The word "nigger" has six letters in it. That's not an example of using the word, "nigger" but rather an example of mentioning the word, "nigger."
Oh, Jesus fuck.
You used the word nigger. That is EXACTLY an example of using the word nigger. That's what 'using' means. It's the subject of your sentence, rather than an address to an individual, but you did fucking use the fucking word. A word that upsets people. A word that any goddamned adult knows, or should know, or could be reasonably expected to know, is an offensive word all by itself.
Saying that 'the n-bomb has six letters WOULD BE an example of mentioning the word, without actually using the word.
The distinction is lost on many,
Maybe because it's a pretty shit distinction.
The term was not used in a derogatory manner by that person in the conference call, even if the term is often used in a derogatory manner.
Except that USING THE WORD is derogatory.
Sure, amongst the snowflakes of the world, it's wiser to simply avoid both its use and mention, but just as the appearance of impropriety doesn't imply impropriety,
Actually, the appearance of impropriety DOES imply impropriety. It isn't conclusive proof of impropriety, but it does imply it.
If one sees the appearance of impropriety, one could be expected to infer impropriety. It would not be a great illogical leap to suspect impropriety.
neither does appropriate use dissipate under the faulty notion that there's never an appropriate use.
Ah.
Appropriate use.
One day on this forum, i posted a comment about politicians being retards. Someone who feels very strongly about protecting disadvantaged children from that word sent me a message. To try to convince me that i should consider 'retard' a taboo word, he asked how i would feel if he referred to my children as 'nigger-lovers.'
I did not get anywhere near as upset about that as he was about 'retard.'
For one, as i told him, the proper conjugation for my kids would be 'niggers,' while i would be the 'nigger-lover.'
And for the other, he'd just told me that it was okay to use 'taboo' words if you're making a point.
SO, i was going to let the retard comment stand, and will probably use it again some day.
Thing is, your opinion that there might be appropriate use for the word does not change the fact that some people WILL insist that there's never an appropriate use.
Such people are a fact of life, no matter how much you consider it to be a faulty notion.
The OP used a taboo word. He offended people.
Some people here think the offended people over reacted.
Those people will say that some people here underreact.