I don't know what it means to respect a culture. The particular example I was given was 'Indian head-dresses on women' as an example of problematic cultural appropriation, presumably because women were forbidden from wearing head-dresses in native American cultures because there were clearly enforced gender roles.
If I have empathy for an oppressed group, does that mean I am required to censure myself so as not to hurt any of their feelings? Ought I betray my own values to align with theirs?
Australian Aborigines have an instrument called a didgeridoo, and women are forbidden to play it in ceremonial contexts. If I had a daughter who wanted to play the didgeridoo, I would not tell her 'no, we need to have empathy for this oppressed group and you playing it would offend them'. That would betray my own values that men and women ought not to be proscribed from activities merely because of their gender.
How is that cultural appropriation?
How is using an instrument with religious significance from a minority ethnic group that I do not belong to 'cultural appropriation'? Are we on the same thread?