A more accurate title that didn't fit should be 'I told a theist friend dropping out of bible college to appease his mother was not a good reason to drop out.'
A theist friend approached me for advice recently. He's a Christian who is actually studying to be a pastor (or whatever the hellbound non-Catholics call their false priests). He is in his late 20s and his parents have recently gotten divorced, and the divorce was not amicable.
His mother regards him as a perpetual disappointment, but she recently asked him to accompany her to the U.S. for a holiday. He declined, mainly citing financial reasons (he works only part time while he's at bible college and does not receive any kind of stipend or living allowance).
His mother stopped calling him and also stopped taking calls from him. He finally got a text message from her saying 'don't try to contact me again'.
My friend asked his sister about the situation, and the most likely explanation for his mother's behaviour seems to be that not having enough money to go to the U.S. with her was the straw that broke the camel's back, and that if he'd been working full time and not going to bible college, he'd have been able to come with her (notwithstanding that he didn't want to go for other reasons anyway).
My friend was actually seriously considering dropping out of bible college and working full time to mend his relationship and he asked what I thought about that.
I said dropping out of bible college just so his mother would rescind her disownership of him was a bad reason to do it; he doesn't know for sure that it'll be enough to get back in her good graces and six months down the track who's to say she won't find some other fault to disown him over? He was an adult who had both the freedom and responsibility for his choices.
But although everything I said sounded reasonable to me, inside I wondered: isn't any reason to drop out of bible college a good reason, since bible college is literally studying fantasy and treating it as real?
A theist friend approached me for advice recently. He's a Christian who is actually studying to be a pastor (or whatever the hellbound non-Catholics call their false priests). He is in his late 20s and his parents have recently gotten divorced, and the divorce was not amicable.
His mother regards him as a perpetual disappointment, but she recently asked him to accompany her to the U.S. for a holiday. He declined, mainly citing financial reasons (he works only part time while he's at bible college and does not receive any kind of stipend or living allowance).
His mother stopped calling him and also stopped taking calls from him. He finally got a text message from her saying 'don't try to contact me again'.
My friend asked his sister about the situation, and the most likely explanation for his mother's behaviour seems to be that not having enough money to go to the U.S. with her was the straw that broke the camel's back, and that if he'd been working full time and not going to bible college, he'd have been able to come with her (notwithstanding that he didn't want to go for other reasons anyway).
My friend was actually seriously considering dropping out of bible college and working full time to mend his relationship and he asked what I thought about that.
I said dropping out of bible college just so his mother would rescind her disownership of him was a bad reason to do it; he doesn't know for sure that it'll be enough to get back in her good graces and six months down the track who's to say she won't find some other fault to disown him over? He was an adult who had both the freedom and responsibility for his choices.
But although everything I said sounded reasonable to me, inside I wondered: isn't any reason to drop out of bible college a good reason, since bible college is literally studying fantasy and treating it as real?