It's like playing Russian roulette with 5 bullets in each gun, and winning thousands of times in a row. One small change, one instance of a different sperm from one of your ancestors making it to the egg first, and you would not be here at all--assuming the ordinary view is correct. From your perspective, that means something grossly improbable has occurred, and it is improbable for an improbable thing to occur.
Just jumping in without having read the thread through....hope that's ok.
Wouldn't it be better to say (and apologies if I've missed anyone saying it) that you would be right if there was just one gun, but since there's....I dunno....billions of guns, the probability is very high indeed that one of them will fire blank thousands of times in a row?
Russian roulette is played by spinning the drum of a revolver pistol and letting the arbitrary way it lines up with with the barrel dictate whether a bullet is fired or not. It's not the particular quality of any gun that makes a difference, but the effectively random orientation of the drum each time it is spun. In other words, any functional revolver has the same odds of firing a bullet into your head after you spin the drum, so it doesn't matter if you play with one gun or every gun.
My bottom line I suppose is, having perused the OP and some of the posts..........what exactly is the 'problem' that you are trying to solve? Open, genuine question. Not being cheeky or assuming there's no problem. No need for you to explain it to one lazy latecomer either unless you are inclined.
There are several problems with the ordinary view of personal identity.
I would describe the ordinary view as follows: after billions of years of being completely absent from reality, you began to exist when a local region of matter and energy configured itself into a particular pattern, the human being that was born on your birthday. Only the birth of this specific organism could have brought you into existence; if it had been different in any way, no matter how slight, the resulting organism would have been someone else and not you. Your existence was therefore tied in a necessary and sufficient way to a unique physical event that could have gone many other ways than how it actually did. During the period in which your brain is producing electrical activity, you will carry out your life as a conscious individual. When there is no longer any energy left to sustain the electrical activity, you will vanish from reality forever.
Here are the questions raised by this view.
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Why was that particular configuration of matter and energy sufficient to bring you into existence? It is logically conceivable that the whole universe could have chugged along exactly as it has, with someone matching your exact physical description being born of your mother on your birthday, while you would not
be that someone. This is not controversial; in just the same way, if you had an identical twin that died in childbirth, you could imagine what the situation would be like if YOU were the twin that died instead of the one that survived. Assuming there is no substantial difference between the twins as newborns, that twin would now be doing exactly what you are doing, thinking what you are thinking, married to whoever you are married to, but you would not exist at all. So, the fact that something exists and satisfies the genetic/biographical specifications for what you consider to be your body does not really explain why
you are that body, when logically you could have been nobody at all.
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Why was that particular configuration of matter and energy necessary to bring you into existence? Because the ordinary view ties your emergence in the universe to a ridiculously narrow set of contingencies (namely, a certain sperm and no other had to make it from the testis of
every single one of your male ancestors to the eggs of all your female ancestors), small changes to the way things happened are not admitted. In other words, if a different sperm, identical in every way to the one that made you except for some junk DNA, had fertilized your mother's egg, the person born 9 months later would be someone else and not you. As before, despite the life of this person probably looking exactly like yours from the outside, their experiences would not be yours, and you would just be blank for all eternity. For some reason that cannot be explained, only the lineage of sperms that actually made it through your maternal lineage could have resulted in you coming to be.
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If the same physical events that caused your existence were to happen again, would you exist in the result of those events? The ordinary view says your experiences are the ones that happen to the
object that is you, the entity with all the physical qualities we have been discussing. Experience is indivisible; either you are having it or not. Yet, physical objects are highly divisible. So, if the configuration of particles that has everything it takes to be you were to be duplicated, which of the duplicates would you be? Both? Neither? These and similar problems have been analyzed by philosophers with thought experiments about Star Trek-style teleportation, brain bisection (it is possible to survive with only one brain hemisphere), and parallel worlds.
Joe Kern has a particularly effective analogy: imagine a huge factory full of exact clones of the gametes that formed your embryo, kept frozen in storage. There could be millions of them. Any one of them, when implanted in a surrogate mother, will cause the birth of someone with your exact DNA. Suppose, in fact, that this is the actual story of how you were born; one of the frozen pairs of gametes was thawed, fused, and implanted in your mother, and here you are. Under the ordinary view, only THAT EXACT PAIR would have brought you into existence. Just one out of the millions of copies of gametes would have made you, and none of the others. For, if several pairs were thawed, fused, and implanted, it would result in the birth of people you would regard as twins. If EVERY pair were implanted and carried to term, you would still regard yourself as
just one of the millions of identical bodies. There is no physical fact that could determine which one of these--if any! (see question #1)--would turn out to be you, or why.
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Why is your future so free to vary if your past had to be so fixed? By now, it should be clear that the regular view of personal identity requires a lot of things to have happened in an astonishingly specific way for you to be born. Yet, after your birth, for some reason there is no limit to the kinds of changes you might undergo, as long as they don't stop the electrical activity of your brain. If you had been kidnapped as a child by a band of pirates and raised on the high seas, your entire personality, body, and life history would be drastically different from what it is today, but it wouldn't be the case that the "original" you had died and been replaced by a different person. You would just
be the person who was raised by pirates. If your memory were wiped tomorrow and you woke up in a UFO with total amnesia, it would be a lousy morning, but it would be a lousy morning
for you, even if you had no mental continuity with who you are today. As long as you're alive, there seems to be no restriction at all on the types of transformations that could have happened, in each case preserving your subjective identity. There is no way to explain why this is only true now, when before you were born everything had to be molecule-specific.
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What would your evening be like if you temporarily severed the connection between your brain's hemispheres and listened to classical music through one ear and a boring lecture through the other? This is a specific thought experiment created by Arnold Zuboff. We already know that a single hemisphere of a brain is sufficient to preserve consciousness, as people have lost functionality in large parts of their brain due to e.g. stroke. So, if you had just half of your brain, you would still exist "in" that half, and it wouldn't matter if it was the right half or the left. We also know that the connection between the two hemispheres can be severed in order to treat seizures in people with epilepsy. The result of this operation has been well-documented; when exposed to contrary stimuli, the body parts of the patient corresponding to each hemisphere act independently and answer questions differently.
A sidenote here is that the ordinary view has no way of saying whether such patients are actually two distinct people, and furthermore which half of their brain (if either) is the same person as they were before the operation.
But if, as the thought experiment goes, you could press a button to temporarily anesthetize the connection between your brain hemispheres, and with two earbuds play classical music in one ear (which would be processed by one hemisphere alone) and a boring lecture in the other (processed by the other hemisphere), what kind of experience would you have? You wouldn't hear both clashing simultaneously, because there would be no integration between the hemispheres. Yet, when the anesthesia wore off and the connection was restored, you would remember both experiences equally well. Again, assigning one "self" to a specific brain/body combination admits no strategy to resolving any of the questions that arise: how many persons were there before, during, and after the split? can you track the person that was "you" all the way through, or did it cease to exist somewhere along the way? if you can remember having both experiences as if they were equally yours, doesn't that mean you were in two places at once? and so on.
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To answer any of these or other questions about what you are and which experiences belong to you, the ordinary view gradually but inevitably converges toward invoking Cartesian souls and other such nonsense. It is simply not up to the task of rationally and consistently assigning "selves" to bodies without leading to contradictory or absurd conclusions.