Pronouns have always been about sex in animals.
That is untrue. Pronouns have been about the perceived sex of animals.
It's sometimes true that humans don't really know the sex or anatomy of animals they are not familiar with, and therefore they mis-sex some animals.
In human animals, that can mean gender.
I am unable to
perceive most biological males as female just because those males have thoughts in their head of being female, or even when they dress in a way more typical of women than men. I'm not doing this to be mean or nasty.
So? If someone knows that person X displays or thinks of themself as a particular gender, it is polite or thoughtful act to acknowledge that.
Why is it polite or thoughtful to acknowledge their gender, and even if it were, why do you believe that pronouns refer to gender and not sex?
I don't. Pronouns can refer to either. Again, this is not rocket science no matter how hard you wish to make it.
I have never ever enquired about somebody's gender. It has never crossed my mind what thoughts are in a person's head about their own personality. Was I being rude my whole life by not asking about somebody's thoughts about their 'gender'?
Wow, the level obtuseness in that reaction is truly amazing.
Is it mean to act otherwise? If someone deliberately misgenders a person, in my view, it is, at a minimum, a thoughtless gesture.
I think that treating gender as if it were sex--something that appears to be necessary in order to not 'misgender' some people, is a far greater problem.
That is non-responsive unless you are saying that "greater problem" justifies thoughtless or outright meanness. Frankly I find that rationale unpersuasive and a pathetic defense for thoughtlessness and meanness.
Really, this is not rocket science.
There is no need to misrepresent history to make your argument. In fact, misrepresenting reality allows people to more readily dismiss it.
I am not misrepresenting history. 'Gender' was not a term even applied to humans until (as far as I know) the 1960s. Before the 1960s, pronouns must have been referring to sex (or perceived sex, if you insist).
Nonsense. Throughout history there have been people who have passed themselves off as members of the opposite sex.
They may well have, but what of it? That people have been mistaken about somebody's sex does not mean that pronouns do not, or did not, refer to sex.
For some obscure reason, you are unable to parse the notion that a pronoun can refer to sex or gender.
And if one thinks about it, if one is perceiving person X as a woman, one is likely perceiving the gender if not also the sex.
Really, this is not rocket science no matter how hard one tries to make it.
I have no idea what the gender of a person I'm looking at is, or whether they even have a gender. Why, if gender is something separate to sex, should I refer to somebody's gender and not their sex?
When you see someone who appears for all purposes to be female, then you certainly have an idea of that person's gender and their sex.
When you see someone who appears for all purposes to be male, then you certainly have an idea of that person's gender and their sex.
Again, this is not rocket science.
If you see someone who appears for all purposes to be a female, and that you know is male, and who you know identifies as female, and you use male pronouns to address that person, either you are thoughtless or an ass.
Again, that is not rocket science, no matter how hard you wish to make it.