^If you agree that men and women are significantly different creatures with different physical and emotional evolved attributes then it folows that the marriage of a man and a woman is significantly different to the pair-bonding of 2 men or 2 women.
Obviously no one here is trying to change you mind n whether homosexuality is "gross" to you. It doesn't really matter to any of us if it is. What is being discussed is how shallow and false are the arguments that you have put forth to defend legislating your right to not be made squeamish.
Your arguments are all shallow and flawed. They are TERRIBLE arguments. You should really just stick to the truth, that YOU think it's icky and you'd like to courts to enforce you never having to feel icky, because somehow you think you are entitled to that.
I DO NOT agree that woman and men are "significantly different creatures." We are the same creature. We have ranges of physical and emotional attributes, the medians of which are possibly in different places.
You seem to be making the argument - over and over again - that the difference between ANY man and ANY woman is greater than the difference between any two men or any two women.
I'd like to see you address this, please. Do you really believe, as you have repeatedly claimed, that there is NO overlap between the physicality and emotionality of men v women? Is this accurate, you think this? Or not?
Factually, it is utterly and demonstrably false. There is HUGE overlap. You can find, probably for as much as 60% of the population, men and women who are equals on these things. Some outliers exist, but the bulk of the population disproves your claim.
My "pair bonding" is much MUCH more similar to that of two lesbian friends who are married than it is to the pair bonding of my heterosexual parents. By a LONG shot.
So no, not only do I not agree with your premise, the facts don't agree with your premise. You premise is proven wrong.
You say that doesn't matter but I say it does matter for 3 reasons.
It certainly doesn't matter enough to deny people rights over it.
1. Cultural - The cultural heritage (which I know you don't believe in) of marriage as between a man and a woman is something of inherent value and should not be redefined. Homosexuals can create a new cultural meme for their pair-bonding rituals.
Describe the inherent value in such a way that it is obviously, exclusively and always true for heteros and obviously not and never true for homos.
This is where your false premise is most easily revealed. ANY heterosexual couple that gets married without the intent to bear children, or without the ability to personally bear biological children is IDENTICAL to a homosexual marriage. IDENTICAL. They can remain childfree and be married, they can have children from previous marriages and be married, they can use artificial insemination and be married, they can adopt and be married. IDENTICAL.
Why should they create a "new cultural meme" when the thing they are doing is IDENTICAL to what millions of hetero married couples do? Really, this makes zero sense.
2. Legal - Extending the original legal definition of marriage to include homosexuals gives them access to rights which I think they have no claim to, particularly in relation to adoption of children (since we do not understand the causes of homosexuality yet) - I know you disagree with this. Laws already exist or can be created to cater for their needs w.r.t. their pair-bonding activities.
Do you know the cause of left-handedness? Alzheimer's? Empathy? Spacial Awareness? Epicanthal folds? Bent dick? Does the knowledge or lack of it have ANYTHING to do with ability to parent? Should people with these attributes not be allowed to parent because we don't know "the cause"?
Think this through. It's a bankrupt notion. It is just an excuse to try to get your anti-icky law passed, it's not a real argument in itself.
3. Distaste - I maintain (without any proof, it is my intuited belief) that, even if they don't want to admit it, for fear of being seen as bigoted, that most heterosexual people (men in particular) actually find it distasteful to have to watch 2 members of their own sex kissing and cuddling in public.
"This has nothing to do with marriage, but I recognize that my argument is so weak I'm throwing everythign I can at it in the hopes of confusing you and making you overwhelmed with the understanding of my anti-icky campaign."
It's pretty dishonest to even put this in there about marriage when you even acknowledge yourself that it has nothing to do with marriage. Careful, you may become known for dishonest conversation...
The last point is not in relation to marriage but in relation to rights (or just social rules) regarding public displays of affection. We have general 'indecency' and 'lewdness' laws which are vary vague and can cover anything or nothing according to interpretation but I think the laws should be sexuality-specific and be more strict with regard to homosexual displays of affection due to the offence I believe that they cause.
You think the laws should deny rights from certain people on the basis of you think they are icky. JUST LIKE society did to you and your Kenyan girl. You thought society was right to pressure you like that? It didn't bother you at all?