Jokodo
Veteran Member
If only there were a way to ensure that they can't threaten him to take him to court over this, to bring him into a she-said-he-said situation where he might end up having to pay if the jury doesn't believe him.
Well, I'd advise Tom to put things in writing. An email is more than sufficient (and an email trail is the best kind of evidence). Nevertheless, it doesn't matter in this case if it's in writing.
Like, I don't know, some kind of rule that says that if the mother's husband continues to act as the father in the full knowledge that he isn't the biological father,
But you just said John and Mary are going to lie about it. Like, they "found out" recently that Tom was the father. If they tell the jury that they knew five years ago, and John continued to be the social father, J&M are outing themselves as liars.
Why? You've said you don't think time limits make sense in a scenario like this, so they don't have to claim anything of the sort. They can say they knew five years ago and didn't feel like, or get around to, doing anything about it - just like the guy in the OP knew half a year before filing for the nullification of his paternity.
If John and Mary are going to tell the jury they just found out, Tom can say he wants a financial abortion (because he, too, must have just found out). That's it. Tom didn't consent to being a social father.
That's a new addition. Initially when you posted your sketch of a rule set, you didn't include anything about a "financial abortion" - you even explicitly said you wanted the bio-dad on the hook and stalked posters to agree or disagree that he should be held responsible.
Can you provide one set of rules that produces at least as good outcomes as the current Finnish system averaged over all cases, or is it a new set of rules for every new case?