Toni
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As an offshoot from another thread, I thought I'd post a link to this article about how immersed boys are in violence from childhood forward. This article appeared in the NYT:
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/30/opinion/sunday/boys-men-violence.html
As a note: When I googled 'why are men violent' what I got was about 3 pages of article titles, almost all of which were about men perpetrating violence against women. Data tells us that men are much more likely to be victims of violence and that violence is much more likely to be at the hands of other men.
Most often on this forum, we discuss violence, particularly rape, of men against women. It's rare that we talk about violence against men, except as an aside.
I'm posting this to hopefully start some conversations about what it is that makes boys and men more violent and how we can stop the damage that violence does to men and boys.
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/30/opinion/sunday/boys-men-violence.html
Boyhood immerses boys in violence and the bullying that leads to it. High school boys are more likely than girls to have been in a physical fight in the past year and male children are more likely to have been victims of violence. Three types of male violence — violence against women, violence against other men and violence against themselves — are deeply interwoven.
Violence springs from what boys learn about what it means to be a man. One researcher observed a small group of preschool boys and noticed how, over two years, they adapted to cultural cues. The ways they dressed, played and related to one another and to their parents changed significantly. They even formed a “Mean Team” to harass girls in their classroom. Another researcher interviewed elementary-school boys and captured their brutally frank stories of punishing other boys who failed to conform.
Boys take their experiences to heart, feeling weak and ashamed when they need comfort. Plan International USA, a nonprofit group focused on children’s rights, commissioned a study among 10- to 19-year-olds that found nearly three-quarters of boys said they felt pressure to be physically strong and nearly half of the 14- to 19 year-old male respondents felt pressure to be “willing to punch someone if provoked.”
As a note: When I googled 'why are men violent' what I got was about 3 pages of article titles, almost all of which were about men perpetrating violence against women. Data tells us that men are much more likely to be victims of violence and that violence is much more likely to be at the hands of other men.
Most often on this forum, we discuss violence, particularly rape, of men against women. It's rare that we talk about violence against men, except as an aside.
I'm posting this to hopefully start some conversations about what it is that makes boys and men more violent and how we can stop the damage that violence does to men and boys.