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When someone dies and leaves something to someone you don't think they ought to of, feelings can get hurt, but this thread isn't about that--not at all ... people have the right (for the most part) to leave what they want to who they want...and I'm okay with that.
It's not that uncommon at all for a spouse to leave their house to their surviving wife (or husband) if the house wasn't jointly owned, but if it's a second marriage and there is only one owner, the deceased, the house is far more likely to go to the kids of the deceased, leaving the surviving spouse to find his or her own way. This is generally not the case (at least not nearly as often) if the survivor was a parent (as opposed to being a step-parent).
So, if your spouse is about to pass and you want to stay in the house only your spouse owns, and if kids are involved, your chances of staying go way (way) down if you are a step-parent. If you are a parent, then your chances doesn't diminish nearly as much.
Now, this isn't an observation born of materialism, and I understand the concept of blood being thicker than water, and besides, even the spouse (if it's a first marriage with kids) will often keep the house despite the kids, so it's not solely a bloodline issue.
Recap: The spouse will often come first in terms of who gets the house unless, like I said, the kids don't have a bloodline to the survivor; moreover, the house would often be left to the other parent if there is a bloodline between the surviving spouse and kids but not to a step-parent--no matter how long the second marriage lasted.
Yes, I realize parents love their kids, but that doesn't quite fly as an explanation since there is a very good chance the house would be left to the parent of the kids...but not a step-parent. See, in both cases, the parent loves their child, but in one case (the case of a spouse being a parent), the parent gets the house more often than not despite this love that is spoken of.
It's not that uncommon at all for a spouse to leave their house to their surviving wife (or husband) if the house wasn't jointly owned, but if it's a second marriage and there is only one owner, the deceased, the house is far more likely to go to the kids of the deceased, leaving the surviving spouse to find his or her own way. This is generally not the case (at least not nearly as often) if the survivor was a parent (as opposed to being a step-parent).
So, if your spouse is about to pass and you want to stay in the house only your spouse owns, and if kids are involved, your chances of staying go way (way) down if you are a step-parent. If you are a parent, then your chances doesn't diminish nearly as much.
Now, this isn't an observation born of materialism, and I understand the concept of blood being thicker than water, and besides, even the spouse (if it's a first marriage with kids) will often keep the house despite the kids, so it's not solely a bloodline issue.
Recap: The spouse will often come first in terms of who gets the house unless, like I said, the kids don't have a bloodline to the survivor; moreover, the house would often be left to the other parent if there is a bloodline between the surviving spouse and kids but not to a step-parent--no matter how long the second marriage lasted.
Yes, I realize parents love their kids, but that doesn't quite fly as an explanation since there is a very good chance the house would be left to the parent of the kids...but not a step-parent. See, in both cases, the parent loves their child, but in one case (the case of a spouse being a parent), the parent gets the house more often than not despite this love that is spoken of.