nurturing, does that mean that person could be nonbinary?
Exactly what I meant when I said before: that gender is the model of the ideal self, some image that you hope to reify.What exactly do we even mean when we speak of gender these days? Believe me. I've searched with an open mind but have yet to find any rational answers
Thanks for helping us understand your situation. I had no idea that you considered yourself a eunuch. I apologize if you feel I was "putting you in a box". That was never my intention. I hope you find a good solution to your personal issues. I may not ever understand how you feel, but I am not judging you.Not really "trans" unless you mean "trans-neuter".Thanks for sharing your complex issues, but what you have described sounds more like a transgender person who feels stuck in the body of the sex that doesn't reflect their brain
It's not a confliction of body parts. The body parts I want and want to feel are not on the menu of "things easily evoked from human biochemistry".
I can't exactly speak to fluidity. As I have said, I think for the vast majority of "fluid" folks, it's an excuse to feel less constrained and to explore until they find where they really belong.It's the gender fluidity, based primarily on what I've read on sites specifically for such folks that I am having trouble understanding
I'm admittedly not fluid. I'm also quite non-binary.
No. It's not about body parts matching brains for me. I am not transgender in the typical way. I'm (chemically) a eunuch.Correct me if I'm wrong, but are you saying that because one's body parts don't match their brains, such as in the case of a transgender person, that it's better or acceptable to simply identify as nonbinary?
I'm not a woman.
My body naturally produces testosterone in levels higher than I wanted, so I take a medication that makes testosterone do nothing to my body.
I am saying that for those who are exploring, it's better to let them explore without making strict and strong declaration on what they are until they find it, test their feelings on the matter sufficiently, and make some informed decisions on the matter.
Sometimes, like me, they won't find themselves clear of "nonbinary" and sometimes they will.
I can't give you a pile of research. I can only give you one observation by someone who has approached their own life in a scientific way.There is not as of yet, that I know of, any science to help us understand being gender fluid or not having any gender, etc.
Fluidity is in my estimation a crutch for most, much like most budding gays have a "bisexual" phase. I will grant that some people truly are bisexual. I have quite a number of friends. Even as a eunuch I'm still sexual, but it's something I approach creatively every time, and something I have to decide I want to do.
This is absolutely correct. But it does not change the fact that I don't identify as male or female. I spent the last two years to get permission to be a eunuch.Nobody should feel inferior if they identify as male or female but don't fill the traditional stereotypical roles associated with that gender.
Obviously, there are ways I could make that happen more readily, but not without being considered as mentally damaged or unfit. It will take me months or even years of taking these pills before I will both have no testicles and also not be seen as a self-harmer.
I have dreams of having an opportunity to be the "house-spouse". This does not make me a woman.
I have dreams of having a career making things that disrupt the very foundations of society. This does not make me a man.
I am, exactly, a eunuch.
I'm pretty sure that's non-binary.
Maybe, but probably not. For most, it's the halfway-out-of-the-egg-house. YMMV.So, if a person is very assertive but also very nurturing, does that mean that person could be nonbinary?
More I suspect it's not likely for neurotypical folks to ever be nonbinary. Vanishingly so, in fact.
For some I suppose it's "I dislike you assigning me a comorbidity just because I have some traits" or "you will never truly come to understand me by trying to put me in such a box."
Exactly what I meant when I said before: that gender is the model of the ideal self, some image that you hope to reify.What exactly do we even mean when we speak of gender these days? Believe me. I've searched with an open mind but have yet to find any rational answers
One of the first things most people do is assign it traits THEY consider masculine or feminine, and then they seek to emulate those traits.
Sometimes there's more than one such image and people vacillate between which image they feel like at the moment.
Some people lack an image of such entirely.
When the ideal is the immediate seeming of yourself it can be hard to distinguish the idea that there is an image at all... You might just mistake that pretty of you as a mirror rather than a goal object!
That is in many ways what it means to be cis.
Sometimes the image is built and the builder sees a common thread between what drives their selection of aspects of this "perfect self" and they find that exactly what they like about all these things is their androgyny!
Why do people form such images? I'm not sure there is anything rational about it other than the fact that it helps us grow to accomplish new things when we struggle towards such dreams.
You can't seriously believe that.It used to be that if a boy acted feminine, or a girl masculine, that was okay.
yep. I think "tomboys" (masculine type girls) were fairly common and accepted without too much derision, but "sissys" (effeminate boys) had to take a lot of crap. I think both are more or less accepted and mainstream today.You can't seriously believe that.It used to be that if a boy acted feminine, or a girl masculine, that was okay.
As a geeky kid, with some vaguely effeminate tendencies, I can tell you flat out. That statement is bullshit.
Tom
It’s because masculine is seen as superior to feminine.yep. I think "tomboys" (masculine type girls) were fairly common and accepted without too much derision, but "sissys" (effeminate boys) had to take a lot of crap. I think both are more or less accepted and mainstream today.You can't seriously believe that.It used to be that if a boy acted feminine, or a girl masculine, that was okay.
As a geeky kid, with some vaguely effeminate tendencies, I can tell you flat out. That statement is bullshit.
Tom