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'Violated, Sick, Uncomfortable': 10 Women On Being Sent Unsolicited Dick Pics
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Toni
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I suppose it depends on the guy. I’ve seen some totally lose their shit at the smallest suggestion some guy was hitting on them. And then there is the whole competition thing guys seem to have going.
ruby sparks
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Being the same sex as the sender makes a difference. Men's potential reaction, whatever it would be, is largely beside the point. We could better say that if men had lived a life as a woman, they would mind, or many of them would, by far the majority when the pics are unsolicited or not from a partner.
And it is not an unreasonable reaction at all, imo.
And even setting that aside, I would not be surprised if some straight men minded getting dick pics. A lot of guys would feel threatened to think that a gay person is hitting on them, yes. But even then, most men (except perhaps men in prison) are not facing the same risks as women, because they are not fearing to be also assaulted. The rate of sexual assaults on men in prison is on a par with if not exceeding rates of assault on women in the outside world, so we can see how fear of assault could factor in for men if the contexts were similar.
A better analogy might be men receiving pussy pics. But even that is different, because men treat sex differently to women, generally, for a variety of reasons, to do with both nature and nurture. Men are generally 'ready' to have sex with women, if asked. Women are not similarly inclined in the other direction. I think many men who send dick pics don't get this.
And it is not an unreasonable reaction at all, imo.
And even setting that aside, I would not be surprised if some straight men minded getting dick pics. A lot of guys would feel threatened to think that a gay person is hitting on them, yes. But even then, most men (except perhaps men in prison) are not facing the same risks as women, because they are not fearing to be also assaulted. The rate of sexual assaults on men in prison is on a par with if not exceeding rates of assault on women in the outside world, so we can see how fear of assault could factor in for men if the contexts were similar.
A better analogy might be men receiving pussy pics. But even that is different, because men treat sex differently to women, generally, for a variety of reasons, to do with both nature and nurture. Men are generally 'ready' to have sex with women, if asked. Women are not similarly inclined in the other direction. I think many men who send dick pics don't get this.
Axulus
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I don't have any experience with Airdrop. How do the guys sending the dick pics know which phone belongs to their target? Does it show a picture of her on the selection screen or something?
ruby sparks
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Derec, in addition to what I said just now in my post above, I can agree with you that sometimes, the term sexual harassment can be overapplied, and possibly in a small number of cases cited for the wrong, mistaken, irrational reasons or in a very small proportion of cases malicious reasons, but not in this general case. Yes, it may arguably not be as serious as other forms of harassment, especially if the sender does not repeatedly send pics to the same person, but at the same time I think it is still valid to call it sexual harassment, by and large, or at least potentially alarming nuisance, partly because of the prevalence and the imo valid fear that the person sending it might possibly have more serious ill intent (which the receiver can't know).
If you want to call it a relatively mild form of that compared to others (such as overhearing a dirty joke for instance, which in many cases clearly wouldn't even be harassment imo even if it might in some, depending) that might be better, imo, because seeing a mystery dick pic is more tangible and aimed at you personally than for instance hearing something said which is not necessarily about you, and it carries a potential risk that something more serious could occur, even if it's not physical assault (some form of stalking, following or pestering for instance). We have seen how some women can attract this even just by walking down the street.
I'm not suggesting it should be a crime, but if it happened in, for example, a workplace, and was sent by a co-worker, I think it should definitely be reportable to those in charge. It should be reportable in any instance, actually, but not necessarily treated as a crime, imo, unless it was part of a pattern of harassment towards a particular person by another or others or crossed a reasonable or legal threshold in some way.
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Yeah, that would be a good response. Or tubgirl for that matter.
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