I thought true masculinity was being able to reach the top shelf.
It's moving heavy things, actually. We just use step stools now. Liberation and all that.
I would think that most men don't need to rethink their on the job behavior, because most men are well behaved at work.
Indeed. Yet some seek to define men and "male culture" by the negative that some men do. We shouldn't do that to any gender, race, etc. We shouldn't have to even write that.
This feels like a restatement of the old saw that "All that is necessary for extremists to flourish is for good moderates to acquiesce and do nothing". Even "well behaved" men don't necessarily try to change the macho bullshit misogyny that is everywhere.
Yes, I would agree that is a very relevant quote to this thread.
Even "well behaved" men don't necessarily try to change the macho bullshit misogyny that is everywhere.
True. But that doesn't mean we should call macho bullshit misogyny "male culture" anymore than we should call inner city gangsta violence or single motherhood "black culture".
No, male culture would be the fact that macho bullshit misogyny is allowed and accepted. This has been explained six ways to sunday for you. It's the soup you live in that allows for you to luxuriate in not really having to think about problems that millions of people face.
You yourself may be gentle as a kitten in your treatment others, but
if you wanted to be a macho bullshit misogynist, you're free to be a macho bullshit misogynist with little consequence. At least, any consequences would not likely affect anything important in your life.
You have to be fairly extreme in your macho bullshit misogynist behaviors to suffer backlash that affects your livelihood, kids, security, reputation, health, and - one that makes your obliviousness so much more valuable to violent predators - the loss of a support network.
For numerous women, all it takes is
getting attacked by a man to experience such consequences.
It's true that this is changing and creeps are getting #metoo'd left and right, as it should be, but this is just a drop in the bucket of accountability that's due.
As for those inner city single moms? That's not black culture. That's a product of both male and white privilege culture. So is the gangsta violence.
They are all your tribe, like it or not. Stop ignoring and demonizing them.