Um what does having to be naked have to do with being objectified? I can be in a room with naked people and not want to have sex with them and do the business we were in the room to do. Did she know that it was a basically a swingers club, or did she think that it was actually just yoga without clothes?
This is the way the world works. Hot people generally don't explain to not-hot people why they're not welcome. Sexual attractiveness is a form of power. Powrful people flaunting their power is not cool in lefty circles.
I guess I don't understand what this has to do with politics or being "hot". From my reading of this scenario a woman was invited to participate in yoga, and was purposely not told it was a swingers club. She chose to leave when she found out. For some reason, people followed her out and convinced her to come back and then felt burdened by her. Why did they ask her to come back? That is the more interesting question.
But still this has nothing to do with "hotness" or "social justice". For whatever reason it sounds like she was not informed that it was a swingers club, but thought it was yoga without clothes.
But still, anybody being upset about being objectified is a fucking idiot.
I don't agree. People get tired of it because the people doing the objectifying have an agenda and frankly are wasting other people's time. We got shit to do and don't need to constantly be bothered by people trying to use our bodies -- or feigning interest in hopes of bedding us. - Yes, I am male and I get tired of being objectified by both men and women. In these situations I think to myself, "Thank you, but I really just want to get groceries and go home. I am not here to have you ask me a thousand little questions. Please GO AWAY."
The result was predictable. She gets really upset and feels bad. Storms out. Well... nobody will be in the mood for sex after this.
Of course. I would do the same thing, and the hell with what the other snowflakes think. Unless they stated up front that they were planning on having sex afterwards she has every right to storm out. I would have too.
Hmm.... if you've got problems with people staring at you, you should perhaps not walk around naked. In this case, it wasn't even true. It was all just in her head. She was just outside her comfort zone. Which is cool. But when you do stuff outside your comfort zone, it's appreciated if you don't make it everybody elses problem. It's not the job of cool people to take care of uncool people. It's just not. It's nice if they do.
Staring? It's very uncomfortable being stared at in general, but especially as a piece of meat for someone's sexual desires. If I went to a naked yoga group I would expect that people were comfortable enough with the human body not to stare and to get on with the business at hand: yoga. Personally, I am around athletic women who routinely undress around me, and I undress around them. I do not stare, they do not stare. That would be very uncomfortable. We don't comment on somebody's body unless there is a horrible scar or bruise. We are comfortable and trust one another. This is why I am not sure about your criticism for this lady "being outside her comfort zone". There is being around people who are comfortable with nakedness and then there is being stared at and lusted over as "fresh meat" for a swingers club. By your words you are proving the points people make about objectification. The yoga was not about being in a room with other yoga enthusiasts, but appears to be a cover for a swingers club. If nobody had told she would expect a sexual motivation for the group, I don't blame her for feeling uncomfortable and leaving.
So some of us ran out after her to comfort her. Telling her that everything will be fine and talking her down. She returns and the naked yoga turns into try-not-to-look-yoga. Which in that situation makes it suck. As far as the yoga goes naked yoga sucks. There'es just no reason to do it other than to oggle sexy bodies and have sex afterwards. It's got precious little to do with yoga.
So it is sex yoga, not naked yoga. I see this as a problem of miscommunication rather than social justice.
Nope. It's a cultural thing. We always need to give people a social acceptable out. Few people are comfortable about going to a group sex party when it's stated that way. It's more likely to call it a "flirty" party or something and write "what happens happens". That way people can pretend that they didn't know it was a group sex party and can back out even though we all knew it was. Especially very sexy people need this. They're constantly badgered by people who want to fuck them. So they don't respond well to being "locked in" to a committment.
That sounds very manipulative. The group hides its purpose and get upset when someone doesn't want to participate. i can't blame her if nobody told her she was entering a such a "party" and then decided to leave because she was being stared at in a sexual way. My big burning question is still, if you knew she didn't want to be there, why did you convince her to come back? She wasn't interested in the sex and that appears to be the ulterior purpose of the group. Was the group trying to save face? Was it so they could hide their true nature? Did they want to convince her to have sex with her?
This all sounds very manipulative.
And what does this have to do with Social Justice? It sounds like the group was upset by her rejection, not by some underlying social philosophy.
This might sound illogical. It's just culture. This is how it works. Not hard to learn if you're in these circles.
But it sounds like she wasn't into that culture and didn't want to be in those circles.
Another situation. This has happened several times. I'm hot for a girl. I direct my wingman onto her not-as-sexy friend. The friend starts a scene about some bullshit. Obviously she's just unhappy about not being as hot as her friend, and tries to turn that into something about objectification of women.
I don't understand. How is it obvious she is insecure about her looks? There could be a million other reasons. I doubt you are a mind reader.
That's true. But a good friend doesn't cock block her girlfriend. That's just a fact. Social Justice Warriors are typicallly just greedy and cunty, in all ways in life.
That's more of an issue between her and her friend. This doesn't sound like any Social Justice issue. What is informative is that the name calling in the post above supports their narrative. By these statements, you appear to have been out looking for a sex partner and her friend picked up on this. Not knowing if there was alcohol involved, but her friend may have been doing her a service (not to say that you deserved it). In my city we have predators that show up at the bar at closing time to convince intoxicated women to go home with them. It usually takes a friend or a regular to cock block and wisk her away. He can give her contact information and she can call him in the morning.
I've been to Burning Man parties. In brain storming/planing sessions ideas are thrown in. If there's a Social Justice Warrior (tm) present she's going to get offended by something. And the meeting leads to nothing but discussing gender theory. This particular one I'm thining of was organising the central dance floor tent. Well done managing to insert gender politics into a fucking dance floor.
Another one. MMA training. Girl whines about not being as strong as the guys, and wants them to not hit her hard. Well... duh. Just pick sparring partners that are on your level, rather than the guy you're the most hot for. And what's the point sparring with someone who pulls their punches?
I've like a million recent events to draw from. This happens a lot more often than I even realised myself.
Wait, wait, wait...these are all women. Are you sure you are not confusing social justice for feminism? (and in the case of the MMA woman just making a bad decision above her level? -- I see this in derby all the time. It's a normal thing for novice athletes to do and not social justice. )
Yes, these are all women. It's just a fact.
I find this very odd, because I meet a lot of men who would be considered Social Justice Warriors. Many of your incidents revolve around personal sexual situations. I'm not seeing any real social justice issues being raised. The Burning Man example is the closest to social justice issues, but I would expect that from that crowd just like I would expect to talk about Jesus in a Christian group.